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The forum should get restructured. 1. A video that clears up what the vision of Leo/Actualized.org is. 2. Two moderators who moderate this section of the forum, who actually know what they are talking about. The rest should stay out. Half the mods on this forum ARE those nerdy awkward people who don't know how to get/maintain a relationship. It's the blind leading the blind. We used to have a good one @aurumbut he left. Probably because he got tired of all the bullshit. 3. Close down the NoFap thread. It promotes whining and complaining. It's a failure in leadership is what it really is.

That's all fine and dandy but anytime a guy gets on this forum looking to improve his sex/love life he gets shot down by half the forum shaming him for wanting what he wants. Then the guy is made out to be shallow, non-spiritual, inauthentic, etc. etc. And my favourite: " But Leo says..." And the other half of the forum is trying to point these guys to all sorts of material and give him all sorts of advice how to get laid. What is a guy to believe? It's a shit storm of conflicting information. It's super confusing and conflicting for a guy seeking help. As a forum community we are not building these guys up.

I never resonated with Elliot Hulse. And I love full contact fighting sports. I have a lot of respect for bodybuilders. And growing up I would watch strong man contests on TV a lot. So that's not it. Logically you would think I would resonate ate with him. But I always thought something was off about him. And then you get this shit: Like WTF. Those are the same guys doing this: Then I am like ahhh, interesting. Now it all makes sense. I always had a gut feeling I didn't like Elliot Hulse. Now I know why. Like really you are building militia now and making WW2 style propaganda content? That's like Nazi shit. The thing is I am not even against the Red Pill. I even consider myself "Red Pill aware". I think Rollo Tomassi's Rational Male book series gives a lot of food for thought. The Red Pill has gained a lot of traction lately though. And there are many different bloggers and YouTube channels. Some of them of better quality then others. Some of them also go to unhealthy extremes. Like Anthony Johnson one if the guys in those videos I posted. Apparently Elliot Hulse is on board with him. I will not say this quickly about someone, but I do think Anthony Johnson is a Stage Red character. Most of the Red Pill is based on Blue/Orange or Orange believe systems. The better content comes in my opinion from the guys that lean heavy to the Orange side. But some others cross the line to the unhealthy side.

@Prada if you got money to burn then why don't you move to another neighborhood?

@Leo Gura dont you think that the whole PUA scene got a little to 'bubblegum' nowadays? Like there is more made out more of it then it is, rather then just sticking to some core principles?

I completely recognize what you are describing.

The Game by Neil Strauss. It's a classic but I haven't read it myself. The Rational Male series by Rollo Tomassi. Not technically PUA but Red Pill. Goes deep into the Sexual Market Place. Apparently that guy from Alpha Male Strategies wrote a book as well. The strategies on his YouTube channel are very effective.

Actually when I think about it, maybe sometimes you need to lay skills to rest to improve them further. Have you ever had that you played a video game and you got stuck at that one level and then you tried and tried but just could not beat that level? Then you didn't play for a while. Like a few days, or weeks, or months, and then all of a sudden you could beat that level in two or three tries.

You don't loose the skill. You get rusty. But you can knock that rust off rather quickly once you start using that skill again.

End of starting stage entering the the middle stage. One foot in both. When looking at the overall bigger picture. I have notice that every life chapter for me tend to last right around 6 years. I am starting the 5th Chapter now. Chapter 1: Age 11-16 Rebel Chapter (Stage Red) Smoking weed, cigarettes, listening to Hard Rock, Heavy Metal, Hip Hop, several alternative clothing styles, skipping classes in school, anti-authority. Overall just going against the grain for the sake of it. Chapter 2: Age 17-23 Sports Chapter (Stage Blue) Running, Weight lifting, Boxing. Values like courage, strength and honor, discipline, loyalty we're important to me during this stage. Chapter 3: Age 24-28 Professional development Chapter (Stage Orange) Wrappedup my college degree. Moved to the USA for a second education. Started climbing the first spots of the ladder in my career. Developing professional skills. Age 28-34 Player Chapter (Stage Orange) Developed myself as a Player in the Sexual Market Place. The main focus of my life was dating, sex, and intimate relationships. Got the skills to be proactive on the dating market. Gained a lot of experience and got to see behind the curtain of the lifestyle of sex, partying, and instant gratification. Age 35 - Writing as we speak. I think the last 6 years especially my growth has come mainly from developing my Blue parts into Orange parts. I used to be 20% Blue, 60%Orange, 20% Green. Now I scale myself as 75% Orange, 25% Green.

As long as you have a plan and you execute it well.

Thanks. This is helpful.

Most people on here are not Orange or Green. They are Orange-Green a combination of both. On the forum Green gets promoted a lot, and a lot of members nurture their Green sides. But I get the impression that a lot of members don't give enough thought to their Orange sides. I think it will stagnate their growth to Yellow. If they want to go to Yellow they will be forced to integrate their Orange side. (like become successful). I am not sure you need like Rockstar status success to go to Yellow. But I do think you need at least some modest success and recognition within society.

You should tell her: "Its not about what you want, it's about what you need" ?

Full contact Martial Arts has that element. Although it also has Blue, Orange, Green, and Yellow elements.

Could you ask your boss to hire a stagiaire or something? Or just ask him if it is ok you outsource the job. Idk. I don't know your exact dynamic.

INFP About 9/10 accurate for me.

More interesting for you is if your boss would find it unethical if/when he finds out. If I was your boss and I found out I would fuck you up against the wall. Kind of depends on how much you are atacheted to keeping this job I guess. Also it would not look good for further job referral.

@Shakazulu I definitely think luck is a big factor in finding 'the right' partner. Then again as my boxing trainer liked to say: " Luck is when preparation meets opportunity". I think there is truth in that as well. When you are well prepared you will have a better chance to capitalize on that opportunity. Also you need tenacity. Just keep going. You got to create a lot of situations to help luck a little bit.

@Dylan Page I think another scenario is we all get hooked up to Virtual Reality and we can be anything we want to be in that world. So a 70 year old man can be a 18 year old boy. Or a T-Rex dinosaur or whatever.

I am just fantasizing. I don't know how far they can push it or what's possible or not. I would think that during my lifetime they will be able to start artificially extend life by use of better drugs, implants, and more advanced mechanical parts. I don't think people give up because of their body. I think they give up because they are tired of constantly being beaten down and running the rat race, or something like that. They just lose their joy in life.

I would. The way I see it is that I would slowly become more and more machine though. Eventually I would be a robot with my whole consciousness downloaded on a computer chip. Although that sounds cool, what if all people are going to do this? Then we got to start controlling the birthrate. Since it's overcrowded as it is. Also Just to be a bit cynical: Most people stop 'living' by age 30/40. Stop living in the sense that they are not really trying to do anything with their life anymore. Their soul has died off at that point. What's the point for them to keep living forever. Give some new contenders a shot at the title.

Maybe partly outsource it? Like take care if the sensitive parts yourself? If possible.

Yeah that's what she wants. What do you want? I don't think that's what you want. I think the decision has been made for you.