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can you tell me which music you mean?

The link is ego.

I always make the analogy that life purpose is like the ultimate race car. It will make you happy like nothing else in this world can do, no relationships, no yacht, no house, no sex will be on that level. It is the greatest gift you can get. When you are on track with your life purpose its like activating the "easy" mode in life. However hard and long hours you are going to work. So yeah it can be seen as a distraction. Who is distracted?

Great advice! So you mean a video where you talk about what should be in the proposal and how you use it to make the project or something more general? Do you have an example maybe?

The high conscious way is to be aware of your negative thoughts and believes. All your insecurities are literally caused by a lack of awareness (Remember, there are no problems in the now). But all good, most girls are also insecure. Insecure about their jobs, their looks, social interactions.... whatever. The one thing I would focus on is your confidence in regard to them (girls, specifically the girl you are talking to / dating right now). This is the biggest one, as it manifests in the moment when you talk to her or want to get physical. Notice any negative thoughts arising, accept them and let them go. Notice any negative emotions arising, accept them and let them go. Thoughts could be "She doesnt like me", "Shes going to leave me", "I am not good enough for her" Emotions could be fear. Fear of rejection, of loss, of anything. Notice that the emotions are typically caused by your thoughts. That is how I did it and you can do to. If you want you can pm me and we can talk more in detail.

I dont look for shared values. The questions Im interested in are: Can I life my values with that person and grow. Is the chemistry right. Do they enrich my life. To some extent that may be linked to shared values. But I dont really feel like I need anyone to stay true to my values. That would shift too much weight from my shoulders to theirs. Everyone has his own way and everyone can learn from everyone else. But I never had a very long relationship so take what I say with a grain of salt

Depends from person to person. Every girl and every boy has their own level of insecurity. I think girls usually date upwards the confidence ladder.

Your brain wont believe this because you have been brain washed hard. Like almost every one in modern society. Go out and give your love to a stranger on the street. You dont need an SO for that. What have you done yet and tried? Do you have a life purpose?

If you are straight, then no movie involving anything sexual about male actors will "get you off". Same applies for women who see girls/characters like the ones you posted. Can you see that? The same questions you raise can be questioned to your examples in the first post. I fail to see the big difference you mention. Again, Im not dismissing your problems. I believe they are very real to you. But I dont think these movie/video game-girl media you mentioned are the culprit of these problems. Maybe you are using them to justify you problems to others or mask the real issue here. Maybe you dont know the root of your problems yourself. I can be wrong of course.

Yep. Problems begin when you think that you need friends in your life. Thats the first lie.

by traumatic events you mean the games you played and movies you watched? I think it should be quite easy to get over them. That doesnt mean that you dont have problem, thats holding you back. That most likely comes from the way you were raised. Still, you most likely have seen many killer games and acton movies in which men are violent. Do you have fear of men as well? Women are just like men, all different. Some may be violent some wont. You dont have to put people into boxes like that. Make your own experiences and dont rely on video games for telling you how the world is. Also how high is your sexual drive? Is it high enough to overcome such fears?

Isnt it also weird that many people need help to find the obvious? After all, nothing is hidden. Nice interview btw.

To me marriage doesnt mean anything. But I think its a good thing it exists and it can be a nice thing for couples. I see it more related to legal issues (visa) and taxes. In my country it was used as a tool to give benefits to families which are valued by the state. Monogamy and polygamy can both be beautiful and I try not to judge them.

There is no step by step guide. Only some waypoints: Abundance Mindset, Social Intelligence, Leading. As you see those can not be achieved by doing exactly this or that. They heaviliy depend on the situation and context. You can get to this waypoints on million different ways and you likely need a bit (or a lot) of practise.

@Emerald Very insightful, especially the part about emotions and intuition!

No, I would not think that. - At most they would maybe say "But Leo..." and thats it. Ego doesnt like to die. Boys & girls alike. - Leos teaching style is very rational and leans more toward the masculine. See what others wrote in this thread for more:

I watched that video "How to be funny" many times. Afaik there is not one method but many. Try a few. That video is stacked with good material on humour. Or do you mean another one? Some quick tips 1 Be more relaxed, watch leos video on body awareness and dont try to get into what other people think of you. Things like being relaxed and having good eye contact are the absolute basics. 2 Be authentic, people like authentic people. Think about it, you do as well I guess. With that also comes, that you should know yourself. Ask yourself the same questions you usually ask others for example. If you say you cant be authentic in the job, you might want to reconsider some life choices. 3 After you accomplished being authentic, you can work on your confidence. Things like non-needy communication, straight posture, loud voice, brisk gesticulation and escalating the interaction are the sherry on the cake.

@Joseph Maynor @Serotoninluv Can you be more specific about what the movies did to you and how you think they did that? @VioletFlame Ah great! Couldnt remember the name. Walking Life would have been an example of what I thought of. But Im also interested in short video bits, doesnt have to be feature length. @Anna1 I never came around to watch this movie because I didnt like the trailer. I think I should at least give it a shot. Does it involve anything spiritual or is it just pills/science? @lmfao classic

Some advice when buying (especially luxury items) - If an items costs 99$, think of it in terms of how much hours you work for this amount of money. If you make 15$/h its now costing you 6-7 hours of work. So 6-7 hours of doing what you do at work. Helps to put things into perspective.

I think I have been quite anxious while growing up. As is normal. But especially after high school It got a bit worse. 1. When I was in public I got a bit anxious by other people. Especially when I was in periods where I was more alone (like sitting on my pc or studying). Something like tensing up when people walk in my path on the street or being in crowded places like elevators / trains etc. Nothing big but not entirely confident as I could be. I dont remember exactly what it was, but I read somewhere something about being certain(?) with body language. I tried it and immediately felt more secure and confident. Something I like doing when walking in a crowded place, is I "walk with faith". Like I know, anything can happen, but my feet will be going one after the other. Then after watching this video from Leo everything changed. When my body is relaxed there is no anxiety left. 2. Starting in university I got a bit anxious about doing presentations in front of people. Its not like I did anything wrong but I could really feel intense anxiety coming up minutes before the talk. Then, while talking, it was not there so much but It wasnt completely gone until after I finnished talking and could completely relax. What helped me here was this video from charisma on command. Now, I speak free on all presentations and memorize the important parts. Also doing some presentations helped me to become more confident. I still get a bit anxious before presentations but its way down from before. I also see this little anxiety (feeling intense) as a tool to give even better presentations. 3. Lastly and probably my biggest anxiety I have when (cold)approaching girls I find attractive. I get big mindfucks like "shes not interested in talking to me" or "Im not on her level" or "I dont know what to say". Basically a deep feeling of not being worthy. This is the dragon Im fighting and its a big one and I must admit that Im running a bit away from this. As right now its not a high priority from me. Im more focused on work, getting "high on life" and girls Im already seeing. I also found a way to go around this anxiety by doing online dating. To some extend I think this is allright, as Ive noticed that the anxiety becomes less the more I interact with girls in general. Also, I think that improving my life overall is lowering the anxiety. Im also constantly lowering my fear of rejection by accepting every emotion and loving every moment. I could go on here but the gist of it is, that I find it the most helpful to be mindful of negative mindsets and replacing them with positive ones. Also Leos video I mentioned before helps a lot. I find my anxiety very interesting. I know that my level of anxiety directly correlates with what I want in my life. And I know that all the anxiety I have is just a mental construct, thoughts and thus can be overcome. You could say that Im also irritated why I feel anxiety. Why I have fear. Because I somehow know that its not me. Its not in my nature to be fearful. In this very moment there is no fear, only love. To overcome any anxious situations I do these steps - Full acceptance of the now, the world, other people, my feelings and emotions, my fear. - Search for practical tips on how to act in the situation (only if needed) - Awareness of the body and mind - Get practical experiences with the situation Ultimately, the biggest thing I find that helps is to increase love

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Real growth: Dont worry about meaningless shit like that. Feel the pain. Be grateful for the pain. It shows you are alive and its a powerful emotion. Realize that there exist no good / bad emotions. Just emotions. See what you can learn from this pain. Bonus (only if you like to) Reframe the situation. See how cool it is that you now can go dating again and have the possibility of meeting cool people. Maybe even finding the most amazing girl out there that will blow you away. (See: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYZmK46--Mc)

Why not both? How is your relationship with your parents. What are your living conditions? If you plan to live at home first after school would it be better to have finished "abitur" so that your parents dont make your life difficult and give you some space? If you are really serious about your life purpose you can easily finish school while also starting to experiment with some stuff or read psychology books in your free time. See it like this: If you manage to pull that off, how great will it be when you actually can allocate more time into your life purpose?

This. If you want to have more presence in your social group bring the fun. Furthermore people are naturally drawn towards people who are positive and confident. I can also recommend the yt channel "charisma on command" they break down people who are charismatic in groups, for example will smith, and point out things you can do as well. Watching these videos alone wont make a big difference but trying things out and getting a feel for them will. Make this a priority when going out with friends. Otherwise you dont really want to change (most dont!).

What does satisfy you then? @Uchira Whats your question. Why people can get high or why people get/want to be high?