UnbornTao

Either master whatever you're doing, or change jobs. If you're not gonna change it, then stop complaining and throw yourself into it. Consider what might I be overlooking? Where am I stuck in this domain? What lies beyond my comfort zone? Imagine what it'd be like for you to pursue what you say you want to do. With time you'd probably be equally "bored" and the choice to either master it or change it would have to be made once again. I think it's a matter of breaking your "box", so to speak. In other words, assuming that you master your field. Adopt a beginner's mind and set aside your presumptions. So basically open up and master it.

What does it take to forgive?

Rinzai! I love the raw, authentic quality of his communications. He was unpretentious and straightforward. Could say the same about J. Krishnamurti.

Being ruthless isn't necessarily a negative. Notice that whether it's positive or not depends on what one is being effective at! You can be ruthless and effective when it comes to teaching or inspiring, that is, not willing to compromise that goal for anyone's self-agenda, not even your own. For example, as a leader, Vernon Howard was ruthless and yet compassionate, in my view.

Yes. And much more healthy compounds! Green tea is considered a superfood for a reason. If you're concerned about becoming addicted then don't drink it or do so ocasionally. https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/top-10-evidence-based-health-benefits-of-green-tea

Legumes, spices and seeds! Turmeric, cinnamon, oregano, paprika, etc. You're also missing apples! Much more variety when it comes to fruits and vegetables: carrots, cabbage, red bell peppers, celery. Some high-quality fish or any other omega-3 rich food, like flaxseeds. Also you may want to drink green tea daily or from time to time.

Why do we pursue constant entertainment nowadays? What is boredom? What function does this need--and often, addiction-- serve? What do you gain by being entertained and distracted? What begins to surface in your experience when you allow yourself to simply be--when you permit the mundane? What if you stay with the present moment--utterly undistracted--for a while? Why is it that, in the absence of distraction, a subtle uneasiness or discomfort so often arises?

Can't go wrong with any vegetable or fruit. Read The 150 Healthiest Foods. A few of my favs: Blueberries Bananas Kiwifruit Pomegranate Red bell peppers Red cabbage Tangerines Red onions Apples Broccoli Spinach Kale Garlic Turmeric Coconut Dates Cruciferous vegetables are king. You can search healthline.com. Alternatively, the book above offers many reasons why these are considered the healthiest ones according to the author. It also cites various scientific studies.

It's a distinction, so relative. Logic gets to exist by contrast to that which isn't it. Only the absolute is absolute and the only way to settle the matter is by becoming conscious of it by oneself. It's not about logic. The nature of the absolute is paradoxical. It's absolute! Take care not to conflate the logic used to try to represent an enlightenment with the absolute.

When someone is part of your life, she becomes part of your self-identification. When you lose her, it can feel like a part of you is gone. Sometimes it just hurts and feeling pain is appropriate. No easy answer here, sorry. Just give it some time and allow yourself to feel the grief. It'll pass, eventually.

I'd check your bias. Consider first your cultural conditioning. If we had been raised in a polyamorous culture, monogamy would likely be the style to be criticized. Just pointing it out, not saying one is "better" than the other.

Seems like AI will eventually be able to do most of that stuff well. AI is another tool, another player. Having that relationship may be helpful. In any case, think of it like this: Would an artist stop producing art because of some technology, or because others generate art too? Who knows? Better to take one step at a time without much anticipation. Right now, creating content can be made for the sake of it. This won't change anytime soon, regardless of technological innovations. In fact, performing certain tasks is going to be empowered by these tools.

Could you share the source where it says turmeric contains heavy metals?

@Hardkill not exactly like that though I don't know what to recommend beyond this point. Perhaps learn basic dating principles, being that straightforward will put many people off.

Many people go to clubs just to have sex and it doesn't need to be romantic as far as I know. You can get clear from the beginning what the purpose of the relationship is. As long as the persons involved agree on it, I don't think that "romance" needs to happen. I imagine that it wouldn't hurt though.

You already know what to do. Travel, go to parks, beaches, museums, gyms, and other social gatherings and start talking to people. Sign up to a group activity, some sport like soccer perhaps. Eventually, you'll find people who you resonate with and who share your interests and values. Basically, expose yourself to social situations, be organic, natural, and see where it leads you. In the end, there's little more that can be gained from watching a video apart from the advice "go do it".

@integral "there goes my vitamin D."

The idea of having a single romantic partner for most of your adult life sounds a bit "unnatural" to me as a mating strategy. What do other animal species, especially mammals like apes, do? Something to research, perhaps. I think a more effective survival strategy would be having multiple ones, especially in the beginnings of humanity. So in that case that type of behavior would be "genetical" or natural somehow. It's a fact that marriage, monogamy and all beliefs associated with it seem to be relatively recent cultural inventions. What was survival like before these inventions, considering that historically it's been extremely rough? What's it like compared to other species? Notice your cultural bias when talking as one "style" having certain positive or negative connotations as opposed to the other. Though I don't know what I'm talking about ultimately, just sharing some impressions.

Noted, appreciate it.

No prompts on my part but ask what is it? How does guilt come about? Why is it there? What are its components? An open, direct inquiry is a better strategy in my view. Instead of tackling it as a conceptual or intellectual matter, look into the experience of guilt itself and wonder about it. Experience what it is. Hope that helps.

I haven't really studied his stuff yet but from a few of his quotes it's clear to me that he was enlightened. Appreciated the quotes!

Any activity can be enjoyed when carried out mindfully, as opposed to resisted--even if subtly. There is a richness to life that doesn’t depend on external events but arises from being fully present. What's your experience like when you allow yourself to delve into it? How does this affect your state? Being aware of, and sensitive to, one’s experience also enhances your performance.

Yep. Are they toxic? What about canned legumes like beans? I mean the "fast food" ones with tomate sauce and all that. They may contain some harmful compounds, I've read somewhere.

Soundtracks included? Epic music: Faded by Alan Walker Chopin.