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@Break the Chain ❤this! ?

@Break the Chain As a woman, I'm sure it's different, but there is a very different headspace when you dedicate time regularly to low quality consciousness sexual thoughts. If 10 mins daily of affirmations change your mind and life, why would the opposite - focusing on a big physical feeling associated with stupid thoughts - not have an effect?

One place to start is noticing how you "like" or "don't like" things. That's common nomenclature for attachment and aversion, respectively.

@Sukhpaal Thoughts haven't been strong or vivid, but like a passing desire for me. Sometimes I wonder if it's actually a new desire to kill my ego, not the body.

I do the same. It is low self-esteem. Imagine a world where you are so into doing what you are doing that you are masterful and composed. And people are worrying about what you think of them. The affirmation: I am independent of the thoughts and opinions of others. Repeat for 5-10 minutes every day for a couple of months. Visualize while you are reciting. Picture and feel and smell your independence and flow states. Eventually, when these thoughts pop up, they'll be recognized and tossed aside as garbage pretty quickly. Then you'll snap back to reality without painstaking effort. Also, work on your self-esteem. That's a deep topic I won't get into here.

Well, it is this way, but we don't have to conform to it. That's on us. To be authentic regardless of the social consequences. In high school, I was notably aggressive and "no-nonsense." Some people hated me, but I was also very productive, creative, had many adoring friends, and a doting boyfriend. Being fake nice or silent has gotten me nothing. There's nothing to fear. Because when you're authentic, the right people come around. It's a risk but well worth it.

We know. If I had to guess the way it would change me...I'd probably be more blunt and unkind in my wording. Why? Because the label of "bitch" is one I try to avoid. Harsh words from a man give him authority. Harsh words from a woman strip her of her credibility. We are charged with being diplomatic, cooperative, and compassionate. But, honestly, I'd prefer to be a dick most of the time. I think super rude things at work constantly and can only keep silent. So hey. Maybe you're right. Maybe it would help us get rid of some baggage.

Will it still be the same advanced people? I wonder if there are any experiments on how anonymity changes behavior. Like a Stanford Prison Experiment online.

Sweet. Then we can start learning Nazi propaganda to troll each other and then...accidentally start believing it! WHOOPS. Anyway, interesting point about all being one but, since most of us are nowhere near that, it would probably devolve into nonsense pretty quickly. I don't want anything to do with anything 4chan looking.

@Magic I agree with @Scholar that, psychologically speaking, narcissistic personality disorder is a manifestation of weak ego and, therefore, suffering. Note that I say "weak ego" not "distanced ego" or "eradicated ego." An ego that exists, but is flailing. It is also that case that such a personality disorder causes strife in relationships and real world consequences that add to the suffering.

@Epiphany_Inspired Which video is this exactly?

You need discipline not motivation. Act yourself into right thinking. Don't try to think yourself into right action.

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I want to upvote this multiple times.

Re: Dropping Your Roles. Were you able to see your own? I wasn't. I may have to ask someone close to me. I don't know how I'm bullshitting.

Turns out it's not bullshit. A lot of people get caught up in this paradox and write off his explanations. Synthesis of these opposing forces is central to Dialectical Behavior Therapy, used clinically in the treatment of some psychological issues. Here's an excerpt from an article in Clinical Psychology Science and Practice. "[Dialectical Behavior Therapy] is based on a dialectical worldview, which postulates that reality consists of opposing forces. The synthesis of these forces leads to a new reality, which in turn consists of opposing forces, in a continual process of change. In DBT, the most central dialectic is the relationship between acceptance and change. Clients are encouraged to accept themselves, their histories, and their current situations exactly as they are, while working intensively to change their behaviors and environments in order to build a better life. The synthesis of this apparent contradiction is a central goal of DBT." Acceptance + Massive Action

People argue with him all the time, especially about this. The clickbait was to lure in people who complain about this paradox and give them something else to consider about it. Your "mighty warriors" are all over the place, including the forum.

That's not a paradox.

@jse YEP!!! Why did you wanna see something so hateful? Or were you going to help the wayward soul?

@blacksapp meditation

I've been thinking about Peter Ralston's eyes all morning. After seeing him in a video last night, I can't shake them. Retreats weren't a big part of my to-do list in the next few years, but now there is a pull to go *be around* people like this and experience them. Assuming they're there.

Live the life yourself. Come here for support. Ask your friends and family questions that make them think when they need help.

@Elzhi If things are going to collapse, it's inevitable, and you don't have a plan you believe in right now, then meditation is the way to go. We are going to need our equanimity to get through what happens. And you need some sleep. I've been angry and depressed since November, too. Oh yeah. I just realized the poster boy for stage orange IS orange!

Hay Team Actualized. Do you think it would work to read a list of the commitments from Leo's videos on a daily basis? A lot of his advice has to do with a mindset shift so the advice is to make a commitment. "I commit to accepting 100% responsibility for everything." "I commit to stop doing stupid shit." Is that a good way to stay on track? Please contribute commitments you remember from videos. I'll compile a list from anything you provide and anything I come across while re-watching videos.