Barbarian Number 8

@benny Controlled breathing is the key. BTW, sex does not start or stop with your boner or lack of it. Expand your scillset. .....or just buy her a Hitachi vibb.

@billiesimon No it wont. But it will be females that are masculine instead, kind of switched places with gender and attribute. Althou this is most likely something that just can flourish in a civilization with aboundance. Also if you consider the Japaneese "Herbivores" , one might guess it will limit births. The pendulum have now swung over to the other extreme. I think it will settle in the middle after that.

@Pernani It is impossible. We are designed to do it. Otherwise one would have shorter arms and the gentetalia between the shoulderblades.

@8Ball I believe that I already mentioned "the" van....buut...maybe a more suttle move is better. Get a nice hotelroom in the city - invite her - try the bubblebath - seduce her. = everybody happy. It would be cheaper to go to her place, but then you don´t know if she needs to clean the place, have a roommate...or mum living with her. Mums, Bouncers and HR are bad for love life. Very bad.

@Charlotte "tips on studying" usually means help with memorizing data. I cannot help you with that. But if you study to learn, well that is easy. Just figure out how to use the new knowledge to problemsolve or construct results. Do you see the difference? If not, do a search of the evolution of the chineese schooling system. At first you will find it hilarous that they memorized pointless and insane amounts of texts never to be actually used....but...then....you realize that you are mostley doing the same thing.... And, ja! also check out their testing fazilities, quite amazing!

@shapeshifter You should be patient for two years. Then get your butt out of there and start living _your_life. To keep you from being depressed out of your mind, you should keep it busy by planning a path for the rest of your life. Btw, in your enviroment sexualorientations is a big thing. In my enviroment it is litterly nothing. Maybe something to think about when actually trying to sizing up a problem?....and planning for the future...location location...

@CAW He is gay. Does he know or is he in true denial/unawareness? Anyway, find a new one. A better one.

@8Ball Now it starts to get really interesting. You must keep us updated about next weekend! I suggest a litle more kino and maybe a litle less comfortbuilding (this seems to be all good). Get your logistics in order i.e taxi money and clean apartment with goodies in the fridge. My good Padawan...it is time to let out "the animalistic urges"..........yes it is -NOT _all_ at once (remember H.R and now we need to add bouncers. Bouncers big and bad). ...just enough to let her know that there lives something in your pants and that "something" is looking right at her. Perhaps starting off with hairpulling, nibbling the neck and grunting in her ear? ..._when_ you have hightened her buying temperature again beforehand. The thing is to make it less logical fun and more primal fun. Figure out some excuse to bring her to your appartment. Anything will do really. Just say that you two will briefly swing by to feed your cat and then you will continue out for food or something. Remember your fridge full of goodies? muhahaha _the_masterplan takes form!

@Prabhaker They can cook too you know?

@8Ball Young Padawan. For this you will need: 1. Candy 2. A van 3. Ducttape ...or just say hi, smile to her and give her a good look in the eyes. Things not to do would be: Stare at her femenine mammaries and make odd noices. Then you will meet HR. HR is bad. Second, any kind of unsolicited touching is bad. Remember HR. HR bad.

@BobbyLowell Become a teacher. You will be amazed how different people percive the very same message. Also, you will be quite good at sizing up peoples mentalcapabilities. It is also a gggggRRReaat opertunity to excercise selfrestraint. It is illegal to do bodily harm to people.

I can relate. I am bored of eating. Earlier today I had a really nice and big meal. Like I can easily get food if I want to but I really don't want to waste my time and headspace on it. Just really bored with it. I much rather would just go sleeping, or to the library, or work on my career, or fix some sexy mama or something. It just really hit me suddenly. I might be enligthened by refusing any more short term-gratifying activity. Tomorrow....is a nother thing however.....

@Ruth Sugar and fatthings are very addicting. I compare it to drugs. I spent several years trying/on my way to clean up. It is insanely difficult to avoid garbage food. It is a learning process. So litle by litle is my method. I saw that you lived in England, so you have like Sweden a lot of rain and darkseasons. I figured that that makes everything way more difficult. When I go away to warm countries, my weight drops drasticly and my mood skyrocket. ....upon returning...so does the blubber and bad health.

@Spinoza One of the first thing I noticed when starting to wake up...it is a rrrreally bad idéa to let other people know. As @kieranperez pointed out, there are many posers. ...and they feel threatened by the real thing. Their babbel impresses the numbies&conformies.....but to somebody that is actually awake...they just babbel. Maybe it is my enviroments that I live in, but it is best to pretend to be asleep. "the nail that sticks out gets hammered"...or something like that. So, I would add a third group to your list.....the cloaked ones.

@Karin12414 You should seek professional help with this one. Allthou the forum people means well and can add value, it takes somebody professional to help you on an ongoing basis over alot of time to sort it out. The sooner you do this the better. The loonger "the rot" festers in you, the harder it will be to "remove/remedy" it and it may end up spreading untill it is the definition of you. Best of luck!

@Scarecrow When I was your age "diagnosed with social anxiety disorder" -wussent even invented. Maybe you should drop labels like that and focus on what YOU_want_?....and work on getting it. If you focus goes into the process figuring that out, focus goes off you staring on your bellybutton (hmmm, this may loose something in translation). You seems to look okay for women to make contact with you. That is a good thing and usually a first obsticle. Step one=done Step two= find good conversation threads, make up a few canned ones till you can improvise. Step three= learn kino ...and so on.... ....btw...women...are people too....wierd ones...but still just people. Except for one ex of mine. She was the devil.

@Spiral Ja, this "waking-up-process" do have some drawbacks. One notice that peoplewatching/engaging kind of are like watching reruns of reruns. Not much new stimulation there. I first noted it by watching the drunks outside Systembolaget. They are like cartoons in an endless predictable loop. Most people do seems to loop. Kind of like living in "WestWorld". It is difficult for me to get something out of a Groundhogday loop. The temtation of just screwing with the conversation loop is tempting. Maybe selfact.people will end one up in a cave just in silence?...or in prison for screwing with peoples endless textloops....

@moon777light Try hand&foot massage and hot footbaths with salts and scrubbing.

Very good thread, thank you! They say that diary is bad. They seems to be right. I figure that bellyfat was first to arrive and I figure it to be the last to leave. I will know at the end of the year.

Yes and no. They explore the mechanics of a process and label feelings. Building a blueprint/mindmap/flowchart. It is troly the birth of Real Social Dynamics. A gigantic project. It is interesting how "robotic" humans are. Our routines are pretty much the same. Tyler is defently going towards enlightenment. He is a great teacher.....but also a great salesman. Something to keep in mind. I do think that he is worth evey cent. The rest I consider like specialists in an area, not able to see "the whole". There is probably also a sociopathic aspect to it. In this case it serves many. Speaking of programming and socialengineering, the PC-culture beacomes really visable when contrasted to RSD. I consider RSD to be a important but smaller and more focused part of an erea within selfactualization. It cannot stand on its own. But is needed and important. To receptive people it is the entrygate to selfdevelopment from the basic need of multiplaying.

@dude Ja, you are right, I do paint with a broad brush by calling all refined (sometimes) statealtering products as drugs. It´s beacuse I am very concerned about what to put into my body. I am trying very hard to have a, as possible, pure intake when I build my body and energy. It is really difficult for me. Part beacuse of society and part detoxing problem. Sugar and white bread is probably the most difficult legal addicting drugs to quit. To simplify my struggle, I devide it up in "Good or bad" for me. Very binary, ja I know.

@dude Hellå Dude! What would you prefer that I call it? I also call panodil, iboprofen and laxativ for drugs. Ja, I kind of bunch all of them together. I also label them "pills", some are legal and some are not. I usually disagree with peoples opinion about what should be a legal drug and not. I am no fan of "Big Pharma". Also I am pro personal choice. Finding a good word for the opposite would be "natural"....in a way....

You just did it. See replyies above and below. Just say you don´t understand, want something claryfied, doubt a statement, give a quasi intelectual statement and there will be no end to the atention. Have fun!

I play Cities Skylines or 7Days 2 Die. Whilst listening to youtube forestssounds and drinking ectalyptus in warm milk. Very relaxing. It works well in wintertime. In the summertime I just open the window and the chirpin birds puts me to sleep.

@Spiral ....-but!...I am _not_ bitter.... hehe