Why Second Hand Experience Is Making You Angry?

[CARDOZZO]

Online dating advice and redpill ideology are skewing people’s minds. The danger of lacking real-life sexual experiences is that you end up learning about dating and relationships through second-hand information.

If you ask a Red Pill or MGTOW follower:

How many times has a woman cheated on you? 

You might be surprised to find that many of these men base their negative views of women on hearsay rather than personal experience.

They have no direct evidence to support the beliefs they accept as truth, just groupthink and conformity.

Go outside, touch some grass and live your own sexual adventures.

Edited 11 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Sugarcoat]

And also even if you gain your own decent amount of experience you can still have significant amount of bad experience and wonder what’s wrong with the opposite sex and base your world view on your narrow experience..

But without realizing there’s a correlation between the kind of person you are and what you attract and who you connect with. So you need to evolve yourself, know yourself deeper which will develop your discernment of people and you’ll be in a better place to attract better partners…

[CARDOZZO]

13 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

And also even if you gain your own decent amount of experience you can still have significant amount of bad experience and wonder what’s wrong with the opposite sex and base your world view on your narrow experience..

But without realizing there’s a correlation between the kind of person you are and what you attract and who you connect with. So you need to evolve yourself, know yourself deeper which will develop your discernment of people and you’ll be in a better place to attract better partners…

Sure, this is a great complementary view.

If you are really connected to your life, passions, hobbies and people that you respect, you will be fine.

Fixation on making sex with hundreds of woman is not a healthy pursuit. 

Knowing your values, building a rich life, doing what excites yourself, going on adventures - this is really cool.

When you make your life all about woman/sex, sooner or later you'll discover a unbelievable pain in your soul.

[Sugarcoat]

2 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

Sure, this is a great complementary view.

If you are really connected to your life, passions, hobbies and people that you respect, you will be fine.

Fixation on making sex with hundreds of woman is not a healthy pursuit. 

Knowing your values, building a rich life, doing what excites yourself, going on adventures - this is really cool.

When you make your life all about woman/sex, sooner or later you'll discover an unbelievable pain in your soul.

Yea there’s a middle ground to it. We shouldn’t deny our desires but also recognize when it’s gone too far to one extreme end..

[CARDOZZO]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

Yea there’s a middle ground to it. We shouldn’t deny our desires but also recognize when it’s gone too far to one extreme end..

😉

Addiction comes from not-knowing what you want, what you are, what you really love, how you want to spend your time, who you really admire.

Pleasure becomes a kind of anesthesia.

[Schizophonia]

People reflect their social circumstances.; this is one of the things I am currently learning from Marxists/structuralists that is distancing me from psychoanalysis.

If you tell someone especially when they are young and highly neuroplastic that they are a shit their will act as a shit.

 

Edited 10 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Schizophonia said:

People adapt to their social circumstances.

If you tell someone especially when they are young and highly neuroplastic that they are a shit their will act as a shit.

 

The only solution on an individual level is mental dieting.

 

The solution on a collective level is social policies because, as I said in another thread, being sociable requires money and time.

[CARDOZZO]

32 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

People adapt to their social circumstances.

If you tell someone especially when they are young and highly neuroplastic that they are a shit their will act as a shit.

 

Critical thinking is a essential skill to learn. Are they making questions? 

[CARDOZZO]

31 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

being sociable requires money and time.

If you are doing what PUAs call daygame, you do not need money to ask for a girls number. 

Of course, time is essential.

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, CARDOZZO said:

Critical thinking is a essential skill to learn. Are they making questions? 

It doesn't matter.

If deep down you believe you're worthless and don't deserve a girlfriend (among other things, of course, we ask ourselves these kinds of questions because we're too privileged to think about money), you can ask yourself as many questions as you want, doubt that it's all wrong, and know what you objectively need to do to improve your well-being, you'll continue to be blackpilled, to ruminate, and your living conditions won't change.

The only thing to do is to eliminate everything that reinforces feelings of powerlessness; that's what non-dualists prescribe, and in fact, most religions do it more or less consciously.

On a collective scale, as I already mentioned earlier, there are social policies.

It's also a problem inherent to capitalism; why do we allow products that reinforce your learned helplessness? Because there are structures (egregors, one might say, from a non-dual perspective) that feed off you; capitalism isn't centered around your survival, your well-being, but on the survival of powerful archetypes/egregors, structures.

 

Non-dual structural-Hegelian-Marxist metaphysics, baby. 👺

[Sugarcoat]

24 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

😉

Addiction comes from not-knowing what you want, what you are, what you really love, how you want to spend your time, who you really admire.

Pleasure becomes a kind of anesthesia.

And addiction in turn makes it harder to know those things because you’re so caught up in the addictive loop . So it’s like circular 

[Schizophonia]

13 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

If you are doing what PUAs call daygame, you do not need money to ask for a girls number. 

Of course, time is essential.

Yes but it never works.

And even if it works out, there's a good chance there'll be nothing more than a date, and even if by some miracle you have sex, is she good enough to be in a relationship? How long will it last?

 

[CARDOZZO]

30 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It doesn't matter.

If deep down you believe you're worthless and don't deserve a girlfriend (among other things, of course, we ask ourselves these kinds of questions because we're too privileged to think about money), you can ask yourself as many questions as you want, doubt that it's all wrong, and know what you objectively need to do to improve your well-being, you'll continue to be blackpilled, to ruminate, and your living conditions won't change.

The only thing to do is to eliminate everything that reinforces feelings of powerlessness; that's what non-dualists prescribe, and in fact, most religions do it more or less consciously.

On a collective scale, as I already mentioned earlier, there are social policies.

It's also a problem inherent to capitalism; why do we allow products that reinforce your learned helplessness? Because there are structures (egregors, one might say, from a non-dual perspective) that feed off you; capitalism isn't centered around your survival, your well-being, but on the survival of powerful archetypes/egregors, structures.

 

Non-dual structural-Hegelian-Marxist metaphysics, baby. 👺

I can't make a global argument to solve dating for everyone.

What I see is that people do not want to conform to effective actions that lead them to get what they want.

Do you want a girlfriend? Stop being stubborn, hit the gym, learn to socialize, go out and stop watching online hateful content. 

[CARDOZZO]

32 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

And addiction in turn makes it harder to know those things because you’re so caught up in the addictive loop . So it’s like circular 

Yeah. You are on a perpetual cycle of self-loathing.

[Schizophonia]

Just now, CARDOZZO said:

I can't make a global argument to solve dating for everyone.

What I see is that people do not want to conform to effective actions that lead them to get what they want.

Do you want a girlfriend? Stop being stubborn, hit the gym, learn to socialize, go out and stop watching online hateful content. 

It would be that simple if there were no unconscious mind.

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

It would be that simple if there were no unconscious mind.

I think if you just want it bad enough you can overcome that. But people rather loathe in their self hatred than give their all to make improvement

[CARDOZZO]

30 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Yes but it never works.

And even if it works out, there's a good chance there'll be nothing more than a date, and even if by some miracle you have sex, is she good enough to be in a relationship? How long will it last?

 

Pessimism is your worst enemy in dating. 

Direct experience is king. If you really want, you will have to pay the price.

[CARDOZZO]

You gotta be delusional. There is no way out. 

 

[CARDOZZO]

If you are a normal man with no money, skills or talent - the #1 skill to develop is delusional self-confidence.

Edited 9 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Zen LaCroix]

Some of these guys are so dillusional they seem to believe that most women are on onlyfans