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Mindfulness helps to become aware of reality the way it is without the mental filters, perceptions and illusions. It also helps in emotional processing and stability, which means you're able to handle emotions pretty well. People who are less emotionally balanced experience little joy out of everyday joyful experiences like eating, spending time with family, watching tv, listening to humourous conversations, but get easily upset, angry, irritated even at the slightest provocation. On the other hand, people who are emotionally stable and balanced enjoy and experience deep fulfillment in everyday events and don't get easily upset or offended when something bad happens. Their positive state of mind acts as an antidote to the negativity around them. Thus they loosen up when times are bad and learn to deal with bad situations very effectively, practically and without judgment. They can differentiate between the feelings of real pain and perceived pain and detach from anything that is redundant. They are not going to whine like crybabies about something but deal with it constructively. Mindfulness not just radiates outwards but it actually radiates inwards. It's mindfulness of the mind. You become more mindful of who you are. Mindfulness is not just experiencing things, but cultivation of a mindful mind that knows how to be calm, stable, perceptive and mindful while dealing with the outer environment.

.if there is a perfect state of mind and body it also leads to order in life ...

Just close your eyes and follow the truth blindly.

I have never been on retreats. Best of luck. don't forget to post about your experience here.

Start telling yourself what you love about yourself. You really have to look in the mirror and be kind.Something that’s really difficult, but totally worth it, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the journey of becoming your true self. The most beautiful part of this journey is simply returning to the peaceful feeling of being. This peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be. Don't be a people pleaserr.Focus less on winning the approval of others. Remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. And you don’t have to get permission to do it differently either. Your time on this planet is precious. As the saying goes“What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.” Don’t wait around for someone else to give you permission to live.Distance yourself from those who bring you down. This is something that i I have been trying for such a llong time.being in no relationship is better than being in a wrong one. Don’t worry too much about folks who don’t worry about you. Know your worth When you give yourself to those who disrespect you, you lose. Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Your circle should be well rounded and supportive. Keep it tight. Quality over quantity, always Forgive yourself for what you think you did or didn't do...move away from the things that drain you and move toward the thoughts and activities that empower and fulfill you. Show gratitude for who you are and what you have right now. Be grateful and write down things you're grateful for. Do something every day that makes you happy. Life is too short. Invest in the activities you deeply care about. It’s a matter of realizing that there’s nothing selfish about self care.Believe in your abilities. Loosen up and be a little less serious about it all. All self-misery has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in taking life too serioussly. If you take everything too seriously, especially yourself, you’ll wind up fearing every new step you take. Loosen up and laugh it off Enjoy your life

What is unvictim behaviour ?

@Empty when you will know the truth and only the truth, you will have absolutely nothing to fear and nothing to worry abt.

It's okay. You are there for him. Don't get upset. You need to be very very positive around children. You try to distract and engage him in fun activities and he will forget. Keep yourself strong. When you are surrounded by negative things, you will need an extra dose of positivity in your life. Shower him with all the love you got and with time your love will heal him.

@Marks199 spend as much as you can baby. That's all you got. Every minute spent is time well spent. You will never regret spending your time on that one.

I have read that the subconscious mind develops in childhood around the ages between six and eleven. Whatever a child learns during this period has a profound impact on the perceptions and mentality of the person as an adult. I think both are intertwined. The external affects the internal and vice-versa. The major difference obviously lies in the control mechanism. The internal can be controlled to a limited extent whereas there is no control on the environmental conditions. Our upbringing has a huge impact on our perceptions and worldview.

@Oleg F you made a lot of valid points in your post. I myself never totally grasped what moving out of the comfort zone really meant. If you take the traditional viewpoint, it means getting over your fears and doing things you normally wouldn't do. This helps in overcoming basic challenges. A very simple example can be the case of stage fright. A lot of people who have it cannot do jobs that don't require you to do much but people avoid them simply out of fear and avoidance. When they push themselves a little out of their comfort zone, they easily get rid of the fear. Once they get a hang of it, they can easily manage jobs they previously considered difficult or even impossible. This definitely makes a significant difference to their income and lifestyle. I think that's what it is all about. It's only applicable within a margin. Your income and pay depends on so many legitimate and practical factors other than just your performance and abilities. There are so many people out there who perform so well in their and yet get paid only peanuts. If the general economic conditions are not very supportive, you can't do much. It's not a vending machine. There is no guarantee of outcome. There are many talented and hardworking people on this planet struggling to make ends meet. This is precisely the reason why people opt out of corporate slavery and start their own businesses. If they invest the same effort and energy as they did in their job, into their businesses, they earn much more. My personal perspective is this- push out of your comfort zone but only to the extent to which it seems practically feasible and worthwhile. If it negatively impacting your health, it's not worth it. Your should never sacrifice health for anything. If pursuing something that is aligned to your comfort zone pays you well then do it. The final purpose of everything is looking after your own well-being. So do that which works out for you, irrespective of other's opinions. My personal motto for the past few years has been - whatever works works!!! Don't care what people think. Because they are not you. You are you. Some people push themselves far out of their comfort zones to explore new things and get new experiences through travel and adventures. They don't mind losing their health because for them the final rewards are simply irresistible. To each his own. Just do whatever fits into your paradigm. Rest is gibberish.

Ralph smart Lisa nichols Oprah's channel -but very short videos mostly meant for advertising Dave ramsey show Marie forleo Rupert spira Osho international

Watch pd videos and read articles.

Moving out really helps. Be practical. Look at everything practically and not emotionally. Be strong and get out of the rut. Don't give up. It's not loneliness, it's deprivation. Make friends and engage with people. Add humour to your life to forget the dysfunction. Love yourself and heal yourself. Once you begin to love yourself, your loneliness will fly out the window. Take care.

Wrong postures can cause injury.

Come and fight with a woman...hah c'mon....you will never want to feel like a hero again. Lmao..

@Simon Håkansson This sounds childish. A game is not a big deal. You are losing your head over a game. Quit it. Be practical. Learn to deal with your emotions. You're being too emo dude. Focus on your higher self. There's so much more to life than being upset or agitated over games. Start meditation. It's very important for you. Become more aware of real stuff in life. Wake up. Focus on things that are beneficial to you in the long run. Focus on health. Focus on personal development and productivity. Work on the aspect of emotional intelligence. Your lower self is craving for little things. When you'll get older, they'll all look so small, you'll laugh at them.

Well congratulations. I don't have kids. So I can only imagine how tough the situation is for couples who are anticipating a child. But this baby is a blessing for you rather than a challenge. It's tough in the beginning but in the end it's all worth it. Keep your chin up, it'll all work out for ya. Keep yourself healthy and sleep well whenever you get enough time because raising a newborn is pretty exhausting. I know you are very passionate about your goals in life, but you need to be a little wiser now and maybe take some time off and keep other things on the backburner just for a short time till everything gets sorted out.

Maybe wait for the right girl instead of ending up frustrated.

You explained it very well. Thank you. Could you elaborate some more on this? I didn't understand this part.

@Flare Thank you so much. You are awesome.

meowww Where you at

@Nahm Haha.. ...When I will come back from the afterlife I will answer that one for you.

You are a cool guy(guy or girl idk)..I am planning the same bye bye ?