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You need to have some female friends. This is the absolute solution. Do not try to flirt with them. But the problem is that having female friends is impossible when you see women as a object. Fake till you gonna make it. If you are watching too much porn, you should consider quitting porn for a while.

@LifeEnjoyer This pdf was really helpful. Thank you

@LifeEnjoyer what did you mean by "no self" is it a teaching of buddhism or did you mean another thing?

edit after months: i realized that i dont belong where i am. this is the problem. i dont share same values with people i met irl. we dont consume same materials. we laugh different things. i always blamed myself for being asocial but this is all about conditions. it is a dead end. i need to go abroad asap i mean when i finish my university i will use my passport to get a touristic visa. when i enter an european country i will make a aslyum request and i will burn my return plane ticket. this can be include some limiting beliefs but i cant see any way to fix this shit. when i look my around i feel that i dont belong here. i think i need do be more mature. you know in a good way.

i am not the best person to give you advices. but please consider this: twitch, discord, ome.tv etc. platforms are not true ways of socializing. they are absolute traps. twitch is the one of the most toxic media platforms on the internet. discord can be nice for killing some time. i would not recommend you to socialize on discord. dont consider ome.tv as a way to socialize. platforms like ome.tv is very fun tho. i mean it is like porn. as soon as you dont abuse it you are fine. i know that some asocial people gets addicted to platforms like ometv. start a hobby. most of the RC guys are very friendly. there are tons of RC hobbies. i can recommend you rc helicopters. you can join a local club. just go and join one of the local weekend rc meetings. it could be very embarrassing at first but you need to crack your shell. have fun! never forget, it is never late to start new things.

thank you for your warning. i experienced this thing before. online friends are good as soon as you dont get too attached to them i take this as a rule. Have a nice day!

if this post is in a wrong section i can move it. im not a selective person if you are kind thats alright. you can dm me if you want. you may look up my last posts to decide. i really dont know if this post is against the guidelines of the forum. i can delete this post if moderators wish. i had some online friends in the past and it was a nice experience. i thought that people on this forum are very openminded and it would be nice to be friends. i wasnt looking this forum for over a month and first think i see was a mods *suicide*. i hope everybody is doing fine! have a nice day!

UPDATE AFTER 6 MONTHS: I hadn't done it for a long time and it started again. But now I haven't been able to stop myself for a week and I continue to bite. I'm trying not to bite while writing this, but a very strange feeling is pushing me to bite the inside of my mouth. Damn, my 6-month streak is broken. It really sucks. I need to stop biting now but it's so hard. Damn. I've been so stressed out for the last 2-3 weeks and I can't control myself.

There was a trigonometry exam on Wednesday. I hadn't studied all week and only revised for 15 minutes the evening before the exam. I got 80/100 in the exam. It was a good grade compared to not working at all. Getting above average grades for the first time in a long time created a very inner sense of satisfaction. I remember that I got 17/100 in mathematics last year Anyway, my next goal is to play for 1st place. I loved the feeling of satisfaction it created and will go back and remember that feeling.

@Rigel what do you mean by "Give & receive. Never take." i didn't get what you mean. What is the difference between take and receive? You're right about being emotional. That's why talking with artificial intelligence is so unpleasant.

@Davino The example you gave is good. So I'm going to bite the bullet. But how can I overcome this: when I interact with people, I regret the things I did during that interaction for a long time. I wish I had said this or did he misunderstand me? Did he get a bad impression? etc.

I realize the question is general. I would be happy if you could share general useful tips about this concept I don't like the idea of being alone and singular forever, and I hope i can change my situation. Even if I'm an introvert, I don't want to admit it Have a nice day!

nice song

I have exams on Wednesday and I need to study tomorrow. I'm stressed for some reason but that's okay. I will meditate after writing this. then i will sleep. Normally I try to go to bed early, but today I couldn't go to bed early. If I study hard during these 2 days, I will probably get a good result in the exam. I think about writing here every day. Reviewing what I did all day will prevent me from losing control. Also, I haven't stepped out of the house for the last +72 hours, so I'll do a little run tomorrow morning. Sitting at home all the time and not going out for days makes me feel depressed. I will try to go out every day if possible.

everything starts now.