How The Hell You Reach Play As An INTJ?

[The Caretaker]

On 31/07/2025 at 1:09 AM, something_else said:

The key to going solo is:

• Go to the busiest places you can
• Talk to everybody

It also helps to go to places that have quieter parts where you can actually talk to people properly.

Going with a group of friends is almost always more fun, but going out solo can be very good for building social skills

First part succeeded, found the best places in town. Second part, not so much, at least alone. I will write an update soon to describe the situation.

 

On 31/07/2025 at 9:31 PM, Hardkill said:

You know who’s a true introvert?

Barack Obama—calm, thoughtful, and magnetic without ever needing to be loud. His presence proves you don’t have to perform to connect.

There's no doubt that he can get any kind of play he wants.

I’m not saying you have to be as exceptionally compelling as he is, but he’s definitely someone who worked hard to become socially savvy while staying rooted in that quiet center.

 

I would not trust Obama getting me laid, nor would I trust a PUA leading a country. Both have good contextual charisma, yet they are like apples and oranges.

[The Caretaker]

Holy fuck!, So much weird stuff happened, even beyond pure pick up stuff, that it is almost impossible to fit it all even in a few pages, but I will try to keep an overview and give more context only if asked. Also, I will fill it with stories and emotions to keep it more engaging.

 

If you want to give feedback, reading just the TLDR will be enough.

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Friday evening - took 200ml of beer (at the end of the night). Stayed 2-2.5h
(personal score 9/10)

• Went to the city center and met a wing. The guy is a little weird... and he was swearing that he is using AI for a text game with great success.
  
  Also, before we met, he told me how he was gaming with three other 3 guys on the same day, and they got assaulted by a local . I know this is not something that happens often, but I just found it very ironic that this was supposed to be my introduction to the field.
   
• After we met, I told him my situation, and we went for a walk around the park. While we were talking, we approached like 4-5 groups of girls. Even tho he did most of the talking, I was playing along quite well. It felt like an improvisation game.
• In the last set, there was a girl so beautiful that I had trouble sleeping at night.
  
  The only thing I could think about was how sleeping/dating such a girl felt more possible. The state I got from these few approaches was so strong that during my sleep, I could not think of anything else other than places to game and ways to be playful. My mind was melting.
  
  Even the day afterward, after I finally fell asleep, during my morning routine and shopping, I saw like 4 situations in 30 minutes where I could approach somebody and at very least have some fun dialogue.
• Also got in contact with 2 more wings, but this will be more relevant later.

 

 

Saturday - took 500ml of beer (at the end of the night) + 1 ice cream. Stayed 9h (6pm to 9am) and changed 3 places
(personal score 2-9/10 - it will make more sense after explanation)

• Fuck my mind.
  
  Idk, after this day, I will not be the same person for sure. So much bizarre, serendipitous stuff happened that I really have trouble knowing where to start, so I will try to keep it as concise as possible.
• First, I went to a concert and was just moving towards the place where I was trying to build some solo state. When I arrived, I checked the venue. And holy fuck, the place was rather small in size, but filled with beautiful women. I saw this day more pretty girls than a few months prior to just moving around the city.
  
  The entire evening, I was trying to get comfortable, but could not gather the courage to approach anybody.
   
• One case was so frustrating for me that I will make as a separate bullet point. I saw a woman there who was just hanging out alone. She was around 30, but very pretty and dancative. Idk what her deal was, and why she was alone, but my intuition told me this was the perfect place to start.
  
  I had the line, I had lots of occasions, but my mind refused to cooperate. At some point, I got so fixed with the idea that I barely remember other girls. I swear I spent over an hour moving around until lI lost her somewhere in the crowd (I was not following her, she was literally staying in one small area and dancing for over 1h for sure).
  
  I got so angry with myself that I almost started dancing out of spite. FYI, the concert was taking place 25-30m walking distance from the center of the park. The entire evening until I left the place, I was thinking (if only I had better skills, the logistics and optionality were already handled for me, on a silver platter...).
  
  This idea was so painful for me that I almost wanted to cry there. Even writing this rn makes me emotional.
• After that whole situation, the music got really good and I got dancing to loosen it off a bit. I don't think I was dancing so hard in my entire life.
• Afterwards, it felt already late, but I promised a friend to meet in the center (let's call him "A"), and said fuck it. I was already tired, but went in the center anyway.
• A weird thing I've noticed, that after the concert (3-4h in total) my mind almost entered a meditative state. It felt empty. During my road there, I was trying to start random dialogues with strangers. Still could not approach girls, but was a state closer to Friday.
• We decided to meet with "A" at a bar, and until he arrived, I had like 40m to spare, so I went to a busy avenue. And here is where serendipity strikes. Just by my deciding to go to that venue, I met my ex with her new boyfriend, a few of my students, and the guy from Friday with another 3 wings.
• Had a nice chat with them before I met my friend. Went to another 4-5 sets with a new wing today (today, both wings I met talked shit about each other behind each other's back, but this is expected from PUA's).
• After that, the night was quite chill. Met with "A" and another coworker of his and stayed until 2AM at the bar. We had a dialogue that felt like therapy. For the first time in like 5 years, I felt I had somebody to talk to about personal problems, even tho I met this day the second time in my life outside the social circle we met.
• Also found out that the leader of a spiritual class I went to is a freaking sex fiend, thirsting for pussy like an animal, but I already felt that when I saw his IG. Just adding my 2 cents on how pussy/validation-oriented all this hippy and spiritual fluff is.

 

Sunday - stayed at home and just had a coffee and 1 ice cream
(my personality is melting/10)

• Went to sleep at 3-4 am, so had no desire to wake up at 8 am for a random yoga class, so I stayed at home to recover.
• After the last 2 days, I started to question everything. But most of all, how humans interact with each other and what my own self-image is made of.
• I felt today that I got more emotional, especially angry and sad. Almost like a valve broke, but after these emotions, also came some relief and hope.
• I will think a little more about my identity, as I feel something is going on in my brain and I need time to integrate it.

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TLDR;

• This time I had fun in a bar and even more fun at the concert, but could not force myself to approach anybody alone.
• Did play along with 2 different wings while they were approaching, so you could say now I have somebody to ask for advice (even tho I already see flaws in their approach, but all I need is action and enough experience to get on my own courage).
• Also, I have a new friend who is actually an extrovert and has already told me quite a lot about some "behind-the-scenes" stuff. He is a natural, and I really vibe with his company. I told him about all this PUA stuff, and we laughed together about how autistic, but in a humorous, not judgmental way. We really had the time of our lives
• My identity is melting, and my brain almost can't keep up
• A floodgate of opportunities has opened. Now I believe that I could sleep with/date very pretty women, but my identity still reflects my old self, which is far removed from this fantasy
• Also started a new routine on watching on a daily basis, Infield (say hello to my INTJ nature again)
• Main Question - next week I have entirely for myself. If I wanted, I could go out for 2 days, or 6, all up to me. In one way, I want to get good as fast as possible, but on the other, I don't vibe that much with these wings + my personality is glitching rn. Should I take it easier, or is it all in my head?
  
  I will contemplate all of that myself for the next few days. If anybody has any input with similar experience, I would gladly listen.

Edited Sunday at 04:27 PM by The Caretaker

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