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@zoey101 Never any use strewing. You can be free of it while he’s awake, freaking out about the choices he has made. You can be calm. You can breath from your stomach deeply. Yeah, it does suck. But you know what Zoey, this will pass, and something else will suck, then that will pass, and something else will suck, and that will go on until you stop and decide to breath - and say wait a minute, I can choose to look at this differently. I will be ok. It doesn’t have to suck. I can relax and breath. This right here is my life and I’m going to live it. I’m going to grow, not freak out. This is why God gave us breathing, making it impossible to both be alive, and be without. Breath in that peace. This is not hypothetical.

@LiakosN Now that is unconditional! I love you too!

Reality is a myth.

@zoey101 First sit and focus on breathing from your stomach. Relax every little muscle from the very top of your head, slowly through your neck, down you back, through your hips, down your legs, and let any tension flow right out through your toes. Do this over and over. Commit to it. Take your understanding (very wise of you) that it is not about you, and turn it into a realization. Realize it - and you can start to see that it is you, your perspective, your motives, which create your “Furious and hurt”. You don’t have to. I acknowledge this is not trivial, or easy. You acknowledge this is an opportunity for you to grow at lightening speed. You might be able to help. You can’t fight with him, you can’t argue. He will be deeply confused and he will think this is a problem going on with YOU and HIM. You must return your focus to breathing from your stomach. You can’t get sucked into arguing with him. You shouldn’t even be mad at him. That would be selfish. Just love him genuinely. Tell him to get the help he needs. Ideally, he would check into a rehab / hospital - TODAY. That is not on you though. You take care of you, and that little miracle of yours.

@zoey101 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8L-0nSYzg https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sRvLxc9AFvY https://www.rehabs.com/i-left-my-addicted-husbandand-it-saved-our-lives/ https://www.12keysrehab.com/dos-and-donts-for-helping-your-addicted-spouse/

@zoey101 Yeah. I know. Sit, breathe from your stomach. It is okay. It is. Ground yourself in your stomach breathing. It’s calm. You’re going to appreciate that calm when you talk to him. “What can I say?”. What do you want to say? How much is what you want to say about you? How much can you ACTUALLY center yourself with stomach breathing, and put yourself aside? He is doing the meth in an attempt to heal, to feel better. He is very lost. Disconnected from God. You can focus on yourself, and not give 2 shits about what he needs. Or you can put yourself aside, and help him. Calmness is the key. I know you got a lot on the line.I know. Calmness is the key. Be an example. Not a judge. This addiction is bigger than both of you. He’s going to need professional help, and you’re going to get a glimpse of how much love is in you, how deep it is. It’s going to blow your mind.

@zoey101 If you notice, when you first wake up, you have a clean mental slate. A brand new mind. Like a toddler. Not a care in the world! Notice upon awakening, that the ego remembers, reloads concerns, recreates worrys. Awareness of this alone is enough. The idea that you have ever been anything less than perfect, absolutely free, and loved - are just ideas. It’s wild, but, you created those ideas! You don’t need them anymore. You’re perfect, free, and loved.

@phoenix666 Freakin awesome man. Thanks for sharing!!!!!!❤️??

@DMM710 1g is a good amount to start. Make tea, don’t eat them. I’d write “Let go, surrender” on a piece of paper and have it around. You’re not going to feel any “stabbing in the neck” stuff. You might have an intense confusion feeling, and the piece of paper will remind you to breath, relax, and let go. Just sit back and let the medicine show you some truth. ❤️

Meditation, yoga, breath work, psych’s, etc.

@Widdle Puppy The world is suffering, some are in pain. Pain is accidentally getting your balls stuck in your zipper. Suffering is worry you’ll do it again, worrying others might do the same, reading books about this happening in history, starting a website so you can attract other people who worry about this too, eventually painting this color on your whole reality and worrying the rest of your life away. You just gotta grit your teeth unzip that shit, and move on.

@Slade There is a forum member who is just a bit ahead of you on that pursuit that would probably be a big help. I can’t remember his name. If you do some searches of words like comedy, stanp up, etc., you might find something he wrote on a post.

@Nathan Now you just have to realize you’re the actor. And have fun.

https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/17747-nonduality-meditations/#comment-181291 Breathe Awareness Meditation Stress is an extremely unhealthy condition. It causes the body to release the chemical cortisol, which has been shown to reduce brain and organ function, among many other dangerous effects. Modern society inadvertently encourages a state of almost continuous stress in people. This is a meditation that encourages physical and mental relaxation, which can greatly reduce the effects of stress on the body and mind. Sit still and pay close attention to your breathing process. Take a reposed, seated posture. Your back should be straight and your body as relaxed as possible. Close your eyes, and bring your attention to your breathing process. Simply notice you are breathing. Do not attempt to change your breath in any way. Breath simply and normally. Try to notice both the in breath and the out breath; the inhale and the exhale. "Notice" means to actually feel the breathing in your body with your body. It is not necessary to visualize your breathing or to think about it in any way except to notice it with your somatic awareness. Each time your attention wanders from the act of breathing, return it to noticing the breath. Do this gently and without judgment. Remember to really feel into the act of breathing. If you want to go more deeply into this, concentrate on each area of breathing in turn. Here is an example sequence: 1. Notice how the air feels moving through your nostrils on both the in breath and the out breath. 2. Notice how the air feels moving through your mouth and throat. You may feel a sort of slightly raspy or ragged feeling as the air moves through your throat. This is normal and also something to feel into. 3. Notice how the air feels as it fills and empties your chest cavity. Feel how your rib cage rises slowly with each in breath, and gently deflates with each out breath. 4. Notice how your back expands and contracts with each breath. Actually feel it shifting and changing as you breath. 5. Notice how the belly expands outward with each in breath and pulls inward with each in breath. Allow your attention to fully enter the body sensation of the belly moving with each breath. 6. Now allow your attention to cover your entire body at once as you breath in and out. Closely notice all the sensations of the body as it breathes. Repeat this sequence over and over, giving each step your full attention as you do it. Suggested time is at least 10 minutes. Thirty minutes is better, if you are capable of it. If you find yourself distracted by a lot of mental chatter, you can use verbal labeling as an aid to concentration. For example, on the in breath, mentally say to yourself, "Breathing in." On the out breath, say, "Breathing out." Another possibility is to mentally count each breath That’s good for relaxation and letting go. Learning to let go of the concerns we carry reveals to us we added them. Practicing mindfulness is practicing not adding them again. Anxiety is a false understanding and view of one’s self. It is chronic “serious person & serious reality ness”. That would take more intense practices.

@Nathan It only makes sense if everything actually is ok. If an actor from a scary movie suddenly yelled to you from inside the tv “Yo Nathan! Why are you watching a scary movie!!??” What would you tell him?

Of course it’s ok. You’re already on the path. What you‘re creating is the foundation of self actualization.

@egoless Yeah, and maybe as a reference point, I’m 43, I started working full time when I was 13.

Another thought on that, it really all relates to consciousness work. I find most people are pre-conditioned out of the whole idea of passive incomes, they don’t even entertain it, or learn, or ask. Being ‘spiritually free’, if you will, is a real game changer. No more fears and worries to try the new. Money imo, even in the biggest picture, is just a game of relativity. The illusion itself in that way. It’s like that street game of 3 cups and a peanut, and someone is either trying to win on their peanut bet, or realizing there is no peanut, and moving some cups.

@egoless Read, meditate, read, meditate...it’ll come to you. I think most if not all your personal obstacles have been worked on, and are now behind you. So in a way, you’re 99% there imo. Exercise and meditate every morning, high energy and a calm mind are a solid combo. I know you want specifics, but it’s too relative. Keeping your LP in mind, a YouTube channel is probably a great start. Maybe be a silent partner for something simple like a Subway- go cover 50% of the start up with someone who wants to quit their job and work there for a while and has the other 50%. Rental houses are great, but not sure what you mean by a small amount of money. Rental houses range from as low as 20K (down payment & closing costs 4K) upwards into hundreds of thousands. Not sure if you saw this on another thread, but just an idea on a 5 year plan to have around 100k passive income for life.... If you net 50k from a job, and live on 25k, you can buy 2 rental houses for around 60k each year. If the rent from each house is 1000 a month, and you put all of the net after taxes & insurance towards a 30 year mortgage, it’d take about 5 years to pay each house off. It’s similar to laddering cd’s or fixed annuities. You’d be ‘done’ with the process in 5 years, and income would go up as mortgages are paid off, incrementally, years 6-10. I have a realtor who goes and looks at the houses, gets the inspection done, and emails me the contracts to esign. So technically, my time invested is going to the closing, which is about 30 minutes. Took a little while to develop that relationship with him, but I bet if you called 5 realtors, 5 would say hell yes I’ll do that for you. Maybe once every two years something needs to be repaired, and I text the appropriate repair person. There are also online home auctions. People routinely get houses valued at 100-200k for 40k. It’s crazy. I’ve looked at that but haven’t tried it. That’’s just some info on one avenue. Some people can write a book in a week, and make residual commission from ebooks. Etc edit: Time invested, the closing, and also posting on free rental listing sites, and showing the house for a couple hours to pick a renter and sign a lease. I use Zillow.com. It has free listings, it automatically posts the listings to other sister sites, a simple rental application for tenants, and even a simple property manager page to keep track of things visually.

This probably sounds like nonduality snobbery, but my life doesn’t have a purpose. It is the purpose.

One is enlightened, no one is enlightened.

@egoless Ya. Some are on auto, some are under way, some I’m just starting the learning.

Death is just another name you go by.

@lightfruit Get down to nothing with honesty and inquiry. A single belief will be a barrier.

Residual passive income sources; Insurance sales, rental houses, song writing, book publishing, any turn key franchise (if you’re good with people & accountability), invent & patent, make an app, invest in someone’s start up, crowd funding real estate, REIT’s,affiliate marketing, drop shipping, YouTube channel & ads, air bnb’s, be a referralist, etc. Start where you can and parley it into the next larger income generating one. Delegation & outsourcing are key.