Joseph Maynor

No. Non-duality is all you.

HERE'S AN EXAMPLE OF HOW MY DAILY MEAL PLAN MIGHT GO -- AND I VARY THIS UP TOO, I DON'T EAT THE SAME THING EVERYDAY -- IT'S IMPORTANT TO LEARN HOW TO COOK AND MAKE FOOD AS PART OF YOUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WORK Snack 1 -- Some raw carrots Breakfast -- Four egg plain omelette Lunch -- A plate of beans Snack 2 -- Some steamed veggies Dinner -- Meat (Pork, Chicken, Fish) and veggies cooked in the oven as a side Snack 3 -- A few Greek olives

You just gotta jump in there and start working. Maybe practice here on the Forum like I did. That's what I did. You need to take 100% responsibility to just jump in there and start working. You're not gonna know what to do up front. What you do is just start working hard on your Life Purpose Work every day -- it should come natural to you if that's your Life Purpose. Start doing personal development bigtime on yourself. Start teaching personal development as you have insights. Start writing about personal development. And then stuff will start to emerge for you as to what you should do. You're not gonna know much in advance. Life Purpose Work is a life-long project -- it's the main project of your life.

Trying to remove Ego from experience is clinging to the 'Paradigm of Self' because what you're doing is trying to pick and choose experience. BE-ing is surrendering to the moment without pre-judgments or pre-expectations. I wouldn't say the Ego needs to be integrated because that's something a 'Self' would say, I would say that the Ego needs to be accepted as part of Experience.

I’ve done all the worksheets myself. Super valuable. That’s where you do the real work.

Perhaps Leo can create a link on his website with all the worksheets. That’s a good idea.

You can't love doing great things for yourself until you love yourself.

I used to feel that when I felt sorry for myself. I used to relish in feeling sorry for myself and I would get that feeling you're describing behind the chest.

You gotta realize that you're never mature enough for a relationship. Nobody is. Relationship management skills are like any other rare and valuable skill, you gotta work on them your entire life. Be willing to fail in relationships. Go into all relationships with the assumption that sustainability is never a guarantee. This also includes your relationship with your 'Self'. Friends come and go, relationships come and go.

Read 'Ludwig Wittgenstein: The Duty of Genius' by Ray Monk This book had a huge impact on my life when I read it in my late 20's. I also re-read it in my early 30's too. https://www.amazon.com/Ludwig-Wittgenstein-Genius-Ray-Monk/dp/0140159959 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ludwig_Wittgenstein

Maybe facing your fears is unnecessarily torturing yourself as well. It's the 'Self' that wants to face its fears. This is not how an Enlightened person talks: 'Remember, this is your individual journey, your demons, your fears. Do not avoid any hard work, such as facing your deepest fears. You cannot get there without facing them.' This is what I call cultivation of a 'Spiritual Ego'. The idea that Enlightenment is something for you. Enlightenment is not a destination. Enlightenment is surrendering to BE-ing right now in the moment without pre-judgments or pre-expectations. Videos on point to watch:

KEEN AWARENESS IS HOW YOU TRANSCEND FEAR OF ENGAGING IN CONFLICT WITH PEOPLE The easiest way to enter conflict without fear is when you're keenly aware of your micro and macro-level actual problem situations in your life. It takes a lot of Personal Development work to get to this place though. The reason you don't want to enter conflict is because you're not keenly aware of your actual problem situations or what is needed to sustainably solve them. One of the best places you can get to is when you enter conflict knowing deep-down that it's a battle worth waging.

I use apple cider vinegar as my key acid when I make food. I use it on almost everything I eat. Sometimes I'll use balsamic vinegar instead or I'll blend the two 50/50.

Enlightenment is tricky because it's all about surrendering to BE-ing -- and the Mind kicks up every obstacle to distract you from doing that. One of the biggest obstacles is clinging to 'Need to Know BE-ing'. Another obstacle is assuming BE-ing is a butterfly that you need to catch with a net. Enlightenment teachers talk about this as 'setting Enlightenment as a goal to be achieved'. The problem with that is it tees the Mind up to create a concept of Enlightenment or BE-ing. But see, BE-ing is not a concept. BE-ing is right now. Enlightenment is transcending the 'Paradigm of Self', and eventually all paradigms as well. Asking your 'Self', 'shouldn't I be Enlightened by now?' is a trick question. It's a distraction from surrendering to BE-ing in the moment without pre-judgments or pre-expectations.

No way. I entered UCLA at 23 years old and graduated when I was 27 years old. It was actually weird because everybody around me was 3-5 years younger than me, and I lived in the dorms too for the first 2 years. Even though I was only 23 years old, I felt super old at the time. Now I'm 40, and I look back on that and say, 'how the hell did I think I was so old at 23'? When I was going to UCLA there were a few undergrads that were there in their 40's! I sh*t you not! The grad students were all around my age though, which was cool. I actually hung out more with grad students and people off campus than I did with the kids on campus. I was playing music at that time, and most of my friends were musicians off campus.

Wow. That's something I think is worthwhile to do. I gotta do that at some point.

But see what's weird is that you're actually giving advice in this post. Can you see it?

You need to get to the point where you accept your body. This is something that Enlightenment Work really helps with. It helped me a lot with that issue.

I'm a fan of the College Education with the proper caveat added to it. College is great for building Course of Study and Shore of Reference -- but it's really just a launchpad for these in your life.

No. That's what a Self thinks. It's the Self that says 'that's for me'. BE-ing just is what it is. You don't really wanna try to understand BE-ing, you just want to surrender to it.

Is it possible that you’re treating yourself poorly and you’re projecting this frustration out externally so you don’t have to focus on yourself?

Collaboration. Synergy. Feedback. Sanity check for ideas. Motivation to create and develop Personal Development systems. Seeing what people actually do and think.

A CAVEAT FOR SPIRAL DYNAMICS IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WORK It's almost like you wanna write out the Spiral Dynamics map in detail and then crumple it up and burn it afterwards. It's paradoxical. It does give you some awareness, but you don't wanna cling to it either. It can get you rigidly defining things which puts you back into Paradigm City. And that's no good for Enlightenment Work. But at the same time, it's good for Conceptual Understanding though. It's useful to have some big-picture models. It can cause you to have insights about your own life too, which is valuable. If you don't know where you're going, chances are you'll never get there. Spiral Dynamics increases awareness in that way. Spiral Dynamics is much more of a tool in Conceptual Understanding Work than it is in Enlightenment Work. A lot of Enlightened people don't do enough Conceptual Understanding Work and they stay at Stage Green as a result due to their lack of awareness.

As a heterosexual male I never find a need to be homophobic. Sexuality is totally irrelevant to me. It's people who are uncertain about their sexuality that tend to raise the issue of sexuality in my experience. It's the Shadow. People introducing gay stuff in their humor is a huge tip off and red flag. Sometimes I'll get off-put by seeing a transgender person, but I think that has to do with the fact that I hate myself for not being that comfortable with my own body as they are with theirs. Anyway, that's a long conversation -- but it's not their sexuality that I'm reacting against. It's their openness with their body that triggers me. But see, that's my issue not their issue. That's my cowardice with not being as accepting of my body as they are theirs, see. They're not hiding anything, and that triggers me. And they don't give a sh*t about what anybody else things about it either. I secretly envy their courage and self-acceptance. And I secretly hate myself for not being as accepting of myself the way they are.

You're expecting the world to do your work for you. That's a red flag for me. If that was really your genuine Life Purpose, you'd be telling us what your career is because you'd be so passionate about getting started working on it. Proper Life Purpose Career is something you would pay someone to let you do. You wouldn't be facing any resistance regarding what you should do for Career if you had a genuine Life Purpose in hand.