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@Leo Gura But if nothing matters how can you care so much about politics? How care about a certain Life Purupose? How can you care about Spirituality? How can you care about changing the world if it was already perfect as it is? How can you do so much work and sweat and suffer, if all is the same? Thank you for your answer! I am so curious because that is where I have been stuck for the past years.

@Leo Gura I understand that the Truth will take everything, and you will have to let go of everything, but if that is the case, then why should you pursue that which you will eventually let go of. Are girls and Businesses worth anything? Why care about things in the short game if in the long games those don't matter?

I would like to know know how much you can relate to the following feelings: -a sense meaninglessness in life. Why do anything? -For Happiness? Does Happinness even exist or is it as an Illusion, an empty promise we chase? -For Enlightement? Why even pursue enlightenment? If death will ultimatly dissolve your egoic mind, can't you simply die to get fully enlightened? -Are we supposed live without a reason, out of the pure vital energy our survival machine produce? I guess the answer for all of this is love, but it feels so strange that the whole cycle of existence is made for love

@ivory Hey Ivory I am not well-read on existential philosophie, but I do know a little bit. I read Beckert" Waiting for Godot", but that's pretty much it. What wisdom have you drawn from that philosophy? Having no purposes is confusing me. Everyone I know and see, seems to follow a goal, to go somewhere. I mean even Leo seems to want certain things. If everything is meaningless I don't why I should want something. It has also to do with the hardship of life. Why struggle, why sweat, to achieve a goal - but every goal is meaningless.. That's is somewhat the thinking I have been having.

@ivory I do enjoy sex. But I enjoy it from my perspective. I don't enjoy if you have sex for example (I mean I don't care haha). If something is real only under on perspective it will fade if you let go of your perspective. I'm confused. What is your meaning or purpose in life? @VeganAwake Yes. So life has no meaning, cause everything is as it is. Life is not meaningless either, the idea of meaninglessness require the existence of meaning, which doesn't exist. Still would be happy, if there were some meaning to life.

@Thewritersunion For "finding meaning by being": I'm not sure, meaning is always relative, so how could it have to do something with being. @ivory I think this is good. But can enjoyment be real? I like this idea that the question does not arise anymore, I can maybe work with that. @Nahm I'm still trying to figure out what you are saying exactly, that's maybe a good sign. It will reread it tomorow hahah @luckieluuke Yes i can relate to being jealous of people having a fixed meaning in life, they live by and enjoying their time on the journey haha. I am not sure they actually enjoy it that much, but then again neither do I so much. Not sure if you meant this feeling. @Neorez I don't understand why I should choose meaning, if it is a lie or at least relative. I just can't do it. Happinness being our nature is interesting. Or Love being our nature. hmm. But we are Gods, we are limitless, Love being my nature feels limiting. I would say dying is also merging. It's the death of the boundary, so it makes you merge with the rest. Good Ideas bro, not really used to talk a lot about it with others, but it's refreshing to hear some other opinions! I think the reasons you "shouldn't" kill yourself to get enlightened, is that time doesn't exist either. So there is no "after your death". Death is not an escape. Just thoughts.

I got a challenge for you: Rank all Self Help theorys you know from most important to least important. On top of the list should be the theory, advice, principle or method, that had the biggest impact on YOUR life. At the bottom should be an advice sound that had no improving effect or maybe even had set you back on your journey. My list is: 1) Writing a journal 2) Take responsibility for your life! Don't be a victim. 3) EQ: be aware about your emotions 4) Awareness is the only way to improve 5) Self Love 6) Don't care about the opinion of others. The Disease to please. 7)Pick up Advice 8) meditation 9) You need to find a Life purpose (phrased it like this on purpose, because it had quite negativ effect I think on me) 10) Be present 11) The Ego

I don't know about you guys, but I came into contact with self help material (Pick up advice at the start) at a young age, and I don't think it did me any favours. I honestly just got addicted to those videos and lost touch with being. Have you ever felt like all this Self Help Theory is worthless? It sounds good but at the end of your day you stay the same. It is basicly just another distraction and all you need to know, you will learn it by yourself. I am curious if anyone also feels this way! Let me know!

@SOUL I know that it has to do with my behaviour. All I wanted is to state that this is a real problem for me, and one problem that is not fixed with more self help. Instead I think the solution is to distance one self with self help material and only focus on practical aspects for a while.

@Leo Gura I could not be a "on size fits all" solution, but I still think I would be really interesting to know. You could compare your list with similar lists to identify interesting theorys you may want to give a try. You could also observe patterns and how people at different stages have differents lists. I personally think it's really important to go through to all the hoops instead of skipping ahead in selfhelp. Those lists could help you assess your stage and thus the theorys you may want to keep for later on the journey.

Approval addiction and unstable Self-Worth Yesterday I went out with my friends, and once again at the end of the night I felt sad and worth less due to the lack of approval of others ( mostly women) . My problem is my Self-Worth is deeply linked to the approval of women and others. When a woman shows me that she likes me, I instantly feel worthy and thus more self confident. On the other hand when I do not succed at getting the Approval of the woman I begin to feel very unconfident and worth less. Consequently my objective when I am around other people (especially women) is to get their approval to feel good about myself. This very needy behavior makes it hard to even get a woman to like me. Furthermore my self-worth is very fragil, sometimes when everything goes well I get confident, I act less needy and I feel worthy, and sometimes things snowball the other way. My self-worth is almost random, I can hardly influences the way I feel at the end of the night (or day). I often heard about the concept that your Self-Worth should be linked to your own approval. This sounds good but I have difficulties to implement this in my life. This is why I made this post: I need help, knowledge and book recomendations about Self-Worth. I have already read the Diseas to Please by Harriet Braiker but I need a book which is more focused on Self-Worth. I am very gratefull for any given advice. This is truly a problem I have been carying my whole life.

Thanks for the advices @MonikaBcn As mentioned in my initial post my Self-Worth is linked to the approval of others, which means if I see people getting a lot of approval I think they have value. I do know that this is not healthy. My question is how do you change it, what do you have to do? @Bronsoval I see what you mean, but my real goal is to change my flaud way of thinking that my Self-Worth depends on the approval of others, not to get the approval by working on my confidence. @Keyblade Viking I think you are right that focusing on being more honest and authentic could help me because the approval I would get would be more real which helps to build some core confidence. One problem is, I simply do feel worthy when I get their approval and that not that easy to change, it is not like a lever I simply pull to change that. Deep inside of my I probably believe that I need the approval, the question why do I think that and how can I change it.

Approval addiction and unstable Self-Worth Yesterday I went out with my friends, and once again at the end of the night I felt sad and worth less due to the lack of approval of others ( mostly women) . My problem is my Self-Worth is deeply linked to the approval of women and others. When a woman shows me that she likes me, I instantly feel worthy and thus more self confident. On the other hand when I do not succed at getting the Approval of the woman I begin to feel very unconfident and worth less. Consequently my objective when I am around other people (especially women) is to get their approval to feel good about myself. This very needy behavior makes it hard to even get a woman to like me. Furthermore my self-worth is very fragil, sometimes when everything goes well I get confident, I act less needy and I feel worthy, and sometimes things snowball the other way. My self-worth is almost random, I can hardly influences the way I feel at the end of the night (or day). I often heard about the concept that your Self-Worth should be linked to your own approval. This sounds good but I have difficulties to implement this in my life. This is why I made this post: I need help, knowledge and book recomendations about Self-Worth. I have already read the Diseas to Please by Harriet Braiker but I need a book which is more focused on Self-Worth. I am very gratefull for any given advice. This is truly a problem I have been carying my whole life.