Jordan of the Shire

Really hopeful post, thanks for sharing /\

Hey brother, i'm sorry for your situation. I hope you'll get better soon. It sounds like you're doing a lot for yourself and that kind of self love is so important. You're a fighter and I'm glad to see you're persistent and hopeful. What has worked well for me is something called Dissolve Therapy (dissolving the need for traditional forms of therapy). It's a consciousness-based practice taught by Andy Mack and facilitated by a number of practitioners worldwide. It teaches the practitioner to see space within contraction, notice the expansion of awareness, and ground oneself in the feet. There are "Dissolve Therapists" who offer bodywork sessions. In these, they create a mirror-like feedback loop: they apply pressure, guide you to see spaciousness within the contraction, and simultaneously help you relax the eyes. While guiding you, the practitioner is also doing Dissolve on themselves. It is a profound practice. Depending on where you are, I recommend finding a bone-setter and a Dissolve therapist to help teach you this skill. This isn't a dependency relationship—it's an empowerment one. Dissolve practitioners aim to teach the client to do this themselves. With continuous practice, people experience deep release, and old patterns fall away. Not through ecstatic, cathartic release, but through micro-moments of seeing contraction, knowing its nature, and letting it go.

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"Look where we are now: living in a world controlled by pedophilic, greedy, psychopathic, narcissistic, and misogynistic men who destroy the earth. This is patriarchy for you. This is not sustainable for human life or any animal we share space with." I don't know enough to agree with you entirely. Are these qualities an absolute inevitable outcome of patriarchy, or a result of corrupted spirit and ethical/moral ignorance? It is possible to run a patriarchal household which has structure, stability, success, love, patience, tolerance, accountability, etc. I think depending on the scale, the people within it, and the quality of spirit, ethics, morals, wisdom... that will determine the quality of patriarchy... if we are to create a binary between governing systems. What about a system that fluctuates between matriarchal and patriarchal values? I'm not sure what that would look like. But character is a thing cultivated mindfully and with consistency, and it requires a genuine desire to do so. With people who don't do this, who let their desires and mind run rampant—whether matriarchal or patriarchal—you'll always find an imbalance, deviation, or extreme. Actually, this feels like the inevitability of anything we try to control. "I don’t understand the positives of patriarchy you stated; can you please elaborate more on them?" Yea forsure Lila, thanks for asking This is more coming from the viewpoint of Neigong systems which say the spirit is a steel-hardened quality of father-like, no-bs firmness. And the soul is cozy, loving, nurturing, etc. The idea comes from a lecture I listened to on the topic last year. The idea was that when you touch the spirit, it's loving, but in a firm and possibly unpleasant way. When you come in contact with the soul, it is loving, caring, and not so strict. But... both these exist in the universe. What I was saying was that there is a place for both these structures, and their subsequent organizations and manifestations. Outright banning one or the other seems like a way to miss the universality of things. But... this is a bit away from the topic of having children and how to increase birth rates hahahaha... fuck. All I'm saying, Lila, is that trying to control things too much leads to an extreme. I'm not smart enough to know exactly how societies should be organized. But I think birth rates would benefit from social support, safety, structure, ethical and moral people who reflect on themselves, and tribe... but you know... not the appropriation of tribe... but an actual breathing, qualitative, self-recursive, reflective group of people who don't bullshit themselves with their own holiness. Tall order though haha... we can only have second best... no one's perfect. No body of people will be. How to increase birth rates... yeah, complex question. But likeable people, security, social supports seem like things I might add... not much that other people haven't said already. "The main distinction between masculinity in a patriarchal vs. matriarchal society is that masculinity in a patriarchal society is exploitative and dominating, while in a matriarchal society it is protective and nurturing, which is the healthy form of it. Ideally, masculinity should be channeled for the benefit of the community, not against it." I'm not completely convinced. I don't think patriarchy is inherently exploitative... i think that is a character quality, which can aggregate and compound with groups of people who aren't held accountable, and whom run a culture of exploitation.

that's an interesting idea. we definitely need to make it safer to have children. do you think outright defining patriarchy as a bad thing is perhaps a misalignment of perspective? within patriarchy there are obvious negatives. but there are also positives to the masculine structure oriented firmness of spirit, in partnership with the loving caring nurturing of soul. great idea i hear yah. similar mentality, but also, people raised by crappy adults can still become really positive people. so perhaps the answer isn't to stop poor people with bad health from having kids, but perhaps to improve the world theyre born in. it was hard for my parents you know. they werent ready for kids, and given their own circumstances, they didn't have the wisdom to grow. they had their own trauma. but.. in a way, i'm glad my imperfect parents created the conditions for certain things to emerge in myself. and i wonder what your opinion is on any type of fate-like constructs, where you're born to a family based on some metaphysical reasons. not entirely in our control. personally my view isn't complete in this regard. better to be healed forsure. probably makes it better for everyone... what is healed enough? even a well functioning adult can parent poorly.

Part of truth would be that turquoise like, seeing the benefit in everything, that transcend and include idea. But I'm not seeing that. Its still tribal. Its a similar us vs them attitude.

Can you expand on your perspective?

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@SimpleGuy It is okay to set aside time to be empty, and its okay to set aside time to think about something.

@SimpleGuy If your creativity comes from emptiness and stillness, would it then, be more original? How do you term the quality of your creativity? By how it is received by others? By your status in relationship to it? By what you gain with it? By how you feel about it? Or the process of being creative itself? Or some other motivation? Fear, doubt... this is a result of thinking.

Hey Brother What happens energetically is always changing. I suggest it's wise to observe phenemona arise, exist, and fall away without making a big deal about it. The causes and conditions of any specific state arising could be many and the quality of a connection could be based on a lot of things. Trying to fabricate control or concentrate on a specific outcome, such as becoming more masculine by focusing on a Chakra, may have the effect of creating contraction in the awareness, adding layers to the self, and tripping you up. This is a common instruction in chi gong, meditation, tai chi, and the like. 'Whatever arises, don't worry about it. Keep going' I have a tendency to try to manipulate the energy to influence people events and even business interactions, but I recognize this is not skillful in terms of using these things in a responsible way. Impulsive and compulsive use of these things is not responsible in my opinion. And when the compulsion to use these things arise, that's an opportunity to see the quality, know it is not self, and to let it go. Or whatever is in line with your preferences or path, whatever you need to go through. I know it's a journey. Just some reflections on what you've said here. Much love brother One thing I'll note as a post script: It is often warned that spending time in the heart Chakra is a more advanced practice. It is very easy to get tripped up there by the strength of emotions in that area. What I have found to be potent and powerful is to spend 3 to 6 months and up to 2 years with consistent and non deviating awareness of the lower abdominal region called the dan tian. It is considered to be a grounding point for the awareness and a circuit breaker for rogue electrical currents that occur in the system when working with energy. 🙏