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Attacking the ego never works, yet we keep doing it .

You don't know this, because they won't admit to it directly. I've had experiences where the therapists were desperately trying to hold on while I was breaking the thing off. This might not happen often but it can. But you also have to be conscious enough to see this subtle dynamic happening.

The right one can help a great deal and "move mountains" (when they act from selflessness). But like most people it's hard to keep this up and not let your own personal agenda get in the way. The other options are also good tools.

@Ampresus time will help.. might take you awhile.. sorry it can be rough I know what it's like, it can make you sickly for awhile. maybe just feel into it and stay there for as long as you need. It's a kind of grief process.

Maybe if you were very conscious and more so than your therapist... you would be paying someone to lift them out of areas they are not conscious of while totally accepting them as they are, or just leave. So the therapist may not even suspect anything weird going on but think you're just a very nice person they can talk to that gets them (you become their therapist while acting as a "patient" ).

Yeah basically whatever the "human" wants to be... no preference from God's view.

Depends on the therapist. Some are extremely corrupt and will make things up to keep you as their client. But if you're very conscious you would see right through that bullshit and leave.

I mean if this is true that seems to check out . But I get what you mean.. there could be some interference as well.

It's an opening/invitation for you to go deeper with "yourself" as the limited self is realizing more and more that it cannot find the deep love it yearns from another ego. There's no "practical"/surface level solution to this that I've found. I've been this way most my life until having some awakenings. But maybe since you're a guy, you can be more assertive and pursue more women, but still might not satisfy.. I recommend both.

@Devin Yeah that's cool do what feels right to you. I know how hard it can be though... like even therapist I had to search the whole city upside down. And then I landed here.

@Devin Would you be open to connecting with a therapist who may be developed enough to more fully connect with you? (Even this might take you some searching). That was one of the only ways I found outside of intimate relationships. And honestly I don't feel the need for an alternative (unless it spontaneously happened). Sometimes you just want to cut through the bullshit and talk through some things. Currently no longer in therapy but I'll still go if I really need to talk to someone face to face about a particular thing. Once you've had that depth connection it can set you free from seeking (as much).

Deepening your connection to universal intelligence . "Throw the monkey off your back and let the divine monkey enter." - Shunyamurti

Imo "life purpose" is simply the path inching you closer and closer to your "full potential". Through that process, you're also discovering who you are. And what you may think it looks like "in the end" right now could be very different from how it ends up being. But the growth have surely happened along the way and that transformation itself was the pursuit all along.

@Someone here yeah that makes sense. Just make sure you're also thinking about the kind of work that it might help you find too. Because many of those paths lead to dealing with people also.. speaking from experience .

I see.. and you have to attend university? For work? It may also be you're in a very conformist culture. Here you can get away with not mingling much.

@axiom That's very interesting... I definitely get the sense that mushrooms have a mind of its own and I have to fight it off or get past the flavors it has that can color the truth behind it. On the other hand, what is a psychedelic? Maybe you can become one .

It would be helpful to sex workers for it to be regulated, protected, as well as legalized. There're a lot "at stake" on that point to resist this: Perceived threat to existing relationships/structures. Fear of how that might change the status quo. Force people to examine how much conditionality is in their relationships. It would radically change how we think about sex and face that sometimes it is "transactional"/highly conditional. Ie we still prefer to delude ourselves in thinking that it is/should always be free from being highly conditional, yet conditional love is the dominant way people are approaching relationships right now, it's just varying in degrees.

People are good at making stories, bullshitting, projecting, creating sides, filling their mind. I completely understand why someone prefer not to be around that when you see right through it or your default is total silence. It's because you don't want to live in constructed reality. The attempting to share this with people as though you're "teaching" is almost a desperate attempt at genuine connection free from falsehood, cut through the bullshit and just relate through pure love, the "sameness", everything else is secondary.

@mr_engineer I get the point you're trying to make. It is simpler with more conscious people, coz you've transcended language and need for overstimulation/dramatization and story making. It just takes two. And I think men or women will have trouble finding someone who are very present, acting from heart/purity, are capable of connection in silence and subtle gestures. The issue is more finding such people I feel.

Lol you can throw another body count in there.

@Marten98 Love your insights. Thanks for sharing! I've thought similar... Everything is interconnected. The unconsciousness helped you move towards greater consciousness. (Also highly recommend Matt Kahn's work too for healing work like this one: https://tickets.brightstarevents.com/event/angel-academy-season14-masteringthevibrationalscale)

What have you tried? Is it true in your experience?

I adore Matt's teachings/transmissions. He's completely egoless and here to serve, a rare soul in the time we're in where much healing is needed. He has also indirectly helped me through some more difficult trips (as an anchor). His strength is in healing and holding a space of total love. I often draw from the strength of his love during difficult times (esp trips) which can flip a trip full of darkness and turn it into light if that makes sense. (Fyi, I think I've seen the video before but didn't rewatch the whole thing in this reply). I recommend his material for dealing with trauma too, he goes deep with that.

People often think there's a big difference but the way I've seen most guys approach casual sex is to treat the woman like a prostitute. And I've heard this complaint from other women too, who just feel like they're an unpaid prostitute. Pretty sad state of affairs for some of these things. So you can even argue that the girl selling sex is treated better in those kind of cases where a guy is just using her body for a time and do not care about her anymore than he would a paid sex worker. I'm probably going to offend some people, but what's the real difference between paying a therapist so someone can console/meet your emotional needs temporarily vs paying someone for sex so you can get a relief for your emotional/physical need temporarily? It's just we've made the distinction in our mind that it's "very different" but theres actually a lot of overlapping emotional dynamics at play. Those have been my thoughts but I think strange things sometimes.

Funny you're trying to tell me to socialize more . I prefer deep connection and/or complete silence and nothing in between (the in between would be loose/with "strangers" which can still be enjoyable in small amounts). Do you think deep connection is what you're missing?