She wants kids - I don't. Give up SEX and companionship?

[RendHeaven]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

No the harder you try, the less you get

@Schizophonia yes I was being sarcastic lol

your advice is solid. pure action from internal abundance always wins, but in practice it's hard for many of us to embody that because nobody taught us this shit growing up, and we have to backwards-engineer an authentic effortless self-concept through trial and error (most men won't get it right on the first try. even the most successful players eat shit and face brutal rejections. sometimes because of a chemistry mismatch, but often because they got in their own way. and so in that sense you do have to keep trying, but the key is measured persistence rather than neurotic desperation)

[Lucasxp64]

9 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

Measured persistence rather than neurotic desperation

That's it. That's the gospel right there.

Measured persistence.