FIRST TIME got laid from Cold Approach, and first time with a girl genuinely liked

[Lucasxp64]

It was last Monday.

I did at best 50 cold approaches in my entire life in person (and some 500 online, but those live all over the country, my online game is great), she is looks-matched with me I think.

She is girlfriend material, we vibed so amazingly well in person.

The problem is... She came from a relationship recently and she felt like we were moving too fast and said we should stop seeing each other, that she needs to process things.

(She broke up from a 3 year relationship recently). So I don't think it's so much of an excuse. I'll give her time, we had spent two nights together already, she said it felt too much early on.

Even for me, It felt so sudden, like within a couple of hours after approaching we were already in bed kissing each other. It was amazing, best moments I ever spent with a woman in my life. Last time was only twice 7 years ago (Lived 75KM away) and 9 years ago (She lived 3000KM away began talking her when I was super young), but those I had met online and I spent fucking months talking to them before a date, and I didn't like them in person.

The logistics this time was impossible to get better. Neighbor. I did an instant date with her at the moment she told me she was coming back home, and I just went find her along the way, and we sat down and did build rapport for about 3 hours before going to her home, which she had verbally resistance (it was probably a flirt) when I mentioned it at first, but when I began walking with her to her home, she was super cool with it.

I never developed my finantial life, so it damaged my self-esteem and dating forever, I summoned this girl into my life like a miracle, I felt it wasn't even supposed to happen, I couldn't believe, I thought I was hallucinating hahaha.

That affected my dating life, the "relationships" I had were impossibly distant and we never met. But despite of this... WTF, I had success with that few approaches? Granted, my online game is great, but I wasn't expecting it.

You wouldn't believe this, she is a neighbour. I didn't even intended to do cold approach that day, I just went on automatic, barely even saw her face before approach, turned out she was really gorgeous.

 

Edited October 4 by Lucasxp64

[Lucasxp64]

I find it incredible how well I was able to bond with her through touch for someone I didn't do weeks and months of online chatting with, it came all very natural and was much faster than I thought.

[museumoftrees]

Congrats! You got lucky and you're probably doing something right. Keep advancing on your journey and keep up those approaches, do it for the growth.

 

[aurum]

@Lucasxp64 nice job. First time is definitely going to be super exciting, you'll probably be thinking about it for a while.

Once you come down a bit, just make sure you're still getting back out there.

[Terell Kirby]

Proud of you. This is the beauty of life.

Enjoy the moment

[Zen LaCroix]

How did you meet this girl?

[Lucasxp64]

28 minutes ago, Zen LaCroix said:

How did you meet this girl?

Neighbour. Side-walk.

I simply began talking to her in the side-walk because I was going to the same direction with some plausible deniability topic about the environment around us and cracked jokes about it, kept walking and talking to her to her destination nearby, and then told her: "Wait, I thought you're going to the bus stop on the other way" when I deviated from my way to the bus stop because of her, then I closed a phone number, and kept the conversation going through texting...

From there (texting) I did the same kind of game I do online, showing that I'm a guy that speaks multiple languages, cracked a lot of jokes, did a lot of teasing, and she was feeling very talkative that day but also she found me attractive quickly (she did flirt within a couple of messages) which made it smooth for me, and I took every opportunity to met her quickly and escalate emotionally/physically.

She was getting into sick leave that day, and because of her sick leave, and the way the scheduling works, I was able to met her again because she was talkative about her logistics in real-time. She literally gave me all the information I needed, casually, all on her own without me asking.

It was a strike of luck due to timing, but also of skill because I was prepared and took initiative to leverage it.

I find it incredible how natural it came to me, after last time I been with someone was 7 years ago and it was just kissing, but I still had done a lot of online game with women that lives all over my continental-sized country and already had that inner/outer game there that translated in the real world.

Edited 8 hours ago by Lucasxp64

[Deziree]

That's good. Seems it's well deserved since you worked so hard at it. If she needs space, let her have it, she will respect you for it.