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If you can stop porn and masturbation altogether, every addiction will be easy to drop (except hard drugs of course).

Do something else with that energy, something that could benefits you, I don't know what, just look at your current issues and decide.

This is exactly when you should not.

If you have social anxiety: Force yourself to going out once per week (use these kind of websites if no friends). If you've little sex experience and it bothers you: Go on a weekly (or multiple) tinder "date", just focus on 35+ girls, if you explain what you want, most of them won't see any problem, they'll even be flattered. If you want a girlfriend/boyfriend and you're shy: Force yourself to talk to girls/boys at social events (at least one per week)/or online dating (at least 1 profile per day) if you're introvert and wants an introvert partner. Also practice your funnyness daily (as a guy). If you have fear concerning public speaking: Go join a toastmasters group (or whatever the wooof it is named in your country), impro class, book sharing (when you talk about what you read), pick one and do it every week. If you fear the dark: Every day for 5 minutes, turn off the lights and just wait. I don't know about fear of failure/intimacy, seems like it is either serious mental issues or just plain bad experiences (not enough of). Edit: Lul, just opened tinder, and I feel the fear coming up, ok so ... you I pick you So many fake profile SO MANY FAKE PROFILE, HOLY SHIT !

Truth, freedom, and fun. Don't you think this is a good excuse TO NOT awaken ? Where does theses excuses come from, hum ? Yeah, you know ...

Ahah, don't worry, it's the first time it happened in like 1 year. These kinds of hard time are the best opportunity for growing our consciousness, so I'm kind of grateful about it. Well, I won't stay in France forever, I kinda want to speak English correctly at some point, so maybe ... If I ever do that, I would start with a certain place in the US, which starts with C and finish with T ...

Clean eating No ejaculation Meditation habit Steady sleep schedule Workout/fitness habit (preferably in the morning) Stop alcohol/smoking, and any other kind of drugs Practising mindfulness (as much as possible), because thinking (especially negative thinking) is a HUGE energy drainer.

From my personal experience, yes it does, not sure what comes first, depression, or porn/masturbation addiction, whatever it is, it is highly connected. Don't let your brain rationalize this shit, this is one of the main thing that holds you back in life, IT IS NOT just about women attraction or sexual performance or whatever the shit your mind comes up with. http://fightthenewdrug.org/the-serious-mental-costs-of-watching-porn/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inside-porn-addiction/201111/daily-porn-may-not-be-good-your-mental-health http://yourdost.com/blog/2015/11/what-is-the-relationship-between-pornography-and-depression.html?q=/blog/2015/11/what-is-the-relationship-between-pornography-and-depression.html& https://www.2knowmyself.com/Why_masturbation_lowers_your_self_esteem_and_kills_your_self_confidence

Do you watch porn ?

His voice makes me wants to fuck him. @Martin123 Doge needs a good fuck once in a while too ! Doge loves ratio pointo

Maybe you're an introvert trying to live as an extrovert. If you don't know about that, of course your life feels miserable, it cannot be otherwise.

Not it's not, but to think this man (if he's celibate) won't want to have sex with you after that, this is crazy, this is madness. Unless you're unnattractive to him, there is no way he won't tempt something (maybe not this night, but later). Maybe when a new world will be born, freed from sexual repression and indulgence, like Osho depict in its book, but otherwise, it is very naive to think this way.

Just don't listen to him. So, did something changes ? Did you try some of the tips here ? @hirax And use http://www.urbeez.com/ It's like the one night stand for friendship, a friendship/relationship/sexship will appears out of it, just give it time

Enlightenment is random, so don't count on that. Porn is very bad for your psychee, thinking about sex too, you should only masturbate without any pictures in your mind. The first option probably work, that's what tantra is all about, but I didn't have the experience myself though. @The Monk It's not stupid, it's just sex, sex is sex, you have to live with it that's all.

That depends what "neediness for sex" means for you. Most of the time, it's not just sex, it's also the feeling of being loved. The need for sex, the craving for it, that you will always have, unless you "achieve" the 2 options above. @The Monk I said 2 options, the suicide wasn't a serious choice.

Practice tantra for like 3/4 hours, if you do it right, maybe you'll stop craving for sex. You could also commit suicide and be reincarnate into a demisexual/asexual person. There is enlightenement, but it could never happen, so ... Have fun !

Just watch this video and do the exercices everyday for one year. This is the most powerful shit I ever done after fixing my mind with meditation/mindfulness, There is no moment of boredom when you can entertain yourself that much, And it's simple !

Ego is just easier to say that "my thoughts patterns" or "conditioned mind", that's the only reason we use this word, we're fucking lazy To me there is no real entity, just beliefs that cloud reality and makes you think you're separated from all other things. The job is to debunk these beliefs/thoughts, that's all what is really needed, it feels painful because we think we ARE these thoughts, but these are just thoughts, it's abstractions and projections, it feels real, the same way as a dream. That's interesting because yersterday I was daydreaming, and a very sad imaginary moment came to my mind, and I was about to cry when I suddenly realized what was happening, I instantly laughed and there was no sadness anymore. Now this is what's happening worlwide, it's fantasy on top of fantasy on top of fantasy, the emotions are very real, but the content is pure fiction, it's all bullshit, there is no reason to be sad about anything.

1 day ! I made my probable fuck buddy laughed, ONCE !

Choose your name corresponding to what you want to be.

A relationship forces you to be conscious, and sex can be one of the most powerful meditation there is. I don't see why you would pass on this, if you really want to transcend. @username Don't force it, but work on yourself to be able to maintain it if it happens. You can last a while if you practice tantra solo anyway (maybe forever, I don't know).

This. OP, read "From sex to superconsciousness" from Osho, you'll understand why both east and west struggles to "produce" enlightened people (east diabolize sex, west doesn't take spirituality seriously). Sex isn't something you can't ignore, until you transcend it, and you can't transcend it if you don't accept it fully. We are animals, sex is the most sacred energy there is, how could you realize that you're god, If you ignore your own divine energy ? @username Osho talks a lot about tantra, and accepting your sexual craving. Tantra because this is how you can use sex to attain the divine, Sexual craving because if you have good quality sex whenever you feel the need too, you won't think about it that much, and it won't direct your life and take hold of your mind (practically, that means having a girlfriend, or lots of FWB). So he encourage people to have relationship and sex, but tells us that it needs to be transcend, because no matter how good you are sexually, it will become boring after a while, everything becomes boring after a while.

Why do you want to be an alpha male ? There is lots of guys who (think) they are, and they are miserable inside, so think carefully about this. Now, there is nothing wrong to raise your masculinity of course, that's the only way to feel authentic, and you'll never succeed in life if you don't take care of that anyway (succeeding in general, I'm not only talking about work or women). It is simple to be an "alpha" male, but it requires a lot of courage and to be brutally honest with yourself, You simply need these "skills": Confidence (where you are in life, about your insecurities/scars, your future perspective, your self worth) This has a lot to do with your self-esteem, once you take care of your self-esteem, confidence skyrocket almost instantly, because now you know you can do whatever the fuck you want if you take proper actions. Concerning women, the only way to be confident around them, is first to take care of your self-esteem/confidence level, then to start meeting more and more women, you'll realize that you're way more attractive than you think you are (if that's a problem for you, but I'm talking to everyone here). Humour/Playfulness (being able to make people laugh, to be able to laugh at yourself, being in a good and goofy mood) This is extremely simple to get, it just takes time, but you need to be confident to have the balls to say your jokes (cause when you start, it won't work most of the time). It is usefull for everything in life, and a very masculine guy is almost always very funny, it's the mark of leaders. Detachment (Women aren't your priority, you have a goal in life, you don't need anyone or anything to make you feel complete) This one is tricky, because almost no guy have this. A lot of them fake it, but to be able to really be detached, you either need to be a sociopath, or to be on the spiritual path (consciously or not). Assholes aren't really detached, they just fear to be vulnerable, and thus stop the interaction with women when they sense emotions could be involved. Edginess - adventurous, challenging Do you often take new habits ? Do you go out on special occasions to challenge yourself ? Do you do stupid stuff that makes no sense, just because it could be fun ? Well, if you don't, that's something to embody, not only it is fun, but without this attitude there is no way you can feel masculine, men can't just live without new goals, we're built to create and step outside our comfort zone. Intimate and dirty sex Pretty obvious, if as a man, you can't fuck like a beast, how could you even consider yourself as a male ? You don't necessarily need to fuck hundreds of women, not even 10, just learn to fuck properly and to be dominant (just be careful to not transform yourself into an asshole, outside of sex). Practice tantric masturbation (you'll have such an avantage over so many guys, and it boost your confidence and energy level), learn why preliminaries are so important to them and then do it correctly (everytime, even if she tolds you she just wants your dick), learn why they like to be dominated and how to do it properly, learn to control yourself (see tantric masturbation), learn how to make them squirt. I would start to build your confidence level with a spiritual practice, then all the other skills will be way easier to get.

That was just me trying to be funny, I don't think like this nor that I think I could Thank you. @Echoes @WaveInTheOcean Thank you

@ajasatya I've always wondered, why do certain enlightened people are in a relationship, and other are not. Why would you want to be in a intimate relationship with just one person, if you can feel divine love everywhere, from everything. The same question can be asked in reverse, why would you not want to be in an intimate relationship with juste one person, to go even deeper in that divine love. I know there is very few people that can answer to this, but it puzzles me, I'm kinda scare that I could make my girlfriend suffer (a lot) by realizing who I am, and just tell her "well, sorry brah, you're just one tiny fragment of me, why would I spend all this time just with you, this is non sense ! Get the fuck NOOOWWW !" You see.