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  1. Posted · Edited by puporing

    51 minutes ago, integral said:

    @puporing If we go back to the main question, why would a older woman message a random young good looking guy she has not built any foundation or had no real dialogue with that she wants a open relationship? It strikes me as a attempt to peak his interest? On the other hand I think a lot of men will view this is unattractive as she sounds "loose". 

    If it is so what? I'm not sure what the problem is. One can always just say no, and seems like he did. 

    Yes a lot of men will reject it because they won't be 100% "theirs", (or in many cases take advantage briefly and abuse or even rape the person because they think they deserve it for being in an open/poly relationship, or think they just want sex anyways, this is just the kind of consciousness we're in right now, just look at how you all responded automatically assuming a bunch of stuff about this person), but it's not necessarily because they're not otherwise attractive (though it could also be just that).

  3. Posted · Edited by puporing

    Depends on your priorities.. you can always work in a high paying industry and save up for some time and then transition to something that's more sustainable on your body and mind overall. I've learned the hard way too that just pushing it doesn't always work - your body (and mind) can literally break down and cause you even more problems.

    So yeah my perspective is more from the "take care of yourself" first mentality now. If your job keeps rubbing up against that it's your body telling you to consider switching soon.. don't end up like some people who get early stage Cancer and early death like cardiac problems because they overworked themselves (if you can help it seriously). 

  5. Posted · Edited by puporing

    5 hours ago, integral said:

    Ah this make sense, didn't realize how challenging it is to keep guys around. 

    it's more like mismatch for both parties, so it's fine really. just saying open relationships does not lead to "more options" like some might imagine. it's more like if you are lucky enough to meet people who can match with you on it and just love you for you not your relationship structure. plus it's not like there's "no commitment" like people make them out to be (depending on the people involved), if you're aiming for quality/long term, it's just a looser/more independent kind of structure overall I would say compared to typical monogamy.

  6. Posted · Edited by puporing

    3 hours ago, integral said:

    pool of men

    common misconception about people in open situations. There are no "pool of men". 95% of men want strict monogamy like yourself, demonizes poly people/tries to "fix them" and in many cases "pump and dump" poly people through faking a facade of acceptance (though this also happens with typical dating dynamics), and/or are in a monogamist relationship already. And people in open relationships can be just as picky due to the massive consciousness/development required for a healthy poly situation. Their best bet is to find those like themselves instead of strict monogamists, but super hard to find.

  9. Posted · Edited by puporing

    Hard to say really. You could also just be someone they felt safe enough to express honestly with, the rest I can't say coz I wasn't there to see the interaction, it's just not necessarily an expression of interest like most assume it to be.

    It's similar to a gay person telling you they're gay, is it always an expression of interest? it could be but depends how it was said/context, sometimes just to express themselves with anyone safe to, I mean how else is a non-normie gonna EVER let anyone know about themselves when they're 95% times surrounded by normies? They can't exactly put a sticker on their head saying they live a different life than most. 

    In any case, I would suggest not to get involved (romantically) if you cannot accept the situation and have a need for someone to be totally monogamous.

  10. Posted · Edited by puporing

    you don't have to be inside "a joke" or story forever though, you can also choose to be awake forever, if you choose that. This is 100% your choosing. Coz you have to decide to wake up or decide to dream, each time requires your decision. It's just that once you "put yourself asleep" it can be hard to wake up again.

  12. Posted · Edited by puporing

    FEAR

    FEAR

    FEAR

    you have to take the "red pill" many many times to get to the "bottom of it". And each time you don't really know what's waiting for you all you can do is have faith God will catch you. 

    Also lack of peers around you don't help either. REMEMBER 99.9999... (ad infinitum) % of the planet is not maximum AWAKE and you get sucked into the unawake minds. REAAAALLLYYY watch out for that one. ;) 

    PLUS you cannot even recognize the awake peer(s) LOL. So you're basically on your own on hard mode :D!!! Good luck my friend. Can't wait to talk to you when you finally figure it out. (Then you'll be frustrated like me going "nobody awake" all day long LOL what a stinky mess.)

    (sorry if I seem mean.. I am just having bit of fun. Thank you for your question so I can express myself a little).

  13. Posted · Edited by puporing

    You can not come back here again you know and just hang out in spirit world after this life. That's my plan anyway. There's much still you don't understand, there's higher awakenings than what's infront of you right now. There is also a "heaven" where you are pure infinity and maximum consciousness and need do nothing to "survive". But you have to practice letting go of this place to eventually end up there.

    To leave this place you have to change your state completely while in a body, and that is in your power to do 100%. Sounds like you may be ready for that in this incarnation.

  14. Posted · Edited by puporing

    3 hours ago, ChrisZoZo said:

    I can ask and then they can show up its a possibility also no?

    maybe. I'm just trying to say there are many levels to awakening so it's not like less awake teachers are not valuable, what you want is teachings just ahead of you. I'm saying you can only learn what you are ready for (so it's not this "catch all" thing with the term "enlightenment"). eg, you can't even begin to recognize the most awake teachers when you're not close and they will likely not "show themselves" to you either coz they know they appear too crazy to you still, and you will also prob ignore them. this works similarly on psychedelics.

  15. Posted · Edited by puporing

    your "teachers" show up when you're ready, in whatever shape or form (eg, does not need to be a human), and you will find them. There are many levels to this. Someone too "far along" that you are not ready for will seem crazy and false to you if you are not there yet. 

    you will instinctively know who/what the remaining guides are for you. 

    best wishes.

  16. Posted · Edited by puporing

    1 hour ago, michaelcycle00 said:

    I'm not following. 

    Consider first that an infinite mind can have distinctly different wills, perhaps even direct opposite ones.

    Consider also that perfect Love gives you absolute freewill to do/be what you wish.

    The God that I "carry in me" that I have awakened to wills heaven here and/or in "spirit world". But what is meant by "heaven"? Something like a state of oneness and perfect Love, maximal consciousness.

    That doesn't mean I immediately accepted my awakenings, because like you I have been living in a different kind of state, it took me some time to more fully accept.

    But like I said, consider the first two possibilities then you might be open to considering the third assertion as "will of God".

  19. Posted · Edited by puporing

    @Adodd it may not seem like it but it's actually a wise insight. 

    I would say that's exactly the kind of "life experiences" you need to ultimately decide (while you're in a body) whether or not you want to "return as a human"/planet earth.

    Having said that I would suggest to figure out how to give your best shot at this current life and "feel complete" here if you can.. sounds like some drastic changes might be in order. And remember if you don't make sure you feel fairly complete here you might feel compelled to reincarnate.. just an fyi from someone who's thought of this stuff out. :D

    If that's truly been your mental state the past while then I would say some kind of "ascetic"/minimalist lifestyle might be suited for you but you know best. It's not so bad to ask for some help too, people are too ashamed to these days.

    Also you can be "infinite" and God Consciousness while in the body (idk if you already have that in your baseline or not), it's just keeping it with survival stuff that can be challenging.

  20. Posted · Edited by puporing

    8 hours ago, StarStruck said:

    How I see social interactions are like this: social interactions are just human games. It could be compared to chess or any other game. And since I'm seeing it as a game I have become better at it by not taking it personally.

    Not if you can find authentic people, and okay with being alone for periods of time.. they are out there but just harder to find in general, maybe spiritual retreats or something. They're just not your "flashy types" usually. In any case, if you want it to be a game then it will be so, if you wish not to then you will find people who are also aligned similarly, depends what you prioritize. idk I have like zero interest in unnecessary drama and would rather be "alone" these days than deal with that, and it doesn't bother me. I am much happier alone or with people on similar maturity level just coz of awakening work and have no room for bullshit :D. My mind won't allow it it will just repel it "on my behalf". Ultimately up to you though. I think it's one of those things you have to find out for yourself when you're truly tired of the superficiality.

  21. Posted · Edited by puporing

    10 hours ago, StarStruck said:

    The weird thing is that the less you care the more you are valued. 

    This is maybe only true with very immature people who fall into this manipulation. Not so with mature and developed ones, the exact opposite happens.

    I think if you felt hurt by the lack of response, you should just speak up about it one way or another, it may well fall on deaf ears but to me it's healthy to express that (and then move on). I know it can seem like too much if you haven't done it much before, but :D what you gotta lose?

    It's good to practice expressing your feelings about a disrespectful situation (to the extent you're comfortable), and then set boundaries for it, because it will come up again and again not just dating but work, people in general. 

    It boils down to Self-Love, which affects your ability to be your best self around others who will appreciate what you give them (as presence, attention, etc) and not treat it like nothing.

    (And in the end... I still suggest to wake up instead of this endless chasing because in my experience it never made me feel whole or loved. Build authentic relationships instead. I've done a fair share of "chasing" myself before and know what that's like, it's really not that great for most people. I was quite literally spinning on a "hamster wheel" but in reality I was looking for God's Love. And you are probably not going to find the kind of LOVE and HEALING you crave except from God or "works of God". If you're more "sensitive" like me it is just adding more trauma dealing with immature or insensitive people that are not yet attuned to their feelings. Sorry if I am going off tangent, but no one else is gonna tell you how it actually is with regards to "chasing the other" and God more than likely.. and don't have to take my word I am just trying to help you out coz I am sensing that you may be ready to hear it).

  22. Posted · Edited by puporing

    5 hours ago, StarStruck said:

    I already had rapport with her for 3-4 hours times 3 encounters. It is not hard to respond to "hi what is up?", perhaps it is boring.. but still it is a matter of respect from my point of view. Perhaps you are right, she has pretty privilege and gets a lot of guys texting her. I need to work on my text game.

    that sounds super weird to me honestly, unless someone's a luddite and don't text. It's not hard to just say "Hello, I don't wish to text", but yeah people are so bad at communication sometimes when it comes to "saying no" and it actually hurts the other person more with the silent treatment.. but yeah in any case it's possible they just haven't learned how to "say no" politely so I hope you can find room to forgive them too.

    There are also ones that want a much more "casual relating" and so they minimize certain communication channels. But if that's not matching with yours then it will not work and you'll always feel like you're chasing a ghost or something.

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    26 minutes ago, acidgoofy said:

    My brother has a camper van with bathroom. He's got it for a few years now and we often go on trips together and I always use the bathroom. However my brother never used it since he got the van because he prefers to go into nature and dig a hole ??

    lmao, that sounds nice, is it one of those portable toilets? (where you empty and clean it when it's full?).