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Also I have one quiteston regarding this topic. Before I begun having regural sex I was often woried about finish too quick, but now I have the oposite problem. My current girl is often frustrated that I am unable to finish more then once in hours of having sex. Have anyone of u experienced this and how have u solved this? :] thanks.

Just to update on this topic since I have been out of this forum for some time: Thanks everyone for the advice on here. I found some usefull tips in everyones reply :} Since January I hooked up with 3 girls and have a friends with benefits arrangement with one of them for 2 months now. They all complimented me on my skills and from their expression in the bed I dont think they lied. The girl I am seeing even said she never experienced such intesnse and regural orgasms with anyone and she's been with plenty of guys! What helped me a lot, was watching a Leo's series on sex, reading book Sex God Method and also suprisingly some technical tips I found on the internet and pornsites (not regural porn, but concrete tutorials on how to satisfy woman). Everyone time I have sex I look forward to better myself and learn something new. My plan is that, when I master ( at least sort of ) this regural sex I will look into tantric sex a lot of people mention here on forum, but I don't want to skip stages just yet. Thanks again, this forum and people in it are pure godl!

Hi there, Recently I have after longer pause started working on myslef in terms of both spirituality ( mostly meditation ) and social skills ( doing pickup ). What I have noticed in last week however is that I have this very sad and annoying feeling that I have missed out in life. I am 23 years old and I feel like the stage when you are young and go drink with your friend and do stupid shit is kinda over both because of my age and because of me doing spirituality and that does not align with this. Even when I try to remind myself that I the presence is all that matters, this uneasy feeling comes back to me. Has anyone ever experienced this? And how have you overcame this? Thanks is advance guys

Hi guys, Ever since highschool, I have always been quite introverted, socially anxious and bad with opposite sex. Starting end of first wawe of covid I've decided to do something about it and started putting myself out there. Meaning I found an experienced wingman and went out with him as much as possible ( on average 5 times a week). Eventhough we were out of lockdown at the time, the situation was not best for pickup since most of the bars and clubs were closed, so we pretty much had to rely on daygame. We did this from like June until September, when my country went into second lockdown. I did see some improvements, but I can also see I still have a lot of work in front of me. Since we are still in lockdown now and I assume we will be in couple of upcomming months I have decided to focus more on my innergame before I can jump into the field again. I have been doing mindfulness meditation, metta meditation each day for 30 minutes each and top of that I did some shadow work, which I kinda struggled with. I also scheduled an appointment with psychotherapist who's focus is self-esteem, relationships etc. I wanted to ask people on here, if you have any experience with psychotherapy helping you with social anxiety, introversion, low self confidence etc? Also guys who did pickup or just made progress on how they view themself, would you consider mindfulness and metta meditation as a good practice for my purpose atm? Thank you guys so much in advance for the answers.

I did. Bought it today. Didnt look into it too much yet but i think its worth it. Shoot me a pm if u are interested in more info.

I actually just bought it. I didnt look deep into it yet, since the structure of the program is week based and I dont want to skip it, but so far it looks rock solid man. Only issue now is, that I have no idea how I will go about completing the missions in lockdown

I kinda of get that getting validated from attractive girls will boost my confidence with other girls. I am not sure however if that will help with other people in general. You know, big part of the reason I started with pickup is to able to be myself around other people in general and to express myself fully. To not walk in this stiffled state all the time. Other thing with this approach is, what happens once I stop with approaching girls? When I get a girl friend or a wife? I would expect my confidence will go down quite a bit. Thanks for the tip. Unfortunatly I believe psychadelics are illegal in my country, so I am not really able to get them.

Thanks for the tip. I already have a decent size circle of friends, although I would like to add maybe some female friends and cooler people in general.

Hi, I do agree with you. Could you give us some tips how to get rid of such blocks or filters? Thanks in advance.

TBD

Hi, I've got a problem that has been holding me back in my life for a long time and that is I have terrible self-image when it comes to my teeth. They are not really good looking (quite yellowish, slightly crooked). My issue makes me not smile and have this weird, stale expresion in my face, which kinda creeps people out. Has anyone dealt with such an issue? How do I overcome this?

I got braces and that partly fixed the issue. I am planning onto going to dentist regarding whitening, but I am still super concious about my teeth and feels I just can't relax about this.

@Kalki Avatar What is your opinion on Julien's TenGame product?

Hi looking for czechs, especially Praguers, who would like to meet up, talk about self actualization and maybe support each other in the journey. Are there any of those?

Hi, I was wondering, why there is quite high suicide rates in countries that would be considered to be higher in spiral dynamics? For example scandinavia is quite known to have a high suicide rate? I though maybe, because people don't have to worry about their survival that much, they time to realize their own suffering? Anybody got any insights into this? Thanks

@outlandish Yes, Indeed scandinavian countries are not that high for developed countries. However I was comparing them to underdeveloped countries in africa, south america and so on. Also how is according to you scandinavia socialist? They have free market with strong welfare system.

Hi, Me and my friend are planning on doing a 2 day retreat in nature, however we have never done this, so I am asking you, guys, for some tips. We both practice meditation daily, but have never meditated for longer then an hour. What sort of meditation techniques would you suggest? Also what kind of food do you usually eat when on retreat. I imagine, that heavy food is probably not so good. Thanks in advace.

Hi, Recently my diet was not the best and I decided I want to get back on track. Should I clean my body first by fasting or something like that? If so what type of fasting would you, guys, suggest? Anyone with experience on getting your diet in shape would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Hi, I would be really glad if someone with experience could help me with this. Throughout the last year I noticed that big chunk of my (male) friends are very unhappy with their lives or straight up depressed. The problem is not a living condition for them as they are all upper middle class europeans, but I just can't figure out how to actually help them. Because what I found is that even though things like meditation, or just self developtment in general could help them very much, those people usually do not react well, when I introduce them these ideas, so they are kinda stuck in this cycle of feeling poorly but because they feel that way they don't resonate with anything higher on the spectrum and thus they keep being depressed. Has anyone of you either helped friend overcome this or anyone who used to be depressed and could me navigate how to actually help? Thanks in advance for your answers

Thank you so much for all the answers. I've written him that I am here for him and that I am willing to listen to him, but he responded with refusing help in a "You don't really care anyway" way. So I will leave it at my offer and see how things go.

Hi, I have a friend who is highly inteligent and quite sucessful in academia, but is deeply into orange stage (materialistic, rationalistic). I was reading a book from the booklist the other day and when he noticed it, he spoke to me, that all those self-help books are bullshit and so on. I wouldn't be suprised if he bashed something out of spirtiual or esoteric category, but the book i was reading was actually about career building, which i would assume is an primarily orange value (when i was full orange i would go for such books, now i resonate more with 'higher' teachings). Why do you think orange people like him refuse a self help. Is it because of sheer cynicism or is it something else?

Probably none, or close to that

Hi there, I am currently dealing with a petty problem. A friend of mine is studying at a university and currently is preparing for exams that are coming up. From what I understood, they are quite important to him by which I mean, he would get kicked out off school if he failed them. At the start of the week he was complaining to me via facebook that it is too much for him and he is super stressed, which I accepted, since most of my friend who are student's deal with this during exams. But today he started writing to me on facebook about killing himself and this kind of staff, which I am affraid is not meant in joking manner. Normally I would just suggest going out and just try to be present with him and listen, but since I am sick, this is not possible for me at the moment. Could anyone please give me advice on how to deal with this? thanks

Thanks, I will keep that in mind. Sadly i got only 3 days for this retreat

Hi there, I have been for past year or year and a half into self-actualization and meditation. I have decided that before my next semester at the unversity start, I want to do some sort of a meditation retreat, where I take a tent, build it somewhere in nature, where there are no people and distraction and just meditate there for 2 or 3 days. Do you guys have any experience on how to go about this? What sort of a meditation is good for this or just any advice in general? Thank you in regards