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@Torch_Lighter369 Great detailed answer, thank you for sharing Oh and welcome to the forum @abundance I would recommend asking yourself what are some problems the world had now that you can assist in solving by using your greatest strengths? If you are great at programming, maybe you can help develop an app that benefits those in need?

Because you feel like crap when you don't exercise and are unfit. When you feel like crap you make poor decisions, you play small, weak mindset, can't concentrate, poor sleep quality, etc. There is little more important in life then your health. I personally don't care about material possessions, fame, luxury, status, etc. The only things I really care about, is my health. The health of my mind, body, and relationships. Exercise helps facilitate that of which is most important in life. Even knowledge is useless if you don't have health to apply it. Fundamentally, I exercise because what else is better to do. What else has as large of an impact on your life for as minimal investment as 5hrs/week at the gym? If you are serious about growth and personal development, you are doing a great disservice by avoiding exercise.

What the heelflip! Being sick comes with a lot of baggage/trauma/complications that takes years and money to overcome. What you want is the appreciation and maturity that comes from overcoming these ailments. You can have that right now, because it is a mindset and not an event. Practice contentment. Practice gratitude. Live purposefully and responsibility. If you have abundance (which we all do), start giving back to the world. Don't squander it on destructive ideas that do nothing but serve the deluded ego.

Through conscious intention and effort. Love is a verb. If you stop pedalling, you will fall off the bike. Furthermore, sexual attraction gives way to appreciation in long term relationships. The butterflies may no longer be there, but you still have a deep connection and longing towards each other. You want the best for each other, so you make sure you are the best version of yourself. This purposeful living is also indirectly attractive, however it requires effort. A relationship that rests on its laurels is sure to fail or be unfulfilling.

I'm not the person you asked, but I thought I might chime in. I have listened to Marni's videos and read one of her books ("Get inside her, the female perspective") about 3 years ago. Although she mentioned some deeper topics like mindsets and values, most of her stuff is surface level questions that kind of get answered once you know the root levels of it. She had some good things to say, but personally I found i got more from reading the other big names like Corey Wayne, Robert Glover & David Deida.

Value is the degree of perceived benefit. In this context, you must provide massive amounts of benefit to others, and in return, they will give you lots of money.

I don't know what your plan is, but it sounds risky. What if you step on some mafia's guy turf? What if they scam you or don't pay you? What are the pros? What are the cons? To me, playing with black market money is like voodoo. You don't want to touch it, and if you do, you would want to get rid of it instantly. I sense bad karma here... Whatever you do, please don't Break Bad on us

Values clash, that's inevitable when dealing with others. Someone else is always going to have different values to you on certain things, and you have to learn to be okay with that. What do you value more, your friendship or the dirt bike marks on the ground?

@Leo Kaminski You are not good enough. If you can't connect with 90% of girls within 35 seconds, you are less of a man than you could be. You need to watch 10,000 more hours of content, approach 5,000 more girls, and buy my $2,000 super master attraction course before you become worthy. I hope you understand that was hyperbole and I was being facetious. I ask sincerely, what is your intention for this post? I don't understand, either than approval seeking or being some kind of self-help sadist.

@Name To address the rapid fire questions, I will give you some of my own personal rapid fire answers: I would advise to really study life and yourself deeply. Question what you want out of life? What constitutes a good life? Is it money? Power? Fame? Charisma? I won't give you my answer. It must come from yourself, internally. Finding it out for yourself is a part of the process. Learn to overcome your neurotic behaviours and addictions. Choose your own values. Choose your own path. Do NOT live according to anyone elses standards. You must have a strong vision for your life, that emotionally charges you everyday and motivates you to achieve your goals. I'll leave the list there. Good luck

@Cody_Atzori Haha, I like how you are asking a lot of questions here, but try not to overwhelm yourself with too much. Try to truly integrate the answers, and think about them deeply first before asking more questions. Additionally, use your assertiveness and resourcefulness and try finding out for yourself. With that said, I will answer your question. Powerful questions do 1 of 2 things: Enquire critical thinking Engage emotional response For example, most 'what' or 'how' questions are surface level and not powerful questions. They result in 'pre-made' answers that don't address the underlying problem succinctly enough, or may be irrelevant for your certain situation. These types of questions only become important once you are already a few layers deep. 'Why' questions tackle something more fundamental. They undermine the motivation or purpose of something. They often require critical thinking and engage emotional response, because essentially, everything we do is predominately based on some underlying emotional impulse. The emotional brain picks the destination (holiday, dream career, status, etc.) and the logical brain helps us get there. That is, we think first emotionally, then rationally. That is why we need to ask the emotional questions first, and why they are the most powerful. It is only when we have understood why we want something, that we can engage the logical brain and ask the 'what' and 'how' questions. For example, I want to quite my job. Why? Because I dream of a life where my job enables me with more autonomy, freedom, challenge and contribution. That is the emotional aspect. The logical aspect then asks 'what will help me achieve this'? The answer may be starting my own business, or freelancing, or working part-time. This is step 1 level deep. We can ask a next level deep 'what' question, like what type of industry? Self-help? Web-design? Marketing? Then you ask a another level deep 'what' question, and so on. But you realise, that none of these follow-up questions would of come about if we didn't start with why. Kinda went a bit off tangent there, but I hope some of that was valuable

@Strangeloop I think @Thewritersunion means you should talk 80% of the time and listen 20% of the time (j/k) In sales they say you have 2 ears and 1 mouth, so use it accordingly. But real life conversation is more nuanced then that. Sometimes you talk for 3 minutes straight, sometimes you just listen for however long it takes for them to finish their train of thought. Flowing in conversation isn't something you can just logically create an algorithm for and now its 'solved'. Like a tennis match, you have to constantly adjust your shot to where the player and balls is at. Being a good conversationalist is a skill. It's not a hard skill to learn to be competent at, but it does takes experience and constant refinement. Just get talking to people and don't take it too seriously, we all like to have fun

@Light Lover I like this topic, but I got a question for you @Light Lover Why do you want to know what time people wake up? What are your current beliefs around waking up early? Personally I wake up at 6:00am. Why? Because thats the latest I can sleep in and still get a workout + shower before I have to get to work on time at 8:30.

Its not about the words on the page or scribbles on paper. Its about self-understanding. You need to apply those words and meanings to your life. That is, take what you have learnt, and ask yourself 'how can I use this knowledge? How does it apply to me? What changes can I make in my life?' Otherwise, if all you are doing is cultivating information then you are no different to a transcription bot. Ultimately, valuable information should influence your emotions, change your thinking and invoke action taking. Personally I read a short 10-15 minutes blog post and contemplate it for the remaining 30-35 minutes of my lunch break every weekday. Then I put down any insights I learnt into my phone. Its not optimal, but nothing truly is optimal. It doesn't matter if it is optimal or not, it only matters if its beneficial.

@MAYA EL I think he meant self-conscious in a neurotic way, but I love your answer When you are self-conscious, you are evaluating yourself through the lens of another person. You are thinking about what the other person is thinking about you. Just typing that made my head spin. Basically, you are stuck in your head, when you are in that mindset. Short term solution: Get grounded. Focus your attention on something in the present moment. If talking to another person, ask them a question and listen 100% focused on them. Long term solution: Self-understanding and self-acceptance. Know that no external judgement can make you less valuable as a human being. When you understand and accept yourself fully, then you stop caring about the lens of the other person so much. You walk funny? Who cares! You think your voice sounds weird, and you love it! You said the wrong thing or made a mistake? Oh no, you have exposed yourself as a human and not a robot! Fundamentally when you are self-conscious you are in a deficiency mindset. Cultivate a strong self-esteem and an abundance mindset and you will find that your self-conscious experiences will become fewer and fewer that you don't even think about it as a problem anymore.

Because its fulfilling. There is no 'external' reason. To the human brain, growth = good. We simply feel good when we are growing and improving. Thats why the good life is one of constant learning and improving. I would like to think that I can get to a spot in life where I can sit back and relax. A place where I have all the money I need so I can just sleep-in as much as I want, get massages every day and sip wine in my mansion every night, but unfortunately that makes you miserable over time. Like it or not, happiness is tied to growth. That is why the happiest people are always building, learning, teaching, helping, etc.

Nothing wrong with asking questions, people love to talk about themselves! Just make sure you don't come across as an interrogator A few tips: Try to keep your questions consistent to the topic. Look for 'key words' in the conversation that you can ask another question on if you are interested in that topic. Be open yourself, and share your experiences too. This creates connection and will open up the other person more, but really it just makes a fun and engaging conversation when you can find shared experiences Be playful and joke around Half of my conversations at work are 'tongue in cheek' comments said with a smile. Creates a light atmosphere for banter and makes the work day move much faster

@Gili Trawangan I have a theory, by no means researched, why women are often the ones to 'pull the plug' in relationships. Women and men seek different needs in the relationship. I am going to break it down quite superficially and heavily generalising, but this gist is this. For most men, this involves: Women that are attractive and can turn them on Women that can can give birth to children so that the man can pass on his legacy Women that can lend an ear to hear whats on their mind or let off some steam. Notice how the bar for these things are relatively low. Ones you got the train on the tracks, the rest is laid back and easy. Women on the other hand seek: A man that is confident and has a purpose A man that will be a provider for her children A man that will deeply connect with her and flow with her emotions. Notice how these traits are ongoing, rather than 'set-and-forget'. A womens needs in a relationship will be the first to be threatened, as they are predominately based on ongoing actions and effort by the man. The man, although having this need too, has this to a lessor degree. Hence, when a relationship turns stale, the women is typically the first to notice, and feels the effects the most. Therefore, after a period of time when the pain becomes too great, they will be compelled to take action and divorce the relationship. Essentially, men are more comfortable in a love-less marriage than women are. The counter to this (as a man) is to obviously live a life of purpose and intention. Not only will that benefit you personally as a man, but will make you more attractive and have deeper connection with your wife. Remember, the good life is a life of constant effort. Once you stop pedalling, you will inevitably fall over. So don't worry about the statistics, just do you the best you can. It doesn't matter if its true or not, it only matters if its beneficial. Avoiding marriage out of the fear that they will leave you is obviously not beneficial.

This is great, thanks once again @NilsFlair Putting the spotlight on my own beliefs, I can see just how many of them are just convenient stories I tell myself so I don't have to take the uncomfortable action or face an uncomfortable truth. It's a short-term coping strategy I guess. Time to start addressing the underlying issues its trying to mask Looks like I have a lot of work to do

Don't waste your time engaging in any of these stupid games. It is toxic and low conscious material that will create all sorts of distorted beliefs about life and women. The reason 'Red pill philosophy' is trash is because it is that it is fundamentally based on fear and unworthiness. They are all about disowning the feminine and overstating the masculine. Anyone that knows anything about personal development knows this is a terrible strategy. I have never met someone of high self-consciousness that takes this stuff seriously...

This is good stuff, thanks for sharing@NilsFlair Could you give an example to illustrate this method?

Always honest open communication. If you always communicate honestly with your partner, there should be no hidden surprises. If there are problems, you both already know what they are and work together to solve them. Doing dating the right way, a break up is never a surprise.

1. Eliminate blue light from electronics after sunset. 2. Using your bed for anything but sleep or sex. I.e Don't eat in bed, use your phone in bed, use laptop in bed, etc. Reading a book or kindle in bed before sleep is okay.

@Koyaanisqatsi Have you ever done psychedelics? If so, was it helpful and would you recommend it? If not, why not?

I think it's the intention behind speaking the truth that is most important. If it comes from a place of trying to prove something, a place of resistance or negative emotion (anger, frustration, jealousy, etc), then what you say will come across negatively and only pushes people away. If you come from a place of genuine compassion, speaking truth is more about listening and offering help when asked or necessary. You have to develop a connection first with people, before they will accept what you say (your truth). For a strange metaphor: It's like forcing someone to fly to Hawaii on a free holiday, versus offering someone a free holiday to fly wherever they want. "Seek to understand, then be understood" - Steven Covey