How to love your physical appearance?

[UpperMaster]

Leo talked about making a video like this at some point.

[chess_king]

many of us learned to be critical of
our physical appearance because it wasn't “good enough” by society's
standards. We were presented with the belief that we weren't tall
enough, thin enough, or that our skin wasn't the right color, and the
moment we agreed with that belief we began to self-domesticate.
Because we adopted an external belief, we either rejected or tried to
change our physical appearance so we could feel worthy of our own
self-acceptance and the acceptance of others. Imagine for a moment
the many industries that would cease to exist if we all loved our bodies
exactly the way they are.
To be clear, domestication regarding body image is different from
wanting to lose weight in order to be healthy, or even having a
preference to look a certain way. The key difference is that with a
preference, you come from a place of self-love and self-acceptance,
whereas with domestication you start from a place of shame, guilt, and
not being “enough.” The line between these two can be thin
sometimes, and a Master of Self is one who can look within and
determine his or her true motive.

[RendHeaven]

just be hot

[Vercingetorix]

What's the reason you want to love how you look?

The first step would be to just "be ok" with how you look. Come to terms with your looks.

 

[Sugarcoat]

On 2025-06-28 at 4:23 PM, Vercingetorix said:

What's the reason you want to love how you look?

The first step would be to just "be ok" with how you look. Come to terms with your looks.

 

This. 
 

There might be a biological basis to what we find beautiful, for example symmetry, reasonable proportions (like a very big nose might be out of proportion) etc

So if you don’t have those things, trying to love your looks can be like trying to go against biology.

Then on top of that we have societal conditioning, so unless you undo that, loving your looks can be like going against all your minds conditioning. 
 

So yea first step is to be accepting of your looks. You can even think/recognize you’re “ugly” but being okay with it at the same time , because you don’t put value in it, you separate your self esteem from it.

Edited July 15 by Sugarcoat

[BluntIbex]

I am fasting and working out quite a lot to be happy with my appearance. My beauty standard is 100% moulded by my society, and I wish to maintain my current figure as my society and I consider it beautiful. I am aware that my current appearance grants me privileges, and it is easier to survive compared to having a higher fat percentage.

[Salvijus]

Learning to accept others would result in true self acceptance.