therapy

[Monster]

Is therapy a waste of time? ive been to a therapist before and i felt hes all up in his head and rambling and felt i wasted my time...

What does a good therapist do to you? Were you traumatized and in what sense? relational, trust, etc.? What did you do and did it help? How long did you go to a therapist?

Edited December 6 by Monster

[Raze]

https://jonathanshedler.substack.com/p/how-to-choose-a-psychotherapist

[Judy2]

i wouldn't dismiss the concept of therapy after trying just one therapist....but it sounds like you intuit this already:)

sometimes it just takes some trial and error. depends a lot on the therapist's unique personality and style, how the two of you vibe, and also the therapist's specific school (cbt, dbt, ifs, etc.).

the length of the therapy depends a lot on your diagnosis as well as your own willingness to proactively tackle the challenges you seek support with.

[Ramasta9]

Depends what you mean by therapy? A therapist is often not the most effective or helpful person, or form of therapy you may even need.

Here is my preferred form of therapy that over-time actually provides lasting results. The forest is for-rest

If you can learn to redevelop your connection and service to nature, you will eventually no longer need therapy.

It all starts with a walk into a forest or a garden project, enliven your living space, and see it enlighten you. 

You may even become therapy to others one day  

 

 

 

 

[Shermaningeorgia]

Therapy is biased and weighted. 

[Shermaningeorgia]

Most nay all therapists are corrupt and lack profvessionalism.

[Shermaningeorgia]

Can therapy work? yes. 

But then it's clear it's a biased and ineffective scheme at the large.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

It depends what type of therapy and what you are attending for.

In most cases I would say it is highly beneficial. It can be difficult finding someone you connect with - which can prevent patients finding help. It does not do to have to 'shop' for a therapist - but like with anything - the message often depends on how it is packaged.

CBT can be hands down fantastic for addressing assumptions and cognitive bias - and this is probably the best type for those with especially high intellect; because the full force of reason and logic stand at the base of beliefs - but the bias (selectively seeing what evidence we want to prove our view) stops us seeing the whole of reality.

An example of cognitive bias 'I am hopeless' could be rooted in shame. Someone was rejected in youth by a group - they walked away with the incorrect belief that they 'bothered' the group. They were not wanted or 'wrong' in some way. This turns into social anxiety and never approaching anyone. Shame. Or developing massive fears around any sort of interaction. This is because the cognitive bias is pointing the sufferer to the wrong meaning by only seeing one set of data from experience. In actuality - the evidence they may miss is that the person they approached was busy on the phone, and did not respond because they were engaged in a serious call. But they do not see this, they just see and feel rejection, and the shame spiral is reinforced. The interesting thing is that this conclusion is actually completely logical - which is why the most intelligent people have the deepest bias. The full force of their intelligence is behind it. It is just the wrong data to be looking at. 

A good CBD therapist can show you the missed data in your experience that you are overlooking.

But this requires honesty with yourself and the therapist. If that is not present - any progress can be difficult.

[Shermaningeorgia]

No, all therapy is trash.