Psyche_92

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    4 hours ago, Spiral said:

    @RawJudah no you're  screwed now, welcome to the cult.

    No but seriously, yeah just do unhealthy shit until you feel bad about yourself and require constant distraction. You get back to square one in no time, not that I would advice it.

    Basically this. You are on the boat now, and the sail has been set. If any of the work you've done has made some significant change in your life so far, or even a small one, you will come back soon. You can't just leave it behind anymore. At least that's what i experienced. 

  6. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    For those of you who are familiar with the course and bought it, at the moment i'm at vid 48, and i'm feeling a lot of resistance.
    My mind is coming up with so much rationalizations on how the things i write down are impossible to achieve, or simply too much out of this world.
    I know this is my ego at work (limiting beliefs and anxiety), but i can't seem to "ignore" it and move on with the exercises. I'm stuck. Now what? 

    One part of me knows that the things i want to write down are possible over time, and another part starts to come up with a lot of rationalizations and anxiety, mostly about my past, and i'm kind of comparing my goals to my past and what i've been through, which make my goals seem impossible. 

     

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    3 hours ago, Jayden Birch said:

    @Shin Alright then, let's see if these benefits are really true. I'll start a 30 day challenge from today on wards, anyone can join with me. Update coming in one month (weekly updates in my journal for those interested). 

    I imagine that once I find my Life Purpose I probably won't have an issue with masturbation or any other addiction because my whole being will be focused towards one cause; but I must work with what I have in this moment!

    This would be my second biggest addiction. My biggest addiction is YouTube, and again I'm going cold turkey on that for a month. It's just so funny how all of these addictions cause us so much pain, when they were built to avoid pain in the first place. YouTube is hard however because there is good resources on it, but I just keep reminding myself that I have 50 self-help books to read and a course to finish (all of which are life changing; content that is just not found on YouTube), and that the reason I am doing this is to live a passionate life. anything less would be a disservice to the miracle of me being conscious.

    Much Love.

    Goodluck man, you will need it :D.

  13. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    1 hour ago, Spiral said:

    Me while not on noFap, all girls are kinda meh. My standards are way above everyone else.

    Me while on noFap, is she female and not super unattractive? Awesome let's do this. 

    Also me on noFap it's been three weeks now, if I get some action it's going to be a short experience but if I fap I'll lose interest instantly and break my streak. #harddecisions

    You are not doing this solely for girls, are you?

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    I came to the conclusion that i sunk into nihilism without being conscious of it. It's pretty scary now that i think about it. I've became unconscious and totally identified with my ego again. I know this, because today i woke up out of it. After this happened, i could see where the past month i've been identified with my ego, and where i was playing the victim. I could also see where unnecessary conflicts could have been avoided if i would have been conscious. It seems that i fell into a trap, after watching YouTube video's on Non-duality and reading theories about it. All this rambling made me quit my routines, and it immediately had an effect on my energy levels, which only now is obvious again. I ate low quality food, didn't care about my hygiene that much, and i totally forgot about the real meaning of life and pursuing my deepest passion/purpose.

    I basically woke op out of it, after having a conversation with a recruiter from a temporary agency today.
    She was asking me questions about my ambitions, and she triggered something critical, which made me tell her a lot of stuff that i had seemed to forgotten about. 

    Anyways, i don't want to fall into this again, and i'm wondering if i have to stay away from non-duality territory for some time. I know i can't really prevent things like these from happening, and that sitting with heavy confusion is good for my growth, but i rather stay away from it for now. For the future though, i want to merge this with my self-development work without getting stuck, and i'm wondering if any of you guys have some tips for me.

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    12 minutes ago, YaNanNallari said:

    That sounds exactly like something I'd love to do!

    Yea, same here. It would at least appeal a little bit more to me than solving basic issues with clients ( i think ). The question is, how many clients will you get that are dealing with things like these. My last therapist told me that i was the only one that ever spoke to her about non-duality, and that it's very uncommon. She told me that most people are satisfied with getting their small problems "fixed", and that they don't really dig any deeper. Of course she had clients that were dealing with existential questions, but they were mostly based on basics. 

  20. Posted

    18 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

    You sound like a good candidate for Leo’s Life Purpose Course.  Buy that, and it will work you through all these issues. You gotta find your deepest passion.  

    I’m doing the course :p. At the moment i’m at the start of the life purpose exercises. I don’t even know why i’m still doubting my purpose, since everything keeps leading me to Psychology and becoming a therapist. I have a strange feeling that it’s not doubt, but rather being scared to take the leap. It would be a big step out of my comfort zone.

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    On 17/12/2017 at 8:50 PM, YaNanNallari said:

    For me I'm going to try to apply to study psychology, but all spiritual stuff is #1 for me. So hopefully I'll be able to combine the knowledge from both and I see helping people on the spiritual journey more important. Perhaps I'll make videos or guides or write books as well.

    Good idea. When i went to an information day in my local university, i had a conversation with a prof and he said that existential therapy was an upcoming field. I’m not sure if this is true though, but it sounds interesting.

  22. Posted

    On 15/12/2017 at 4:39 PM, smd said:

    @Psyche_92 Dude.  If you had a daughter, and you walked in on her making out with you, as a Father, what the hell would you do???

    Of course they're going to get pissed!  You've put the idea in their heads that the two of you are fucking like dogs.  Do you really think the parents are going to give you respect for that?   You really think holding hands under the table is a good idea?   For all they know, she's stroking your cock.  The WORST possible images are going to spring in their minds BECAUSE they are her parents & always assume the worst.

    Also, since you were there, you didn't treat them like human beings.  It appears you didn't ask them about what they did or how they made their wealth, where they came from, the usual chit-chat you have when first being introduced to strangers.  If you don't talk to them like you would anyone else, then yeah, they're going to stay angry & tell her that you're not right for them because you appear you weren't interested in knowing them, but only getting your jollies with their daughter.

    All you had to do was tell your GF that you wanted to be respectful to her parents by not showing affection.  Do it later, away from prying eyes, on another date.  She'd agree to that!  You have to set the boundaries.  You let her do what she wanted to do & what she wanted to do was piss off her parents.  Women want to feel drama & the full range of emotions: she wants to love you & hate you & everything in between.  The larger the emotional range, the stronger the bond she'll have with you.

    Call her up & ask for another dinner with her parents.  Tell her that there will be no physical contact on the date & you want to show respect.  Get in there & ask them about their lives. And listen.  Tell them your dreams & aspirations.  Tell them about your job issues.  It's as simple as that.  You can turn this all around.  Break the ice.

    At any rate, that's if you actually care to salvage the relationship.  If not, then just keep doing what you're doing. lol. :)

    You sound like the perfect partner for her. Do you want her phone number?

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    Oh man, i don't know where to start. Her parents are insane, but i leave my opinion in the middle. For now. 
    I'm going to try and give you guys a brief overview which is hard ( so much shit going on ).

    I'm basically in a "relationship" with her for about 6 months. I'm saying "relationship" because we only meet for like 1-4 times a month, which involves quick 1 hour meet-ups after her school and stuff. 

    It all started after the first meeting with her parents, and that basically was also the start of this hell. I was together with her for 3 months, when i finally got invited over to her house. As i got there, i could quickly notice her big house, and i could already tell that her parents were rich ( my parents are not rich, but middle class kinda). We got inside her house, and her parents were waiting for me inside, immediately commanding me to put my jacket in the hallway. Her father gave me a hand, and he was kind of friendly, but her mother was distant and seemingly not so much interested. After some small talk ( which i always hated ), her father went to his desk to work, and her mother started cooking in the kitchen. I went to the living room with my gf ( not allowed to go to her room), and we started watching a movie. As we were watching the movie, i sensed something being off. My gf ( 21 ) started to cuddle up against me, kissing me on my cheeks and stuff, when all of a sudden her mom stood in front of us, telling her that she has no manners, and that actions like that are unacceptable ( after this, her father started checking on us every 15mins, (LOL this was fucking insane)). I didn't really know what to say, but i was kind of shocked. I also didn't really care about staying any longer, but i gave it a shot. As the dinner was ready, we were asked to come to the table. Her mother was standing in the kitchen, looking at me with an angry face, telling me to wash my hands before sitting at the table, because those were "the rules of the house". By that time i really wanted to go home, and i was thinking about some good excuse to leave, but i was too scared to do so. As we were sitting at the table, her mom started telling us to sit further apart from each other, and that we had to hold our hands above the table ( i was murdering her in my imagination by now ). It was fucking quiet at the table, and all of a sudden her mom asks me this fucked up question: "Hey, i wonder why did you choose our daughter?", "She's somewhat chubby for a skinny guy like you isn't she?". I didn't know what to say, and i couldn't believe what was happening to be honest. After dinner i told my gf with a small excuse that i had to go home, because i really didn't want to stay any longer. I entered my car, and i knew i was in trouble. As i came home, my girlfriend had already called and texted me several times. She was crying, and she told me that her parents didn't approve of me, and that i was very bad mannered, because i didn't thank them for the dinner ( i forgot about it due quickly wanting to go home ). Her parents also told her that i wouldn't be a good husband, because i couldn't take care of her ( i was unemployed, but studying IT at that time ). It was also by that time, her parents didn't want her to see me anymore, and started to get paranoid. 

    By now we are still "together" but shit has only gotten worse.

    Shit that's happened after the first meeting:

    -Her parents are spying on her every time she leaves the door, and we already caught them following us several times.
    -Whenever she leaves the house and they don't know where she is, they call and text her until her phone literally explodes.
    -Her sister texted me a half page of text on FaceBook some weeks ago, in short saying that i need to stop terrorizing her family, or that she's going to harm me with something. ( she's 16 and a feminist)
    -Her parents went to my ex girlfriends house, asking her parents about me
    -Her parents are accusing me of being a drug-dealer ( i think my ex twisted the story i once told her, about experimenting with drugs, just to fool me or something)

     

    I don't know what to do honestly. I can't call this shit love anymore, and i'm starting to think that i'm being disrespectful to myself for staying in this hell. Her parents are literally insane and need to get some help in my opinion. With a little bit of luck i'm seeing her for an hour every month, and by now i'm almost not caring about it anymore. We are always arguing, even in the short amount of time we can spend together. She also keeps telling me that her parents are perfect, and that they are just being "overprotective".

    I know being unemployed is not something to be proud of, but at the moment i can't really help it, and it also shouldn't be a reason for their parents to treat me like that immo. They are just very materialistic based, and only care about status and money, which is very obvious by now. 

     

    I'm wondering what you guys think about whole this situation? I feel like i have to ditch her and move on with my life.