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What I'm trying to say is, when you cold approach someone, they are not always honest. To me, from what I heard from others, they are not at all honest -- not to the other person and not to themselves. Some ppl say they want a long term relationship, but don't even understand what that is, and so they leave the relationship early. I think if you learn pickup they don't tell you all these things. Do they? The reason why I'm saying all this is because you said in your original post that you want a wife in the end. How can ppl who never married and never had a long term relationship tell you what it is? They only teach you how to cold approach.

What you said here sounds awesome and open-minded. It invites others to share different experiences. I will try my best to share what I saw. Two ppl I know met their significant other through cold approach. Both ppl wanted relationships that lasts, but it didn't work out. One couple met in the bar; the other couple met in an online dating app. What I saw was, during the process of dating, they can't really see the other person's personality. It takes a non-quitters' personality to actually go through a long term relationship, for both parties. So, during these dates, all the ppl were having a good time and putting their best foot forward. Sure, they were talking about themselves, their goals, their plans, etc. But, as the time progressed, they can't tolerate the others' flaws and just went their separate ways. They don't want to stay together. They don't want to stretch out the relationship. I think a lot of times, you cannot see the charactistics of the other person if it's a cold approach. The person is a complete stranger, and when it comes to dating, they put their best foot forward. It tells you nothing about the person. They say they're interested in a long term relationship, but in reality they're not. They leave in the middle when the challenges come up. In a long term relationship, the couple don't call it quits just because it got challenging. They try to solve the issue and continue and move on. The individuals continue to improve themselves and their life situations.

@Charlotte The best thing that I could think of is just to start. Start selling something of your interest, and later on, the idea of improving it will come. This is what I did, and there is a link to a good starters book to that post. I read it twice. It helped me discover my LP. The hint is: if you could make some money off of your interest, that's a clue to where to go. Then, you could refine it as you go along. As for your major, you could always change it, right? If you have a hint on what to do for your LP because you took action on it, you will automatically pick subjects related to your major. Hope this helps. Ask me if you have more questions.

Everything that you discover on the LP journey could be combined. There is always a way to combine them. You just have to start and discover.

An investor is called an "Angel" or "VC." You meet them when you join a networking group. They started their LP just like you and I would start our LP. Take actions on your interests and find out what is your LP, first. Try to make "passive income" out of it. Have you discovered your LP? You will only know what you will contribute when you start taking actions and discovering your LP.

Try to take note of your thought patterns. How are they like? For simple stuff like house chores, I just do them automatically, and it's over. It works in a similar way for your interests too. Just do them with baby steps. Things start falling into place once you start. It does happen automatically. You just have to start. As for the negative feelings like anger, if your external environment doesn't require your anger, you don't have to deal with it. Just let your angry thoughts pass by. Most, if not always, your anger or other negative feelings are not needed.

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@egoless Just do it. Make a list of interests and narrow them down to five that you are willing to take actions on. Once you do, it will become clear on what you want to develop into your life purpose. This is my example.

I'm actually talking about the quote having a deep meaning. I'm not just talking about Trump.

Of course you could choose to think whatever. It's just that you didn't get my point. How often do you think of Trump? I'm not just talking about Leo. Talking about it in general. How often do you think about someone or something? If it's quite often, well, it's probably telling you something -- whatever it is.

I'm not the one who mentioned Trump many times, and it was just a suggestion and a thought. The word projection is overused sometimes here, I feel. It cannot be true that each time someone makes a suggestion it's automatically a projection.

Hey Leo, you've been mentioning Donald Trump a lot--a whole lot. Maybe you might consider finding a way to guide him and ppl like him spiritually. Just a thought! Because there's a saying: "The places where you have the biggest challenges in your life are the places where you have the most to give if you do your inner work." Tracy Mcmillian

Nice pic... It's the pic of one of my favourite Leo videos: I especially like the line at 3:56. "You're going to move to Japan and you're going to become a monk." It's about changing paradigms.

I agree with what you said here. The new environment (phenomenon) that a person is given could be many times more challenging (more suffering) -- given a more challenging ego to make the person realize that earth phenomenon was far less challenging to learn lessons than the new environment.

I really liked Leo's video on Islam. Great video. Very informative. He's very bold to make such a video. I just got through watching this video, and to me, it had humor in it. I bet a lot of times innocent ppl have to deal with nonsense from others.

@Elisabeth What you said is interesting! I bet it's not easy for anyone to find what they really, really want to do. I used to be really stuck too. Here's my journey so far. See, this is not so easy to explain. In life, there is such thing as higher consciousness. Life itself is also higher consciousness, and it invites all of us to live it to the fullest. Did you ever feel like doing something freely without any resistance? And then, once you do that, you discover something? It's like a huge "AH-HA" moment. Then, it really leads to something else, but in the process, you're just going with the flow of life, like a river. And, when it's over, when the river finally meets the ocean, it's free! You feel like you're given a blessing. You feel awakened and learned a lesson. That's how one discovers what to do in life. Check out this woman's story. Life tells us, but then the ego gets in the way. Question: Where is life pulling you right now? Do that -- if you get what I mean. But! If Dr. Elizabeth is what you're going to become, then that's awesome. Do notice the invitation of life moment by moment.

Ok... I think detachment is something that is missing from many ppl's lives. It's one of the major keys to happiness, and it gets really deep too. Basically, throughout life, you don't really need anyone to fulfill you. I mean, sure it's great to date and have a hot girl. I could understand why you're saying that. But, at the end of the day, it's just you and yourself. That's why they say don't get attached to anyone. Sure, you could love someone, but it's very unhealthy to be obsessed and attached to someone (or something). Everyone has got to be free to find their purpose in life. Your mind has to be free. That's the true freedom and happiness. Try reading this psychology book. It's a good book with great exercises for the mind. Yes, it's on amazon, but try to see if it's available in the library.

Nope. It doesn't. It sounds completely normal. What you said is for achievement. There's just one more thing to understand to this whole journey. This: This is the happiness, and detachment is what Leo is trying to explain here. It's a huge part to a person's happiness. I posted this for you already. This is the second time. It's easier said than done. It takes lots of practice to incorporate this into your life. It's not easy to have one without the other. Good luck.

There is this flow to life for the person. The person can choose to get on this wave or choose ego (eg. being frustrated, emotional, unhappy, angry, etc.)

@Hardkill Ask yourself, is this really going to be your long term goal? Note that Leo made a PUA clip already. Have you watched that one? And then, I already told you about Leo's Maslow clip. What are you going to do for the rest of your life? Here's another clue. All your questions about getting hot girls or not will be answered automatically if you know what to do for the rest of your life. It's tough, but that's the way it works.

@littleBIG I really have to say that health and health insurance is a tough one. Someone I know was roller skating one day and fell on her bottom and broke her hip bone. Of course, she had to stay in the hospital. They surgerically inserted some metal into that area so that the surrounding bone tissues could grow around it and she would heal. You gotta understand your own body and your own health, research doctors, research hospitals, get second opinions from doctors, see if they have good services, etc. They don't sometimes cause they don't know you (your health). It's complex.

I feel that this thread brings up an important quotation to take into consideration: For this to really work, there has to be a clear understanding of what the other person is saying. You can't just discredit everything. Each meaning has to be understood clearly.

I'm going to get straight to the point and be honest. I understand the problem that you are presenting. What you are really trying to say is, you want just laws for all, right? Sure. And, you want the just laws to be enforced correctly. Don't we all want that? In the end, we all want peace. However, this is the third time that I'm trying to answer your question, and you never accepted the answer. When this happens, I can't do anything about it. My answer to you was: Life purpose --> entrepreneurship --> philanthropist --> sage/guru/saint/etc. The next step is to take actions to discover your life purpose and to move on.

Just got through watching this inspiring video on selflessness: It reminds me of Shinzen Young's version of the 10 Ox Herding Pics (Part 3) when he was talking about The Cloth Bag Monk, his hands being "outstretched."

@littleBIG This is an interesting decision. I have casually thought about a minimalist lifestyle but not in a car, maybe in a RV that looks more hidden if I parked in some city. I thought of this because I asked myself, "if I didn't have a job or a family to support me, what do I do?" You gotta keep your options open sometimes because just having one or two options may not work. You may want to look into "tiny houses" or "cabins" with public bathrooms. The rent is very low. Then, my mind wondered off to this: It's not in the US. I really want to visit one day to see what's it like. Health insurance is important in the long run. Be careful with your health. Recently, my friend told me that there are lots of opportunities overseas. For example, if you know English and especially another language, they give you free room and board at a prestigious university. I saw my friend do this. He's in his early 20s. But, of course, there are other opportunities than being a bilingual teacher.