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Thomas Hübl seems to be a German mystic and teacher with a focus on collective trauma.

@Leo Kaminski Good answer. I get it's not a pressing issue. I think the pointer for development in this conversation might be to observe the forms of connection which are not based on physical attraction. Could be interesting

Well then, why not mindfully follow the rule?

But why would you want that? Do you hear the contradiction in your statements? You wish for a certain outcome, but you want it to happen "naturally". What if the natural reaction to your authentic self isn't love, but hate? What if it's mild interest? What if it's indifference? "Be spontaneous!" is an impossible order to fulfil. Having someone fall in love means stirring up their unconscious. It means displaying qualities that they have repressed and would love to acquire back. It happens as a rather unwanted side-effect with teachers, artists, spiritual leaders and gurus, and more intentionally with rock stars and cult leaders. All of these play powerful, yet somewhat concealed, personas on stage, a great screen for projection. I acknowledge this is a somewhat crude form and you may be producing a somewhat less one-sided connection even in your 10-min talks, but if you want someone to fall in love, this element is likely there. Why do you want it? Why girls, not guys? Why build a connection if you have no interest in continuing the relationship - is it a genuine connection from your side than? It sounds like you want power over girls. You want to know that you can have anyone you decide on. But don't you really want to relate with people who are as sharp & strong as you? Don't you want the 10-min connection, when it happens, to be as infatuating and meaningful for yourself, as it seems to be for the other? I don't think that's something you can produce on command. Not with everyone. It's possible that your shadow reason isn't power. Maybe you genuinely lack something which can be found - or which you think can be found - in that connection. Investigate! Somehow I'm genuinely interested in the answer

Hello, Nahm Why are you asking the OP this question? (genuinely confused)

Just buy it. Don't worry, the course won't make you decide to follow your passion and be poor - although it is true that it advocates following higher goals than just being rich. What it will make you do, is to have a close look at your authentic values. So if freedom is one of them, you'll understand much better what freedom means to you and how important it is compared to your other values after taking the course.

Yes, mastery and confidence are attractive. I don't know what your field is, but if you speak about something confidently in public, you may as well have a bunch of fan-girls follow you. Let me warn you though that this is quite insufficient as a basis of a relationship. You'll still have to get to know the other person, and they will get to know the real you outside of your domain of mastery, in your greatest vulnerabilities. The rose-coloured glasses a girl gets when she sees someone who's confident in their field - take care to get them off early. Like, first date already, you should be letting her see who you really are aside from that persona. Otherwise, you can end up with some serious incompatibility in your relationship, when she expects that superhero that she saw talking, while you, in fact, very much need someone who's able to love the much more tender parts of yourself.

(Disconnection from the bodies sensations is a prime symptom of trauma.) I'm listening to interviews with rather interesting people in this online event https://collectivetraumasummit.com/ They make the talks available for a limited amount of time - four more days to go. If you're an aspiring therapist or actualizer interested in understanding their own legacy, it's worth listening to some of these, or just going through the list of speakers and googling them. The organizer, Thomas Hübl, seems to teach a bit of spirituality.

I don't know how serious your injury is, but recognize that your body genuinely needs energy to heal, so resting when injured is not a failure of will, it's necessary. Otherwise, please listen to other people, my daily routines suck

What would be the difference from this forum?

@Leo Gura Are you still happy with the content of the life-purpose course, or would you make any major adjustments?

How to have a healthy relationship with my parents as an adult?

How do I decide if I want kids? What if I still "don't feel ready" in my 30ties?

Sounds quite cool

I'm not sure what your opportunity is exactly, but it sounds beautiful (I've got images of dragons growing out of fancy non-specific visuals in my head right now.) People who are into fantasy typically do have a vivid visual imagination and can appreciate a sense of wonder & an appreciation of a good story = the heroes journey. Appeal to their curiosity. Make them intuit there is more behind the curtain. Make them find the courage of a hero and carry it over to their real life, if you can find a way to do that. Can you make it a VR project? Have people walk through your beautiful world and really fight the dragon of their fear? Connect digital art with LARP? All depends on your finances and your audience obviously. No idea. Just brainstorming. Also, found a post about something remotelly similar. https://www.reddit.com/r/askphilosophy/comments/6i71tv/what_video_games_explore_philosophical_topics_well/)

Ask people you do know if they know any entrepreneurs. If they do know someone you might want to talk with, ask them to introduce you, or ask for a contact. Ask your friend's friend, the entrepreneur, if they are willing to sit down with you for a coffee and tell you about their business. They may decline, but a lot of people are willing to help out somebody who's a beginner. They may not become your friends, but they might be willing to spend an hour with you. Before you go talk to them, know what you want to achieve. Have specific questions prepared. If you know what you need to ask them, and can be hopeful about your prospects to succeed as a coach, there's a chance they'll have a pleasant time sharing their experience. Btw., don't just gather experience from those who succeded, also talk to those who didn't and think about how to do better.

Is it possible that it a fear / limiting belief ? Like you think that 20 will be way more difficult then 10, so your mind goes nuts? I'd observe your expectations and subtle fears when you sit down today.

@Byun Sean That's what I also thought. Maybe you can form partnerships with other artists who are more focused on making raw material. You'd have to find some people with a similar "raising consciousness" vision, but since there are artists who want to inspire people or make them aware of global problems. Can you imagine being the tech/IT expert for people making a documentary? (note that I don't understand the industry)

Sometimes I'm not sure. Am I really depressed less often? It's giving me hope, that's for sure, but how much is just a dream I hold on? Then I talk to someone and realize they're having a problem that I've already overcome. What I'm sure is, that what I'm coming to experience and understand are deep answeres to my curiosity.

Do you know how to teach other people safely, or do you only know what works for you? (<-good reason to take a certification for teachers) Showing your customers that you're certified is not a bad thing. If you have the time, I would start the training & start teaching at the same time, or start teaching and get the training soon. You can get more out of the course if you already have some teaching experience, and you don't get demotivated by having to do a training first, if you start teaching right away.

@Hardkill What I'm reading is, that you made progress by even attempting the placement job. This time, you got a lady who couldn't handle your peculiarities. That's partly her shortcoming. If you can, apply again, try again. The reasons why you could not continue you know from hearsay, but they sound plausible. You could take precautions next time, such as talking to the person you're working with upfront. You could say something like: 'I have Asperger's. I know I can be awkward. If I come too close into your personal space, please tell me right away, I can't pick up clues, but I'll withdraw if told. Sometimes I don't understand instruction when told the first time. I will do my best to ask for clarification, but I ask for patience. If you are uncomfortable with me for other reasons, please give me feedback, I'll listen. Thank you very much for your willingness to help me out.' Rejection hurts, but it says equally as much, or even more, about the person doing the rejecting. You need to find a something that you're willing to do, and some people who are willing to accept you - could take a while, but it's not impossible. Create the best possible social conditions for you, but please don't give up on job search!

@lmfao I've been on mood-stabilizing medication for awhile. I'm now off it, because I wanted to experiment with holotropic breathwork and other stuff (where medication is quite clearly going in the opposite direction). During my worse times, I still sometimes doubt if it was the right move, but I know that I've grown both on meds and without them. I do think medication can be a valuable crutch. My opinion is, if you have this important change coming, and your current medication is working, don't change it just because you're afraid it might get worse. Instead, take life-style precautions. Only if your anxiety gets worse despite, don't hesitate to take more medication. SSRI's are quite ok. Anxiety medication is more of a bitch, and should only be taken short-term, if at all possible. The start of the academic life is challenging in many ways - change of environment & change of everything, isolation from your support people (family of origin), demands of the study program, competitiveness etc., so I suggest these lifestyle precautions: Even if you live in a students' dorm, sleep well and eat well (learn to cook)! Do whatever exercise routine is right for you. Of course, do have a meditation habit. (For me, the "do nothing" technique reduces anxiety, but that's just me.) If your school has a counsellor of a support group for students struggling with mental health, get into the program - or get therapy elsewhere. Try to build some quality friendships, so that you have people to turn to. Study regularly during the semester & try to keep up with lectures, so that you don't have to be extremely anxious about the increased workload during the exam period. If you're getting lost in a complex topic, get help. Do have a hobby that is very different from studying and helps you recharge. It should be possible to do something you love in addition to the course load. These are not imperatives - different people are helped by different stuff. If you can implement some of the points and keep them throughout the year, that's already great. Just don't let your life fall apart in a lonely, anxious cycle of thoughts where you feel lost and are afraid to get help, ok? In addition, I think you should go through the specific points of despair you had last year, and brainstorm some solutions that might address your personal hangups. If that's difficult, Leo's pre-mortem video, or a therapist, might be of help.

Very interesting topic. I'm experiencing - perhaps - a similar kind of resistance, not towards learning, but when it comes to physical exercise. I've heard and understood a thousand times how it's important to move my body. I've been told some people can do so joyfully, but when it comes to me exerting effort to move, I hit a wall (like, I HATE it). I experience the joy of movement occasionally, when the activity isn't too demanding no pressure was present (like in free dance or swimming), but never enough to get me moving with any kind of regularity. I'd like to shift this, because I know otherwise my body will just fall apart. I'll follow the thread.

@Alfonsoo Can you give more context? Are you asking, because you want to find some people to have deeper conversations with, or because there's a specific person you care about who isn't very expressive of their emotions?

@Michael569 I'm Czech