Nahm

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  1. @blacksapp I agree. Ask and listen. Ask open ended questions. Be a learner and really take an interest when someone talks about something you can't relate to. Find the agreements. Priming yourself is another option. Like watch a video about confidence, or making social situations easy, or talking to girls, or whatever. A simple 5 minute video can tune you and get you in a helpful state of mind. The depression stands out to me as the underlying cure though. Are you able to exercise? Talk to a dr maybe, and or a nutritionist. Watch Christmas Vacation again?
  2. You've just over thought talking to girls - made a mountain out of a molehill. Try to let go of any pressure you may have put on yourself. Think about things you've overcome in your life. I doubt everything has been easy. Think about who you are. I bet you she feels just like you do. Sometimes she's comfortable socially and sometimes not. You can also try priming yourself for situations. Listen to something on YouTube, like Bill Nye's video on population control where he says the solution is educating the woman of the world. Then, you've primed your mind to be more relaxed, because you know you have woman friendly topic ready to go. Of course, that topic is a hypothetical example. Just a topic she might find pleasing to hear thus increasing her desire to respond back. Then the rest is easy. Except for the baby diapers and midnight feedings. But then it gets easy again. You can tell by Randy Quaid's face that this will most likely work, or at least seem to work out in the end.
  3. I was dropping a movie quote in regard to your perspective, in hopes of lightening up your mood. I'm not sure what instruction you've been following, but you may want to increase your variety of sources. Please note my profile pic is updated to Randy Quiad. I think this is an appropriate and well timed call back. Allow the path to your enlightenment to guide you to your best, most actualized life. Whatever makes your life worth living is more of an entry point. I hope you experience everything you can dream of.
  4. Let it go. It's already done. The easiest way is to get your focus on something you like that is really easy; a pet, music, whatever. From there, do some things you personally enjoy, rebuilding 1950's one way cb radios, take pie to one more digit, whatever you're into. Think of it as a life tax. You're obviously someone who tries things and isn't stuck in fear. It costs money to try things, it's a good thing. When you finish college that 10k won't seem like as big of a deal. When your old and scopin out your hospice nurse, you won't remember that money. But if you know you really lived, you tried things, you'll be happy. Good luck with that nurse bud.
  5. @JustinS I read that book a while back. Loved it. It always come to mind as a possible wake up book for someone on the edge of looking into PD.
  6. See a doctor. And start writing novels.
  7. Maybe because you want to meet someone and have babies...? I did. It's all working out nicely.
  8. There's a nice step by step for this on Wkihow.
  9. It's when you breath out but maybe very seriously, or with an essence of love, or even like you are really mad at the breath.
  10. You already had this bro
  11. @Morten What's your take on the Madness lyrics?
  12. @Vanish I agree. That's there to. I don't know about death being the main thing. I think it's food and a sort of dummying down. There seems to be a large, not total, corilation between fit and healthy & happy, and overeating & not happy.
  13. Tell him a story about an Uncle that stayed too long. Then wait for it.
  14. I shaved my head around 23 year ago. Never went back. (CLippers without an attachment to be specific) I love it. Wife loves it.
  15. @Posho How to make it fun- It's got to be your fun. But here's a misc list off the top of my head on making excercise fun... Wireless headphones and your favorite jams. Start listing a few minutes before you start excercising. Music gets you more pumped. I use Pantera, RATM, stuff like that. I put my ipad on the treadmill and watch shows on amazon prime or netlix. I read and contribute to this forum while on the treadmill. Buy clothes that are the size you will get to and hang them on the wall. It helps. Read and watch videos online about how amazing people feel since they started excercising. Watch videos on YouTube about people transforming their body with excercise, and transforming their life. These videos are very moving. The bottom line is this stuff probably doesn't sound earth shattering, like it would help a ton. The difference between reading it and doing it is huge.
  16. Lazy Eye rocks! So much wisdom. "So clear but so unheard" "And this real, it's impossible if possible, at who's blind word?"
  17. I love this topic. The trouble with it though is that we often switch between what we think and what we think someone else or the population thinks. Consciousness is only experienced by one person and each one person never gets (in this life) to experience anything but that. Consciousness is always exactly what you understand it to be. The same is true for another person who completely disagrees with you. It's like a failsafe that ensures forwardness.
  18. A conspiracy is when two or more people do something that breaks a law. In my opinion, anytime anyone is hurt by another, it is a conspiracy, because to me, compassion is a universal law. I do, however, appreciate the variety. 7 billion Phils would be very plain and downright boring.
  19. Who ever called it Self Help, New Age, Metaphysical or Personal Development to begin with did a lot of damage for the popularity of the category. It should be called something that when someone who needs it most hears it, it sounds like something they would enjoy.
  20. @dboyle If you did the daily practices of exercise, meditation & healthy eating, you would not observe "periods of uncertainty and doubt". Those are emotions, not events taking place in the world. Sounds like you've been looking at those emotions as if they were events, as if something outside of you were causing them. Godspeed.
  21. @aryberry It's most likely food, exercise and or meditation related, since it sounds to me like to can focus your focus. It's really shocking how much of our thinking comes from the gut. You can't learn anything that you get from meditation. You think that way because you don't meditate daily. Start. Now. YouTube Shia Labuff for further instruction
  22. @5thPablo You are right and you're friend is right. I would describe my best friend of 25 years the same way. The path to your happiness with this, and to your continued progress, and to growing your relationship with him, it to notice when you switch from focusing on your thinking to focusing on what he thinks. Just let go of what he thinks. He has his emotions, you have yours. It would serve you well to make it a practice Of focusing on your own thoughts. Be there compassionately when he needs it, but keep to your own thoughts. You're learning this stuff, you're experiencing this. He's not. He doesn't know what you know. Keep to your thoughts because you know, and he doesn't.
  23. @heisenburger Ha! NAILED IT BRO! Thanks!!!!!! @Wind I would suggest not incorporating any challenges in your visualizing. Different hints work for each of us of course. I think it's important to make a life journey in terms of the cleanliness and clarity of one' such thoughts. I am at a point where I don't need to consider the challenges because my vision is so strong that I don't encounter any. In my experience, "challenges" arise from thinking in terms of effort and completion. Because I know I am infinite, I see that nothing could ever be "done" or complete. So challenges to one person, are just the next fun thing I'll get insight and experience from to another.