In what way could being transgender be bad?

[BojackHorseman]

6 hours ago, Salvijus said:

I believe embracing both your masculine and feminine nature is a huge upgrade. And also honoring the body for the function it was designed for. It's not your role to perform functions of a biological woman if you're born a biological male and vice versa. Embrace the role nature has given you. 

You're only thinking in termes of function. But what if a woman doesn't want to have children? Is this also "not embracing the role nature has given them"? What about asexual people? Sorry, those are probably not great examples, maybe more of the first one, but I hope you get the idea

[BojackHorseman]

4 hours ago, Salvijus said:

 

I think you'd have more more success trying to heal your HPG axis issues, than trying to change your chromosomes. If you can put your soul into oven and transform it into an entirely different animal, than apply that same philosophy into becoming a healthy male that you were born to be. Afterall you can't escape your masculine nature. We all have the masculine and the feminine inside. Might aswell own it. Embrace your feminine nature but not at the cost of suppressing and mutilating your masculine nature. Let them both shine. Then you'll be a complete human being. 

 

> than apply that same philosophy into becoming a healthy male that you were born to be

I don't think the "healthy" part absolutely needs to go with the "male" part.

> Afterall you can't escape your masculine nature. We all have the masculine and the feminine inside. Might aswell own it. Embrace your feminine nature but not at the cost of suppressing and mutilating your masculine nature. Let them both shine. Then you'll be a complete human being. 

Sorry, I'm repeating myself form another post since I'm answering each of them as I read, but : yes, we do have masculine and feminine. Chosing to be a female or a male doesn't mean you want to let go of everything. There are hyper-feminine women, and some less, with more of masculine side (to simplify). All of it doesn't mean rejecting all of you. It just means, as an artists choses what to show in the frame, and how they chose it to the world, that you make choices in how you feel and display polarities. 

[Hojo]

@Talinn how old are you?

[Talinn]

31 (8)

[Salvijus]

11 hours ago, Talinn said:

I was already having negative psychosomatic symptoms from having a penis at 5 years old , I think I'm good. I don't miss it at all

16 hours ago, Talinn said:

and grimacing every time I look at the male genitalia

I wonder if this self-hatred and the feelings of shame and inadequacy had something to do with the shaping of your philosophy.

Edited Thursday at 10:50 AM by Salvijus

[Salvijus]

7 hours ago, BojackHorseman said:

Except, superficially or spiritually, I'm having trouble being on the masculine frequency. Not saying I'm 100% feeling feminine, but no one is 100% one or the other anyway.

You just don't notice it when you feel like a man because that's your baseline feeling. It's like a fish that never knew what it feels like to be dry because water is the only thing the fish ever knew. And then you got small moments of dryness (feminine nature) and you thought: "wow, what is this new feeling, I feel like a woman, wow!". That one moment of dryness will be more memorable than 20years of sea wetness because it's so different than anything you've experienced before. It can feel like freedom even because you've allowed an expansion of your being, you've allowed what has been suppressed for a long time because of social conditioning aswell. And then your mind wants to make a big deal of what is not a big deal at all. Really you don't give yourself enough credit of how masculine you truly are because it's just your baseline feeling that gets unregistered. 

Edited Thursday at 06:56 AM by Salvijus

[BojackHorseman]

51 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

You just don't notice it when you feel like a man because that's your baseline feeling. It's like a fish that never knew what it feels like to be dry because water is the only thing the fish ever knew. And then you got small moments of dryness (feminine nature) and you thought: "wow, what is this new feeling, I feel like a woman, wow!". That one moment of dryness will be more memorable than 20years of sea wetness because it's so different than anything you've experienced before. It can feel like freedom even because you've allowed an expansion of your being, you've allowed what has been suppressed for a long time because of social conditioning aswell. And then your mind wants to make a big deal of what is not a big deal at all. Really you don't give yourself enough credit of how masculine you truly are because it's just your baseline feeling that gets unregistered. 

This doesn't solve the whole problem to me, but you do make a solid point with your fish analogy here.

Gonna sit later on and think about how many so-called masculine qualities I actually own instinctively on a daily basis compared to feminine ones.

[Salvijus]

10 hours ago, BojackHorseman said:

You're only thinking in termes of function. But what if a woman doesn't want to have children? Is this also "not embracing the role nature has given them"? What about asexual people? Sorry, those are probably not great examples, maybe more of the first one, but I hope you get the idea

It's not just about reproduction. Women a geared and wired differently on every level. On the biological, psychological, elemental, energetic and even planetary level women are geared differently that makes them better at doing certain types of work. And vise versa. Everyone has a role to play. If you were born a fish but you're not very good at it yet for whatever reason, you're chances of being a good sky dweller is not any greater. It's just a cop out from taking responsibility for your role. 

10 hours ago, BojackHorseman said:

as an artists choses what to show in the frame, and how they chose it to the world, that you make choices in how you feel and display polarities. 

You're already a piece of art and God is the artist. You're not a finished work of art tho. To perfect yourself as a piece of art that you are, you have to aim for divinity and be as healthy as you can in the meantime on all levels. If by the end of your perfection and deification you magically transform into a pussy, then so be it. But if at the end of your perfection and enlightenment you become a handsome, healthy, confident, wise man, then so be it aswell. 

Edited Thursday at 10:20 AM by Salvijus

[Talinn]

Oh I was being mild. Every year before SRS I was turning over suicide plans in my head like making pancakes every morning. My anatomy was draining my will to live and ever since I had it done I haven't considered suicide a single time.

 

I have half the self hatred I had before, and most of that turned into giggly perplexion that so many people seem to think conversion therapy works. It's probably because I'm not offering enough femininity to them which is why I made my pancakes analogy.