The Experience Of Being Complete

[CARDOZZO]

The experience of being complete is one of the most appreciated things for humans but they don't talk about it in a clear form. I really want to know what are your perspectives on being complete, how to do it, practices, processes, ideas, considerations.

• Do you feel complete?
• Do you feel like you are already complete on the being, doing and having dimensions?
• Do you feel like you need fixing?
• Why do you need to fix yourself?
• Are you broken?
• Why exactly are you broken?

Edited December 23, 2025 by CARDOZZO

[Someone here]

On 23/12/2025 at 5:55 PM, CARDOZZO said:

Do you feel complete?

Do you feel like you are already complete on the being, doing and having dimensions?

Mixing relative with absolute.  True completion only belongs to the totality or all that there is ..not to mere mortal finite human beings . If you are still alive as a human means you identify with the human body more or less ..Which means you have constant needs at the physical level..and as long as that is the case there is no completion for a human in the absolute perspective .

Regarding practical life ..I'm not sure I'd say I feel complete on doing and having .life is still ahead of me ..there are so much experiences to have and adventures and exploring to have ..while keeping in mind that none of that is gonna get me closer to who I am than what I am already now.

You can set a goal to be a millionaire after a decade and work hard towards  it every day while all the time remembering that you are already complete and you don't need anything from the outside world .

Edited December 30, 2025 by Someone here

[CARDOZZO]

The question is: How can you relate to life in a fulfilled way? How can you navigate life as a non-needy human? 

Imagine you love yourself infinitely. How do you relate to life and survival? Which human goals would you pursue? 

Edited January 2 by CARDOZZO

[theleelajoker]

16 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

The question is: How can you relate to life in a fulfilled way? How can you navigate life as a non-needy human? 

Imagine you love yourself infinitely. How do you relate to life and survival? Which human goals would you pursue? 

Good questions.  Wondered about this a lot myself. 

Maybe good to start small. You probably know if Ikigai? The ten rules are a good start, but it's not the main point I want to make. I once talked to a half-Japanese woman, and she said that in her view, we make it often "too big". All about life purpose, long term etc. She said she uses it is more short-term, something simple like "what gets me out of bed today?"

Another idea from a friend. "If I don't know where to start, I start with my body" --> look how you feel and then see what thoughts and desires for  actions comes up once you do that. 

 

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• Do you feel complete? 
• Do you feel like you are already complete on the being, doing and having dimensions?
• Do you feel like you need fixing?
• Why do you need to fix yourself?
• Are you broken?
• Why exactly are you broken?

Short: No I don't feel complete on a consistent basis. Because I sometimes have thoughts of lacking something + plus my action, thoughts and feelings are not always aligned, so I sometimes have inner conflict. 

[CARDOZZO]

4 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

Good questions.  Wondered about this a lot myself. 

Maybe good to start small. You probably know if Ikigai? The ten rules are a good start, but it's not the main point I want to make. I once talked to a half-Japanese woman, and she said that in her view, we make it often "too big". All about life purpose, long term etc. She said she uses it is more short-term, something simple like "what gets me out of bed today?"

Another idea from a friend. "If I don't know where to start, I start with my body" --> look how you feel and then see what thoughts and desires for  actions comes up once you do that. 

 

Short: No I don't feel complete on a consistent basis. Because I sometimes have thoughts of lacking something + plus my action, thoughts and feelings are not always aligned, so I sometimes have inner conflict. 

Sure.

The challenge here is to create a subjective/objective experience where IT IS POSSIBLE FOR YOURSELF to become complete, happy, stop unnecessary suffering, drop social comparison, value, meaning, language.

[Davino]

@CARDOZZO Super good questioning, keep going in this line because at the end there's gold I assure you.

In my personal life, I haven't truly started feeling complete till establishing myself in stage 'turquoise' but what does that mean? It means that when the integration of your psyche is complete, you transition into holism. From this standpoint, it's from completion to more completion, or from holon to a bigger holon of yourself, like a complete sphere that adds layer to itself, or a sphere that subdivides into 4, grows at the same size and combines those for into a new sphere or holon, to repeat this process as infinitum. Sorry if it's too abstract, it's hard to transmit what I mean.

On the topic of being broken, I have struggled with that as well. Certainly some parts of us do feel like that. What I have learnt is that, this process at higher stages happens out of self love and in lowers out of self-hatred. In lower stages, we deny parts of ourselves, the ones that we see we doubt and hate. At higher stages, we are aware of all ourselves, we love all of our selves unconditionally and we just tidy the room, everything has its place and time. What then is seen in retrospective is that as we are continuously evolving, what now requires fixing, a decade ago was the point of the arrow in our development and that this is the process of evolving and it will continue forever and it's beautiful and love-worthy brother.

And yes, there are days where it's rainy and dose days I feel fragmented, stormy, lost, bad. So you have to take care of yourself, apply extra love, pet yourself so to speak, leak your wounds and shine the light of your consciousness to every corner of your mind and body, not allowing your ego to distract (although you'll fail as well and lovingly, again you will seat in the light of loving awareness)

Please ask me anything you want.

Sending you lots of love and completeness my beloved CARDOZZO. Btw, love your profile pic, Alex Grey right?

[CARDOZZO]

2 hours ago, Davino said:

@CARDOZZO Super good questioning, keep going in this line because at the end there's gold I assure you.

In my personal life, I haven't truly started feeling complete till establishing myself in stage 'turquoise' but what does that mean? It means that when the integration of your psyche is complete, you transition into holism. From this standpoint, it's from completion to more completion, or from holon to a bigger holon of yourself, like a complete sphere that adds layer to itself, or a sphere that subdivides into 4, grows at the same size and combines those for into a new sphere or holon, to repeat this process as infinitum. Sorry if it's too abstract, it's hard to transmit what I mean.

On the topic of being broken, I have struggled with that as well. Certainly some parts of us do feel like that. What I have learnt is that, this process at higher stages happens out of self love and in lowers out of self-hatred. In lower stages, we deny parts of ourselves, the ones that we see we doubt and hate. At higher stages, we are aware of all ourselves, we love all of our selves unconditionally and we just tidy the room, everything has its place and time. What then is seen in retrospective is that as we are continuously evolving, what now requires fixing, a decade ago was the point of the arrow in our development and that this is the process of evolving and it will continue forever and it's beautiful and love-worthy brother.

And yes, there are days where it's rainy and dose days I feel fragmented, stormy, lost, bad. So you have to take care of yourself, apply extra love, pet yourself so to speak, leak your wounds and shine the light of your consciousness to every corner of your mind and body, not allowing your ego to distract (although you'll fail as well and lovingly, again you will seat in the light of loving awareness)

Please ask me anything you want.

Sending you lots of love and completeness my beloved CARDOZZO. Btw, love your profile pic, Alex Grey right?

Thanks bro. I'm doing progress on this matter. I agree with your insights. 

I made a breakthrough these days. You have to get how you are creating in YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE what others are thinking about you. This matter about feeling incomplete or not enough is only because value, meaning, hierarchy and comparison exists. It is a social engineered reality to make you EXIST on a social world. BUT GUESS WHAT? You don't need to create it in your own experience. 

You can be free of the entire paradigm. You just have to understand how it exists in your experience and STOP IT. They are made of feelings, language, ideas, sensations and relationships with OTHER HUMANS.

The art is made by Alex Grey. He is great!!!  

Edited Tuesday at 12:15 AM by CARDOZZO

[Joseph Maynor]

I've been reflecting on this recently too.  Is there a duality between Is vs. Ought?  In other words -- between acceptance, and striving to align with some ideal?

[CARDOZZO]

8 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I've been reflecting on this recently too.  Is there a duality between Is vs. Ought?  In other words -- between acceptance, and striving to align with some ideal?

Sure. Is x Isn't is one of the central points to suffering. Suffering is a relationship between two/more distinctions. 

 

[CARDOZZO]

 

[Ramasta9]

How do you feel when you are totally present and aware, resting in being? Is there anything to fix or seek or work on?

In complete stillness the whole universe surrenders. When in mind, all else arises again, seeking/fixing/issues ect...

[CARDOZZO]

1 hour ago, Ramasta9 said:

How do you feel when you are totally present and aware, resting in being? Is there anything to fix or seek or work on?

In complete stillness the whole universe surrenders. When in mind, all else arises again, seeking/fixing/issues ect...

The thing is: how do you make "completion" a permanent state?

[Joseph Maynor]

I would say yes and no.  On the one hand, I feel complete, but paradoxically on the other hand, I recognize ways that change could occur that would be good too.  So, I don't see a brite-line conflict between Is and Ought.  In other words, you can both Accept and have Intention to Change.  

[Ramasta9]

9 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

The thing is: how do you make "completion" a permanent state?

Mastering the art of being present permanently? I mean that's the whole process of enlightenment, its a life process. If we can find how to always remain present, then regardless of the process, ups and downs, changes, this and that, we remain the same, the never changing, unwavering.

This is what great masters speak of and some like Buddha and Christ were truly established within, that most people only glimpse. 

Keep at it, practice eventually turns into play, and playfulness is perfection  

Edited yesterday at 12:46 AM by Ramasta9

[CARDOZZO]

20 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I would say yes and no.  On the one hand, I feel complete, but paradoxically on the other hand, I recognize ways that change could occur that would be good too.  So, I don't see a brite-line conflict between Is and Ought.  In other words, you can both Accept and have Intention to Change.  

Sure. How do we make "change" based on love/acceptance? 

Generally, humans want to change because they are suffering. The root cause of their need to change is suffering, hurt, moving away from pain.

[CARDOZZO]

13 hours ago, Ramasta9 said:

Mastering the art of being present permanently? I mean that's the whole process of enlightenment, its a life process. If we can find how to always remain present, then regardless of the process, ups and downs, changes, this and that, we remain the same, the never changing, unwavering.

This is what great masters speak of and some like Buddha and Christ were truly established within, that most people only glimpse. 

Keep at it, practice eventually turns into play, and playfulness is perfection  

I don't know if being present solves the case. Suffering is a conceptual activity. You have to know how to stop suffering and I think that to stop suffering is not the same as being present.

Edited yesterday at 02:05 PM by CARDOZZO

[theleelajoker]

1 hour ago, CARDOZZO said:

I don't know if being present solves the case. Suffering is a conceptual activity. You have to know how to stop suffering and I think that to stop suffering is not the same as being present.

Imagine you suffer, but you are present with it. Whatever causes this suffering, you bring awareness to it. Means you're not avoiding it.

You have a choice, and you pick the option to feel it, it's no longer suffering because literally you choose to feel it, to be aware of it. You expert your free will to experience one thing over another. How can doing what you want be suffering? Impossible. Problem solved.

If you feel now that that's suffering - feeling the thing you made yourself aware of above - ok change your choice to the other option, put your awareness somewhere else. Exerting your free will, you prefer one option over the other. How can doing what you want be suffering? Impossible.You relax because you chooses the option you like most. Problem solved.

Now you might say - I don't like any option. It's all suffering, no matter where I put my attention. But then it's no choice, because it can't be avoided. It's not self generated. It's pain, not suffering.

Enjoy being present😄

Edited yesterday at 03:32 PM by theleelajoker

[CARDOZZO]

32 minutes ago, theleelajoker said:

Imagine you suffer, but you are present with it. Whatever causes this suffering, you bring awareness to it. Means you're not avoiding it.

You have a choice, and you pick the option to feel it, it's no longer suffering because literally you choose to feel it, to be aware of it. You expert your free will to experience one thing over another. How can doing what you want be suffering? Impossible. Problem solved.

If you feel now that that's suffering - feeling the thing that you previously avoided - ok change your choice to the other option, put your awareness somewhere else. Exerting your free will, you prefer one option over the other. How can doing what you want be suffering?You relax because you chooses the option you like most. Problem solved.

Enjoy being present😄

This approach seems much more a way to medicate suffering than to stop it altogether. You want to transcend what is causing suffering itself (context) not what arises from it (content: emotions, sensations, thoughts).

[CARDOZZO]

I'm not tallking about medication or transformation. I'm talking about to transcend, to stop it altogether, to go all in into the roots. I'm talking about having a subjective experience that it is extremely rare where you are not just a human but a new kind of human free from a lot of humanity shit/unnecessary suffering.

[CARDOZZO]

It is about letting go/transcend. I'm not trying to change. I just want to not have it in the first place.

Edited yesterday at 03:40 PM by CARDOZZO