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Good for you!! I feel the same way. Honestly a turn off when a guy needs the woman to be shaved..??‍♀️ why not appreciate the feminine beauty that nature endowed us with?!?!?? (Do agree that shaving hair makes one feel childlike rather than sexy/womanly)

@John Paul plot twist OP falls in love with the FWB girl.

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@something_else imo it doesn't necessarily matter if it's a man or woman, what matters is if the person got some feelings involved and the other party simply didn't in the first place but proceeds anyway as if they also had some mutual feelings. So it's more like being deceived if anything. But I can't speak for @Preety_India as people have unique preferences.

@Thought Art He's not banned, I guess he's just not participating right now.

Yeah it has the feeling of being treated like a free prostitute I think. Which is worse than a prostitute coz at least they get paid lol. But I've heard that's a lot of women's experience on apps like Tinder these days. But nothing 'wrong' if it was something mutual I guess and it was made clear and you're not pretending it's going somewhere else romantically.

LoL can't really help you as if I didn't vibe with somebody I wouldn't want to sleep with them either or find that appealing. There's nothing 'morally wrong' if the person doesn't think there is. But there has to be an attraction at least I feel.

Honesty about where you are and that it's not a one way street (that they are also allowed to explore others if they wanted) and reminding them consistently that you're not in a place to "commit" to one particular person etc. I know it can be awkward as hell sometimes but that's what it takes imo is to have these "awkward" conversations. All of this sort of transparency is required in ethical non-monogamy.

Makes sense to me. Lately, I am finding that too the connection with being-ness makes me very grounded. From this place, I can love anybody, and I feel love deeply, without having to form some kind of 'physical relationship' at times but if it happens I also embrace it, else I just enjoy whatever interaction I get. So it's kind of like a detached and whole-some place. I'm not 100% there all the time (maybe it's easier for some people without an overactive bio drive lol), but definitely can relate to what you're saying.

@Danioover9000 Well in that case 'fake it till you make it' might work for you. You can put out some stuff and cater to what people are loving, and that becomes your passion, is to make stuff a group of people love. I guess unless you also feel a strong opposite pull to not do this or somehow not your character that could be a struggle. See how you really feel about it! It's at least gotta be something you can consistently do.

Imo it's a 'distraction' from working on yourself. Same with girls, make-up and stuff are a kind of distraction, though yes I can appreciate it from time to time, it's not something I would depend on if that makes sense. It's like relying on your looks as a woman which yes may be more valued than men's appearance in today's society/how most attraction works, but working on yourself in other aspects whether you're a guy or girl does matter. I guess it all depends on your priorities though, if you're okay with attracting someone who is mostly interested in the physical aspects etc that's fine, but if you're trying to attract someone with more substance height really don't matter (as much as you think it does).

@TruthSoldier Are you referring to Tier 3?? Saw this the other day may be what you're looking for.

@Sempiternity ahaha, I am pretty sex-positive but yeah maybe not like that. But you do you! I'm just a passerby.

I'm on the weird part of the internet again...

yeah makes sense. It can be tough out there.

@catcat69123 Agreed with @Terell Kirby , prob best to take the time to get to know someone first before doing that stuff together. I've also had bad experiences but in a different sense... being pressured to trip when I barely know someone and when I don't they're off tripping anyway and getting high flying off the walls and I'm stuck with the situation. People can be quite unpredictable when tripping... Sorry you had to go through that in a sense you became like a therapist .

I just love y'all ??.

Sometimes you have to take a hard stance. He said it was a tough decision so I'm sure he thought about it long and stuff. It would've been easier in a sense perhaps for him not to do anything and not lose a bunch of people in the process. You have to see past the surface and of why ultimately it was better than not doing anything. He cares about you awakening and with that will come loads of people misunderstanding him, demonizing, etc. Nahm is still loved too. It doesn't have to be a black and white thing! Love you too ?.

@John Paul It's okay I ran into stage orange all the time in the dating section, lol. It's cool I accept and move on with my 'business'.

There's nothing 'to do' that you have to do. You're free now.

@John Paul I'm sorry it was just a funny comment. Not that I think you're in stage orange primarily or anything. ??

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Saw this one today too. I think there's a difference between the realization of 'solipsism' vs acting from such a place in day to day life which seems to be what Shunya is pointing out, though I guess he's also suggesting it's a sort of narcissism rather than absolute truth.

You need both, to be serious and detached from outcome at the same time. Be passionate with the pursuits you engage in, but not attached to what may come from them.

It could be something more like empathy that even when you are mostly healed, you can’t help but be sensitive to what’s happening around you, since you have been there/to “hell” others may be going through the same.