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You are not the one who doesn't want to exist. You are awareness being aware of the ego that doesn't want to exist. If the ego doesn't want to exist then you can disidentify from the desire to not exist. This way the part of the ego who doesn't want to exist simply disappears. But you, awareness, remains, with your indifference to existing or not existing. Just ask yourself: who is the one in me who doesn't want to exist?

There's a misunderstanding here. Being enlightened doesn't mean being dead. Being enlightened means simply not resisting life. But some people have to experience death during meditation or psychedelics, so that life can restart flowing back into them, but without resistance this time. Exactly. Probably that's why you were born here

Living is a mature form of entertainment. It's the game of gods. And what else would you do? Would you rather turn off the game (die) and meditate forever in the darkness? Of course, it's all pointless. That's the point. This way it's not a mistake to do anything you want. Appreciate it. That's the main thing that's missing from your perspective: just a little appreciation that experiences, no matter how foolish those are, exist.

That's a great experience, thanks for sharing I'm also stubborn and overbearing. But I can laugh about it. Yes, I said: "Whatever we feel right now is already inevitable, so there's no sense in arguing with it. Just accept it as the truth of the present moment and then it's harmless, it might even fall away." But this simply accepting works only for emotions, and not always even for those. There's a huge misunderstanding among spiritual people. Some people are like "Just accept everything and relaaax. Don't do anything, just beee! Btw, can I sleep on your couch tonight?" Accepting doesn't mean inaction. Accepting means that you fully see the state of the present moment without trying to make it nicer in your head, or without lying to yourself about it. Then, when you have a clear picture through acceptance, you address the situation with your full power. Either you improve yourself, or you leave the situation so that it doesn't concern you anymore. But inaction is not acceptable in life. Try it, and life will prove it to you. Don't just accept the cold and the thirst. "Chop wood and carry water!"

I want to help you because we're a perfect fit for each other. You're open to spiritual ideas but you have some unresolved emotional issues. You're not completely crazy, you're not suicidal, you just want to clean up your emotional space so that it allows you to focus on more important things. Alright, that's enough about you, let's talk about ME! I'm the perfect fit for you because, first of all, I don't know you. I'm not your friend (yet), so I don't know your past, I don't know anything about you so I can't judge you based on anything. And you don't know me either, so you don't feel awkward or ashamed to share something personal with me. And because we don't know each other, we can start fresh, with a clean page, anything you tell me is gonna be new for me and I can give you a new perspective on it. I want to do this because I like to think that I've accumulated a lot of knowledge and wisdom about my own emotional issues. I did this with the help of powerful psychedelics and meditation. And it would be a pity if I don't share it or I don't help others with it. If this goes well, I'll shift my career in this direction and I'll do it full time. But for a year, I'll do this a few hours in the morning, right after I woke up, to serve you with the most productive state of my mind. It's gonna be completely selfless, free of charge (until I really become a professional). If you're interested, send me a private message, or post on this thread, or just mention my username in other topics. We can stick to messaging, but we can also do calls, video chats, whatever you prefer. Would be great if we could keep this topic alive so that others who need this can easily discover it. If you see this thread dying, just shitpost anything, funny spiritual memes are the best for this

@Leo Gura ultimate truths cannot be translated to words, so you are not a prophet. Prophets don't exist. You are a spiritual entertainer. But don't be bothered if your art doesn't entertain some people. You are not speaking to them anyway.

Do you think a biological computer could ever become conscious? Can it have a soul? Why or why not? , I think consciousness is a faculty of the soul and I think the soul was placed by some higher power (God if you please) and regardless of what biology nature produces I don't think nature can get to the point where it can create a soul or consciousness. I do however I think there is a point nature could get to that is a exceptional simultion of consciousness. For example, If any of you have ever tried those new 20 questions games with a human. Those humans are scary and they are aparantly thinking and reading your mind. I do not know how they do it but it's pretty convincing. Just to note They ask you 20 questions and then they tel you what you're thinking of, they guessed spider monkey..not just monkey, spider monkey!! It's unreal

Thank you for the question! The key to this is understanding your own mental-emotional system. Deep down everyone is understanding and empathic. Consciousness sees, understands, and feels with others, that's its nature. So we're always understanding and empathic, but we don't notice it because of the additional stuff that the ego puts on it. When someone is judgemental, that bothers our egos in two ways: 1. If the person is judgemental towards us then our little self feels hurt. If we identify with the self then we believe that the judgment of others can harm us, so we keep distance from them. To get out of this perspective, we have to disidentify from the self and recognize that what we really are cannot be hurt by anything. 2. If someone is judgemental towards others then through empathy we feel the judgment in ourself and that again hurts our self-image: "I'm spiritual, I can't be judgmental, this person is a bad influence on me, therefore I have to keep distance from them". So just as you said, as you grow more spiritual you're bothered more by other people's judging behavior. To solve this, we have to drop the identification with the spiritual role and start accepting everything that arises in ourselves. Whatever we feel right now is already inevitable, so there's no sense in arguing with it. Just accept it as the truth of the present moment and then it's harmless, it might even fall away. The other way to solve this is to just stop taking yourself seriously. Seriousness is heavy because it's filled with identity. So just let it go. When you recognize the judgment in you, just smile at the silliness of it, it's just a childish behavior of the little self, there's no reason to take it seriously. A quote about this that I really like: "Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly"

It sounds like something I would like to listen to. Wanna share the link?

This can work only in a casual way. Misery is just a serious drama in people's heads. Adding more seriousness to it won't help anyone. And misery is the normal human state. Everybody is miserable on some level. For example, I am so miserable that I became an "expert" in understanding misery Btw, by asking "Do you wanna vent about it?" I meant: Do you wanna talk about your misery?

Wanna vent about it? I think I wouldn't be good at that. I'm effective only if the person is open-minded enough. And I wouldn't like it because I also want to build up friendships. I want the person I'm working with to trust me over time enough to open up and express sincerely how they really feel.

You're welcome. But I'm doing it for selfish reasons, in the future, I want to start a career out of this. I just need more experience, so I'm experimenting on you guys

Only 1 (ONE!) person messaged me so far. C'mon guys and girls, I know that you're all miserable af!

Thanks, it's my guilty pleasure to criticize religion

My body is my child. I'm here to help him through his life.

So what if you go to hell? If you do then we're all going with you anyway. Stop trying to be an exception! Religious people kinda have a greed for the perfect afterlife, they sacrifice everything just to get to heaven...

Whenever you do something addictive, it's because deep down you're okay with this. You tell yourself that you want to quit, that you want to spend your time with other things, but those are just lies. The problem is that you've already lowered your self worth so much that now you're simply okay with fact that you're just a regular dude who watches porn. We can only change the things about ourselves that we're not okay with. If your hair was on fire, you wouldn't come to this forum to ask for advice on how to quit the fire on your head. You would quit the fire immediately, by whatever means. You would even jump into a lake if necessary. Because you're simply NOT OKAY with your hair being on fire. But you're okay with watching porn and just living your whole life with an addiction that wastes several hours of your time every single week of your life... Or are you okay with this? Are you okay with being this type of a person? Next time before you start watching porn or do anything addictive, just ask yourself: "Am I okay with this?" I've learned this from Kapil Gupta, next time instead of watching porn, search for his name on YouTube instead.

It's a 2 step process: 1. Realize that it's just drama. When you feel intense emotions, it's because your mind creates a story and you believe that you're a character in that story. Whenever you want to let go of an emotion, first see the absurdity of it, intensity it and blow it out of proportion, add some dramatic background music to it. If you do this, you'll realize that it's just like you're in soap opera, it's ridiculous, so just let go of it 2. Instead of focusing on the emotion, focus on what you are. Focus on the aware space around the emotion. Then let go of the idea of a "space" and just focus on awareness. Whatever the content of your mind is, just focus on the awareness of it.

Think of other people as your past or future self. They're a reflection of you but from a different timeline. The benefit of this perspective is that it triggers a lot of empathy when interacting with others.

To talk about personal development and spiritual development first we have to specify exactly what we mean by these. I would assume that by personal development you mean developing the skills to relate to others. And by spiritual development, you might mean developing the skills to relate to yourself (or no-self). In my experience, these two kinds of skills are pretty much interdependent, they develop together. For example, when I have a conversation with someone (even now, with you ), it's a training ground for expressing myself as honestly as possible. So it improves two skills: honesty and self-expression. For me, these are very important spiritual skills, and I'm practicing them through my personal development process. And it works the other way around as well. The skills that I'm developing while being alone and meditating are pretty useful in my personal life. For example, when I'm alone doing shadow work and I'm facing my feelings, then I'm learning to see my thoughts/emotions more clearly. And I'm also learning to see how I'm lying to myself about certain things and how can I be more honest with myself. These skills help me a lot to relate to other people because if I clearly see my own thoughts/emotions, then it's much easier to recognize them in other people. And if I learn to be more honest with myself then it's much easier, to be honest with others. And those people that you like, probably love honesty. They actually crave it. It's such a rare thing to meet someone who is totally honest and open about everything, especially about deeper topics. So I just learn to be honest, for the sake of others and myself.

Exactly. Truth is the present moment. But what is your perspective on the present moment? Are you looking at it from a separated point of view? Or are you actually one with what you experience? Psychedelics are "just" for realizing that you're actually one with what you experience (the present moment).

It's not that you don't have free will. Your will is free. Your will is actually so free that you can't control it. So it's not that you can't control where you look because you can certainly control that. But how do you control where you want to look? No free will actually means that you don't have any freedom about what you will (want). And your wants control your life. So if you're not free from your wants then you're not free at all.

For me it's very simple: If I feel a negative emotion that's when I know that something is wrong with my perspective, so I just disregard it as falsehood.

The problem is not with what you see. The problem is your perspective on it. You're looking it from a self-centered perspective, this is why it's not satisfying. You care wether you are valuable enough. If you want a satisfying life, you should look at everything from a decentralized (selfless) perspective. You should look around you and notice who needs more self worth, and then try to provide it to them. If you habitually give others what you need, that's the most effective way to have it yourself. This works with everything. This is Karma itself.

When people are telling you that "I can't explain it, you have to do the work", that just means that they don't understand it well enough to put it into words. Sometimes I'm also guilty of this, but now I'm attempting to answer this question for you now. You have to see the want of the ego first to see that it's not what you really want. The ego wants mostly two things: avoid pain get pleasure/comfort Notice that these two things won't help you to evolve. If you avoid pain then you won't get stronger, if you're in your comfort zone, you don't develop yourself. So if you love yourself, you have to accept pain and discomfort in your life because that's what keeps you growing. But suffering is unnecessary. Suffering is not pain. Suffering is the resistance against what is. So you suffering is the want to get out of pain. And suffering is also the want to get more pleasure/comfort. So basically, every egoic want is in itself suffering. Once you realize, that you don't want to suffer anymore, you'll start to want the present moment more than anything, simply because that's the best training ground for your self-development. The present moment is also the Truth. In spirituality, wanting the Truth is the same as wanting the present moment. It's that simple. Everything leads to this. Alan Watts did an amazing job explaining the nature of desires: