Post Your Biggest Challenges With Personal Development Here

[ThinAir]

On ‎31‎.‎07‎.‎2017 at 9:46 AM, Damir Elezi said:

 

And I have problems with honesty, as I don't want to hurt people's feelings but I see more And more that this behavior backfires on me all the time. How to develop radical honesty? And is it better to be compassionate or honest when there is a truth which would hurt another persons feelings but is not specifically necessary to speak out. Like the common example of telling your girlfriend she looks fat in that dress. Is it necessary to be honest there?

@Damir Elezi

I recommend the book "Radical Honesty" by Brad Blamton. He does a good job elluminating how lies, restraining Information, keeping secrets and not hurting someone elses Emotion is backfireing on you and everyone else in your life.

[Alicja_]

Going beyond conceptualisation and starting to create more solid things rather than just triggering more thoughts. 

As for now, jumping into action, as in providing goods, has been my biggest struggle.

[Damir Elezi]

@ThinAir i just found out about that movement today, very interesting. I guess I'll buy that one

[HypSandar]

Low amount of will power, spending too much willpower on things and ending up at 20%, default setting takes over.

By things, that'd be work but also issues with focus in general, trying to learn something while being distracted by other people in the household every now and then makes me give up, after trying to many times to do this and giving up i fear to try it again because i know i'd be distracted and give up.

In my opinion, the main 'challenges' would be

• Overcoming low willpower
• Achieving peace of mind
• Removing old habits and adding new ones
• Balance between learning theory & action (I'm full with theory, but in most cases i do not take solid action)

Edited August 5, 2017 by HypSandar
Added the last bullet.

[MattP]

Biggest obstacles are:

Staying on track.

There are times when I feel there is absolutely no point in pursuing self actualization. I thought I found my life purpose, (to make other people better) but I am a failure. I think I only make people worse. Therefore, I get discouraged.

 

Unworthy.

I don't feel like I am worthy of a life filled with joy, happiness, and enlightenment.  Maybe I deserve all of the bullshit and drama in my life. I subconsciously love to be punished for something. Don't know what it is, just feel like I deserve it. What did I do in my past life?

Belief.

Can my life really be better? Maybe everyone was dealt their hand at birth, and there is absolutely nothing that can be done about it. I hope not. I want to change so bad. I want to be a better person. I want to care. I want to love. I want to help others. I want to be self actualized... I don't truly believe I can do it. 

 

[Little Plant]

My biggest obstacle: loving and supporting my self completely. 

[PetarKa]

This. I find it incredibly difficult to do literally ANYTHING because of this. I don't know why, but it bothers me A LOT. Don't know how to deal with this.

[Elton]

Biggest challenges :  1) Self discipline

                                   2) Scarcity mindset

                                   3) competitor mindset

                                    

Nature of failure:       mental imagery and self talk leads me back to addictions and a negative spiral takes place with porn, junk food, criticizing,                                             jealously,etc.

Action                 :       mindfulness, hypnosis, affirmation visualization

Obstacles           :      lack of discipline to take the necessary action. Upper limit , homeostasis, fear of success, fear  

[ZenSwift]

Biggest Challenge: Visioning something AWESOME to be super excited for.

[Strangeloop]

On 5/6/2017 at 0:21 AM, Leo Gura said:

 

• What's bugging you?
• The fact that I'm worthless at conversations
• What's keeping you up at night?
• A lot of thoughts runing through the mind, can't keep it quiet and calm.
• What's triggering you emotionally?
• Dating, relationships
• What's keeping you stuck?
• My beliefs
• What's got you confused?
• My beliefs