Barna

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  1. Think of other people as your past or future self. They're a reflection of you but from a different timeline. The benefit of this perspective is that it triggers a lot of empathy when interacting with others.
  2. To talk about personal development and spiritual development first we have to specify exactly what we mean by these. I would assume that by personal development you mean developing the skills to relate to others. And by spiritual development, you might mean developing the skills to relate to yourself (or no-self). In my experience, these two kinds of skills are pretty much interdependent, they develop together. For example, when I have a conversation with someone (even now, with you ), it's a training ground for expressing myself as honestly as possible. So it improves two skills: honesty and self-expression. For me, these are very important spiritual skills, and I'm practicing them through my personal development process. And it works the other way around as well. The skills that I'm developing while being alone and meditating are pretty useful in my personal life. For example, when I'm alone doing shadow work and I'm facing my feelings, then I'm learning to see my thoughts/emotions more clearly. And I'm also learning to see how I'm lying to myself about certain things and how can I be more honest with myself. These skills help me a lot to relate to other people because if I clearly see my own thoughts/emotions, then it's much easier to recognize them in other people. And if I learn to be more honest with myself then it's much easier, to be honest with others. And those people that you like, probably love honesty. They actually crave it. It's such a rare thing to meet someone who is totally honest and open about everything, especially about deeper topics. So I just learn to be honest, for the sake of others and myself.
  3. Exactly. Truth is the present moment. But what is your perspective on the present moment? Are you looking at it from a separated point of view? Or are you actually one with what you experience? Psychedelics are "just" for realizing that you're actually one with what you experience (the present moment).
  4. It's not that you don't have free will. Your will is free. Your will is actually so free that you can't control it. So it's not that you can't control where you look because you can certainly control that. But how do you control where you want to look? No free will actually means that you don't have any freedom about what you will (want). And your wants control your life. So if you're not free from your wants then you're not free at all.
  5. For me it's very simple: If I feel a negative emotion that's when I know that something is wrong with my perspective, so I just disregard it as falsehood.
  6. The problem is not with what you see. The problem is your perspective on it. You're looking it from a self-centered perspective, this is why it's not satisfying. You care wether you are valuable enough. If you want a satisfying life, you should look at everything from a decentralized (selfless) perspective. You should look around you and notice who needs more self worth, and then try to provide it to them. If you habitually give others what you need, that's the most effective way to have it yourself. This works with everything. This is Karma itself.
  7. When people are telling you that "I can't explain it, you have to do the work", that just means that they don't understand it well enough to put it into words. Sometimes I'm also guilty of this, but now I'm attempting to answer this question for you now. You have to see the want of the ego first to see that it's not what you really want. The ego wants mostly two things: avoid pain get pleasure/comfort Notice that these two things won't help you to evolve. If you avoid pain then you won't get stronger, if you're in your comfort zone, you don't develop yourself. So if you love yourself, you have to accept pain and discomfort in your life because that's what keeps you growing. But suffering is unnecessary. Suffering is not pain. Suffering is the resistance against what is. So you suffering is the want to get out of pain. And suffering is also the want to get more pleasure/comfort. So basically, every egoic want is in itself suffering. Once you realize, that you don't want to suffer anymore, you'll start to want the present moment more than anything, simply because that's the best training ground for your self-development. The present moment is also the Truth. In spirituality, wanting the Truth is the same as wanting the present moment. It's that simple. Everything leads to this. Alan Watts did an amazing job explaining the nature of desires:
  8. When you're dreaming, you imagine the world based on the the neurotransmitters in your brain. When you're awake, you imagine the world based on the neurotransmitters in your brain and sensory input. So it's always an imagination, only the input differs. And the thing is that whenever you ask a "what" question, the answer is always gonna be a false belief. Because reality doesn't have "whats", it doesn't have objects. An object is a human concept, but reality is far deeper than concepts like this. If you want to go deeper, try asking "how?" instead of "what?" And the answer to the "how?" question is: Exactly the way it's happening right here right now. It can't be explained to you, only you can explain it to yourself because you are experiencing it far deeper than words are able to describe it. This is why masters don't ask a lot of questions from other people.
  9. I feel personally offended! It's not confusion. It's simply not knowing. And that's part of the process. The less beliefs we have about the future, the less we "know" about it. The end goal is to realize that we don't know anything, because only then can we be free of all our beliefs. And then we can be guided by something deeper than the cold mental logic that makes sharp distinctions between"good actions" and "bad actions".
  10. I think it's wrong to kill anything that wants to survive. But in order to have a want, one needs to have a sophisticated enough nervous system. For example, animals have a sophisticated nervous system (they have a brain), so I wouldn't kill animals. But a few weeks old embryo doesn't have a sophisticated nervous system, therefore it doesn't have a want yet, so I guess abortion is okay in this case. And let's not forget that if the parents want to have an abortion, there's probably a good reason for that. And if I was an embryo, I wouldn't want to get born into a family that didn't even want me in the first place. Would you? Anyway, I think you misunderstood when Leo said that "God loves abortion". Because Leo also said that "God loves rape" and "God loves torture"... So what Leo meant, is that God loves everything that's already happening. Without exception. Because God is all-loving. Try to deal with this.
  11. Thanks, I just watched the first episode. The style is a bit childish form me, but the conversations are pretty deep! Here's another one that I really like:
  12. Teach and serve others from your deepest understandings as long as they can receive it. Once your teachings and services get too advanced for the people, pull back from the public and start to focus more on yourself. And later you can come back again as a teacher, but on a much higher level, like Jesus Fucking Christ
  13. It's not only the static things or situations that are beautiful. Progress and continuous evolution are also beautiful. I think the most beautiful thing about existence is that it's always transforming. And I like to take part in this transformation process.
  14. Yep. The most vivid dream of our lives is the one that we're dreaming right now
  15. Reality is not falling apart. Only your limiting beliefs about it.
  16. I'm not more awake than the average Joe here, so I won't give you an answer. But I can still ask you a question, right? Do you find joy in helping others? Can you imagine a career for yourself that would help to make the planet a better place? Actually, this civilization that we have is beautiful when we look at it from the right perspective. We're practicing giving service to each other and we're earning money this way. I could spend my time with skydiving or kite-surfing (and I probably will, at some point), but right now I enjoy being in service for humanity.
  17. From which perspective are you asking this? Are you asking if love is the acceptance of the little me? Or are you asking if love is the acceptance of consciousness? Consciousness already accepts everything. Your current experience is happening because you (as consciousness) accept every single detail of this experience. This acceptance is the love of consciousness. But the acceptance of consciousness has nothing to do with past or future. Consciousness can accept only the now because this is the only thing that's real. But in this now moment, you can accept your current thoughts and feelings about the past and future. So don't try to accept the past or the future. Human consciousness is not capable of accepting the past or the future. If it was capable, then we would experience multiple timelines at the same time.
  18. In order to do proper advanced science, you need an AGI system attached to your cortex. This technology would be an absolute game-changer for humanity. Compared to this, the alien anti-gravity machine is just a silly toy.
  19. I don't want to be a party doomer (I'm obviously gonna be though), but does it really matter whether aliens are here or not? How does it change your daily life? How does it change your goals? If it's not relevant to you, why does it take up thought-space in your head? What if Earth is just as boring as it seems to be? Have you ever faced this fear?
  20. I think it's a pretty useful question. We just have to utilize it in a useful way. Comparing degrees of consciousness is silly when the ego turns it into a dick measuring contest. But this is not the only way to look at this question. For example, if you want to find a new master for yourself, then it's pretty useful to ask the public's opinion. Because you can find new names that you have never heard before, or you can see some old names that you can see from a new light, considering other people's perspectives and arguments. I have no idea which masters had the deepest realizations. I think you can't know that without meeting them face to face. But you can see, even from videos, which masters have integrated enlightenment the most into their personality and into their teachings. And I think the clear winner here is Adyashanti. I've been in the spiritual search for many years, and for many years I didn't resonate with Adyashanti at all. I think he is like olives. Your taste has to mature to be able to like it.
  21. Exactly. But this is all content. Fear and hate can only appear when we ignore the context. Experience is the content and consciousness is the context. We tend to forget that consciousness is infinitely intelligent. It's so intelligent that it doesn't matter what kind of experiences it's experiencing, it can always turn those experiences into its benefit. It's like a machine that you can fill with dirt or shit and it will always produce the best quality of DMT. There is no experience that can hurt or slow down consciousness in any way. There is nothing bigger than consciousness. Once we realize that, then there's no hate or fear of anything anymore.
  22. I just noticed that there are not only mental beliefs, but there are also emotional beliefs. Emotional beliefs are beliefs that we don't necessarily believe mentally, but we believe them emotionally. I feel like in my case, all negative emotions (even the subtle ones, like tiredness) are coming from one emotional belief: the feeling/belief of being small. I thought to share this because this might apply to many of you. I feel like the belief of being small is one of the core emotional beliefs of the ego. Because the emotional system of the ego comes from the belief that it's a small entity in a big, infinite world. And I don't believe it mentally, but my emotions seem like they're reacting from this belief of "I'm small and therefore I have to protect myself" or "I'm small and therefore I have to get bigger / own more". And it feels like when I let go of this belief, all negative emotions fall away, like, they don't have any solid ground anymore. Just try this out, and see what happens. But I'm pretty high right now. So take this for what it is
  23. For me hate feels like a fear of becoming something. Like, when I hate a politician, that's the same feeling as being afraid of becoming that politician.
  24. I feel like hatred is not a root issue. I cannot hate without being afraid, but I can be afraid without hating anything. So for me, fear feels more fundamental, that's why I'm targeting fear mostly.