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To be quite frank, this was a pointless question to ask OP. All you gotta do as a girl is work on looking pretty/fit, be confident, screen out men with bad character, and play the numbers game. It's that easy, and you will find someone whom you like. Consider yourself lucky. However, as for maintaining a relationship, there's not much for me to tell you because I've never been in one. However, make sure that you are mature enough and have your life together to be able to deal with your partner well and always support him. Furthermore, let him take charge of everything, unless of course he takes it too far to the point where he is physically or emotionally abusive. So good luck with that.

I don't think that I'll ever be able to stop no-fap. I tried it and it's too impossible for me.

and what if there aren't any new girls in your area to bang and whom you are attracted to? What if you can't even move out of your city?

Can you blame him? Society is to fucking blame for these mental roadblocks. Parents who don't know how to raise their children well are also as much at fault for this.

Both. Biologically speaking, men are indeed are attracted to good looks in a woman, more so than a woman is attracted to good looks in a man.

Get the olive oil that USDA certified. That stuff has been tested properly and objectively by third party people who are highly qualified to test out which products are safe and high quality.

We gotta setup a Hyper macho movement to take back some of the power we gave to these ungrateful manipulative women out there who decided to abuse their rights. It should be a new movement of men out there who are the New Age of hyper-masculine men who are able to both respect women and lead them well unapologetically. We also gotta eliminate these white knights patriarches out there who categorically responsible for the God forsaken mess we are in. Those guys really think they are being heroes who are protecting women out there, but they don’t even have the balls to approach women out there themselves. And yet, they have the nerve to slut shame women. These preachers, those GOPs conservatives who were dumb enough to elect Trump into office. They are the same ones who are either White Supremacist racists or are Latinos and African Americans and Jews, Arabs, and others who turned their backs on their own kind, all to support the conservative way of slut shaming women. They are also the very same ones who make sure that men DO NOT approach women, because it’s not “normal.” Yet they are hypocritical enough to cheat on their miserable wives with prostitutes and what have you. All of them are the ones who are RUINING IT ALL. I tell you, that countries like the US would be better places to live in without scum like them. The feminist movement was making their way towards great progress until these stupid Conservative pinheads our there had to instill the fear of God and social stigmas. If they don’t want progress to happen then where the hell will we men go to?

They probably only get sex from guys who just settle. Also, relationships with heavyset probably don’t last long. Again, men are more visual than u think. That’s part of why the divorce is so high.

If we were given proper coaching during high school on how to approach women successfully then I think that the REDPILL and MGTOW would never happen.

Woman’s looks matter a lot for the relationship to continue. As Leo said one one of his videos on Youtube, Men are more visual than u think.

It can be if used too much. That's why I also exercises a lot of times without music, even if I am lifting extremely heavy weight or doing a martial arts class and trying my hardest or running.

Just to be clear, of course dating and relationships will not be my ONE AND ONLY long-term goal. I have many other long-term goals including attaining mastery as a martial artist until the end of my life, continuing indefinitely to get stronger, bigger, and more efficient with my weight training, improving my physical stamina by about 50% by around next year, getting my Master's degree in teaching, finding my true Life Purpose, wanting to get better at gymnastics even at my age, wanting to travel around the world as much as I can, learn and practice A LOT more Visual and Performing Arts related material, becoming a good public speaker, contributing to scientific progress in this world, etc., etc., etc. Does all of that sound crazy?

Thank you very much, Aurum for this response. Yours was the most relevant and the most helpful of them all. This also helped me to feel even more assured and optimistic. Thanks again.

Please don't shut down this forum, Leo. This whole entire forum, has been absolutely invaluable not just to me, but also to so many others. I don't see how you have been tricking anyone into doing anything malicious or wrong.

Join a weightlifiting gym and do Starting Strength for a while or pick a martial art for a while, then after several months add in which one you did not pick and do that for a while. Those Heavy lifts will really develop the intensity of your mental toughness and so will martial arts to a degree. Eventually do some more cardio after doing both martial arts and weight training for several months. Otherwise, do martial arts and running for several months before you add in a weightlifting routine. The hard cardio will build the duration of your mental toughness. Get ready to choose your favorite music for your workouts.

This cannot be.......FAPPENIIIIIIIÌNNG!!

Not yet. Though I will one day, once I've saved up enough money for it.

If your social skills suck then brace yourself for some years of pain, trauma, and suffering to improve your dating skills. Also, in all honesty, I am not 100% sure that even practicing talking to countless people can ever substantially increase your social skills to the point where u will be able to find and keep a group of high quality friends and a HOT girl.

Until there is enough scientific evidence to prove that no fap works, I see no reason to stop fapping. It all sounds like a bunch of alternative therapy crap.

I already tried for several months now and yeah my confidence has been restored to a degree. Though it’s not happening fast enough. I still feel like I am hanging by a thread.

I would like to have the Moderators’ opinion on something that I am confused about regarding Maslow’s hierarchy. According to Maslow's hierarchy and what Leo said in his video pertaining to the practical application of this vital concept of psychology, fulfilling sexual needs, along with establishing familial and platonic bonds, must be accomplished before one works on building their self-esteem and certainly before one undertakes activities and ideas pertaining to self-actualization and self-transcendence. Yes, Leo did say that you can short-cut your way to the top or near-top of the Maslow hierarchy, IF YOU YOURSELF CAN tolerate skipping many, if not all of the fundamental human needs for surviving and functional well in this world. However, I REALLY DON'T think, in all honesty, that I can do that. I am very horny and do not have ABNORMALLY high levels of willpower or even an EXTREMELY high desire to FOCUS SOLELY on building my self-esteem, confidence, as well as self-actualizing and self-transcendence. I don't mean to come off as a self-centered coward or weak-minded person. I am just being realistic and practical on how to improve the quality of my whole life, like Leo was suggesting for most people to do before they can truly and wholeheartedly, ultimately commit to working on self-actualization and self-transcendence. However, It's quite confusing because many people on this forum, numerous other forums, mental health experts, therapists, life and dating coaches, etc. have mentioned how crucial it is to establish or make sure that you have enough self-love and confidence and esteem, in yourself and work on your passions and self-actualize before you embark upon the world of dating, sex, and romance. Otherwise, you will very unlikely succeed at dating and not being needy by trying to fill some sort of emotional void created from your past. Please help me clarify on what someone like me is supposed to do according to the hierarchy pyramid. I would really appreciate it.

“Stop being so angry and bitter and find a better dating strategy.” What if I’ve already tried practically every dating strategy out there and I am still struggling like a loser? What if there is no dating for some guys not because of their attitude, but because they simply don’t have the natural latent ability to learn it? Like singing, not everyone can learn to be a good singer gave their last dying breath for it. Being an athlete, not everyone can learn to be a good athlete even if they gave their blood, sweat, and tears for it. Not everyone can make it into the acting industry even if they devoted their entire lives to it. I remember P Diddy saying “you can’t just teach someone how to be a star.” U also, can’t just have positive attitude and passion for something in order to succeed at it. It’s all about RAW TALENT. Believe me, I’ve tried for years working very hard at this whole dating process and doing crazy shit that not even most mortal men would even dare to do. I reached the point where I felt so hopeless, depressed, and incredibly outraged and frustrated. Dating to me feels so futile, that it’s like I am fighting a long-drawn out battle that I’ll probably never win regardless of what I’ll try or how hard I try or even how much I let go and try my best to move forward. Maybe someone here could convince me that I am wrong because I still feel a lot like that Kent TV guy I just posted here. Btw, I’ve already heard all of the cliche stories out there before, like “It took Thomas Edison thousands of tries to finally get it right,” “Michael Jordan was cut from the Basketball team numerous times before he became a successful pro basketball player and subsequently became the GOAT legend of NBA” or “Abraham Lincoln, lost many elections before he became the next great President of the US,” blah, blah, blah. Those notions don’t always work for everyone. What do u guys think?

I really feel their pain. In fact, I've been inclined to join it. Dating has gotten so hard these days and it's like no matter what we or what we try we will still feel like social losers. It's a very sorry sight. I used to really feel very similar to this. Though, I feel the same level of frustration and rage this guy felt in this video.

Ah okay, that makes a lot more sense. So, I should work on all facets of my life from the bottom top of the Maslow pyramid at about the same time. However, some facets should be worked on PREDOMINANTLY compared to the other facets including usually the higher level facets of my life. Correct?

Guys I tried no fapping for days even weeks on end and I feel actually more like shit, angry, and hopelessness.