Hey Brother
What happens energetically is always changing.
I suggest it's wise to observe phenemona arise, exist, and fall away without making a big deal about it.
The causes and conditions of any specific state arising could be many and the quality of a connection could be based on a lot of things.
Trying to fabricate control or concentrate on a specific outcome, such as becoming more masculine by focusing on a Chakra, may have the effect of creating contraction in the awareness, adding layers to the self, and tripping you up.
This is a common instruction in chi gong, meditation, tai chi, and the like.
'Whatever arises, don't worry about it. Keep going'
I have a tendency to try to manipulate the energy to influence people events and even business interactions, but I recognize this is not skillful in terms of using these things in a responsible way. Impulsive and compulsive use of these things is not responsible in my opinion. And when the compulsion to use these things arise, that's an opportunity to see the quality, know it is not self, and to let it go.
Or whatever is in line with your preferences or path, whatever you need to go through. I know it's a journey.
Just some reflections on what you've said here.
Much love brother
One thing I'll note as a post script:
It is often warned that spending time in the heart Chakra is a more advanced practice. It is very easy to get tripped up there by the strength of emotions in that area.
What I have found to be potent and powerful is to spend 3 to 6 months and up to 2 years with consistent and non deviating awareness of the lower abdominal region called the dan tian. It is considered to be a grounding point for the awareness and a circuit breaker for rogue electrical currents that occur in the system when working with energy.
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