theleelajoker

I see what you mean. Sometimes it feels like that for me. But right now I still feel like being here a bit more. Stuff to do, experiences to make. And WTF always refer to others, to Leo? You are your own avatar, character, role, illusion, whatever. THIS gets boring bro.

Well, nothing wrong about taking things with sense of humor right? So why is this the end goal?

Guys you make me laugh

@Inliytened1 Please go through all I and you wrote in this thread. So what I am seeing is that repeatedly, I asked for real experience, first person information, no meta, no abstract stuff, not you explaining the world to me. Repeatedly, you avoided this. There's nothing about real experiences in your reply. You only reply with abstract meta stuff, explaining the world to me, there is not a single "I" in your sentences. How come? Why are you avoiding answering in FPV and go meta all the time? I don't understand. Do you not have a first person experience of reality? Or are you unable to express it? Compare this to @Mvpjouney first reply for instance. You can go even further. You have conversations with your boss, your best friend, partner, whatever. How do you approach, how do you experience these conversations? What's happening before, during, after? What feelings, what thoughts, what sensations in your body are coming up? What messages are you sending, knowing that's it's oneness you talk with?

Ok I'm talking to myself. But if I now call my mum and ask her about this conversation we are having here, or any other stuff, then she won't be able to have a response to the big metaphysical questions we are discussing now. She will be like "he what are you talking about?" From her limitations in space and time, she's not part of this conversation we are having, right? But I have the feeling that she somehow will KNOW EXACTLY what we talk about in this thread. For the same reason you mentioned: all is one, no separation. I personally just have the feeling that information just gets coded in a certain way. So what I am trying to learn here is how to it works, how I can improve in communicating. I only know my experience, so I do my best to get learn more. PRACTICAL REAL LIFE EXAMPLE Form instance, I talk with this girl, turns out she likes to do horse riding. Dressage to be precise.I ask her some questions, how she manages to get comfortable with new horses, how she approaches horses that are shy, how she knows when it's the moment to ride a horse, when it's a moment to just walk with it, comb its fur etc. She starts talking and at one point she says "I slowly approach and get a feeling for the horse, if it's focused enough to learn a lesson or not" An when she says that, there is a certain energy coming up within me, I can't shake the feeling that it's not about dressage lessons for a horse. It FEELS LIKE it's just a code for me, telling me how it works in life, how - let's call it "oneness" - is teaching me and how it gently points out to me to be focused and awake to receive information/ lessons. So that's the stuff I am interested in. Am I the only one having such impressions? Am I delusional? Am I projecting?

@JoshB first all all, I appreciate your input. I get the part with ego = construction= illusory. What I don't get is How is understanding yourself /being= reality? Can you give a concrete example how this works? if there is no other that understands something I don't, how can conversations with other peoples give me information that it previously did not have, or put known information in different and constructive perspective? Happens all the time How can this thread have close to zero practical implications? Isn't what we are doing exchanging information about understanding l, which is according to you= being?

I believe everyone is doing the best he can. I am doing the best I can in my life. You're doing the best you can with the situation you described. CR is doing the best he can to support and help you. Maybe CR has or will have some input that will help you with the situation you describe. Maybe the first input wasn't what you hoped for, but the input can't improve of he's losing his motivation to engage... When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before." -Jacob Riis

Reading this thread. Gotta think of this song. https://open.spotify.com/track/4nGiEF3ZCBOCkr3cM0UtyE?si=2Hwr9afPTQK9IKERiLGiow

Thanks man. Anicca, Anicca. Something strange is going on lately and it am not fully understanding yet what's exactly happening or how Whatever it is, I believe it's trending in the right direction

Wow, just stumbled across your journal by accident. Lot's of good stuff. Keep it up. Much love

Yes I think it's just the continuation of communication. It's just becomes - typically - more nonverbal communication. I could often recognize how sexual patterns reflects other behaviors re daily interactions between the woman and me. Confidence, balance, passive vs. active, letting go, giving and receiving, etc. etc. Sex is IMO not a distant goal, a final destination or whatever, even if that seems to be reflected in our culture. It's the continuation of a process. And After Sex is before daily interactions which is before having sex another time which is already different because you got to know each other better... until infinity(!?) First time with my GF was often (maybe every time?) awkward. But the learning curve tends to be very steep

During my last Vipassana retreat, I got high very similiar to LSD. Just no visuals. Did not take long, happened on second day. Just had to go through A LOT of uncomfortabel feelings before for few hours, especially physcially (nauseous, dizziness, almost becoming unconscious). Bottom line: I am convinced that u can get there just naturally. Now, in everday life I often feel high as if I took MDMA or smoked weed without doing any of those things. Just happens, more or less randomly

Thanks. It's what I need right now

I want to / will try this

It gives me a chance to act/react. Situatiuon ABC, what do I do? How I respond? What engery do I give into the situation? Action, action, action. It's like a soup, and I have the choice to select ingredients It gives me chance to feel, experience love It gives me chance to see what has been created. I like what I experience vs. I don't like. I give freely. Others give me freely. I act like a jerk. Others act like a jerk. Mirrowing myself, facing the creation. Accountability, responsibility It gives me chance to gain information that has been blocked / filtered / supressed by me, by my subconscious. Advice, new information, different perspective It gives me chance to be physical (so fucking crucial for me). Touch and being touched. Mind and body are connected for me It gives me chance to connect. Don't know how to describe it better...It's a feeling of "OK that's more then just my/her/his physcial 3-D structure" Hope it makes sense

@Tristan12 Nice. Much love.

Looking inside. Vipassana. Observation. And INTERACTION with others. Last one is key for me. Interact, interact, interact.

Maybe. Maybe not.

So next day, I go to this woman. I tell her about the eyes and my experience. She's quite open to chat, and very grateful not only for the weed I gave her but also thanks me for the interaction in general. She's mentioning Shiva. She says she's impressed I go and talk to her about last night, appreciating the openness, that I mentioned the energy in her eyes and the message. Well, same goes vice versa, I am grateful as well. Large parts of the next 24h we spend together, chatting, exchanging. She's a traveler, exploring the world, living free. Main topics are humanity, consciousness, relationships, ex-partners, dreams, evolution, energy, fairness, exchange, trauma, manifesting, onenness, fractals. We listen, talk, analyse, give advice, help each other where and how we can. She said she manifested an interaction like that. She also tells me that she likes me and finds me cute (HA! So there were signals last night) but our physical interactions are as if we are siblings. It's clear that our energy exchange is not sexual. A few hugs and gentle touch here and there when we feel that this is what the other needs. One hug gives me ...let's all it electric vibrations across my body. Crazy woman. Don't know what she's in touch with, but it's....I don't know what, but feels beyond this reality. I tell her about my ex. "You are still thinking about her, why she does things, start thinking about what you want" I talk about my plans. "You are still thinking in 3-D reality. You are still in survival mode." I ask her about a specific advice, about what to do: "I am not allowed to tell you this" I ask who does not allow it. She says she does't know. She says she does not care. She says she does not think too much. Her gut tells her to say something, or to not say something. I talk about how I want to do things. Step 1, step 2, step 3...making money, traveling etc. "You are thinking in structure. You can do that, it can be helpful. But you are structuring. It's not good or bad, just saying that this is what you are doing". We talk about other people "The new generation is different. Young people are further evolved, seeing things differently". She talks about quantum consciousness, diamant consciousness, sth like that I don't remember the exact words. She also mentions the concept of NPCs. We talk about our current lesson. It's the same for both of us. "Everything we need is always in the present moment. Maybe not what we want, but everything we need." We say goodbye at the train station. I move on to the next city. I eat in a restaurant. You can feel love in this place. I read the "life story" of the owner on the menu. I cry a bit. I tell the waitress and ask her about it. The author of the story a woman, Maria. I say it would be interesting to meet the owner. The waitress says there is a second restaurant. She calls this restaurant, asking if the owner is there. I go to the restaurant. I talk a bit to Maria. She invites me. She tells the waiter that I don't need to pay. I eat for free. I drink for free. She asks me for a review. I do the review. There is a beautiful portugese girl with her friends at the table across. I ask her if she wants to join me, I would like to get to know her. She says no. I go back to the place I rented for the weekend. I am drunk from portugese white wine. I fall asleep. I wake up. I post in this forum. I am thirsty. I go to buy water. I walk there barefoot, simply not giving a shit about what other might think. There is a beautiful brasilian girl in front of the shop with a Tuk Tuk. I talk to her. I ask her for a date. She says yes. My life became so strange, that "strange" things became "normal". I think it's all about creating. About creating consciously. About creating good things. I can see how it's happening. Crazy how blind, how asleep I have been. I don't feel bad about myself. If I could have done it better, I would have. No hard feelings. I am just impressed how everything can turn upside down. Infinite possibilites. Todo es posible. I listen to "We are a Tribe" remixes from "Temple Step Project". Enough writing, what's next?

...I come back to the hostel. It was a nice day with great guests & the staff. Ok I have a lot of thoughts, intentions about what to do next this evening, who to talk to etc etc. A bit of a mess in my mind, trying to figure out what I am actually projecting on some people and what's beyond me projecting. Is this girl flirting with me? What about the other one? All clearly my type, just in different ways. Is her body language inviting me to talk to her? Or is she sending the signals to some else? Maybe no signal at all? Maybe what is see as a flirt is just being nice? Maybe I'm not as interesting as I thought as I am, or maybe I'm missing out on a cool experience by not acting despite her communicating to me to take initiative? Ok I interact a bit, and few minutes later I'm at the same point. Mixed signals, or mixed interpretation, I simply don't get more clarity. So women asking where I sleep, and telling me where they are sleeping while rearranging their hair. But none telling me with clarity what they want. Just talking? Just flirting? A little attention and appreciation? Sex? Cuddling? What is it that they want? What are these signals telling me? I pride myself to be a good communicater, also with women - so why am I so confused about what they are telling me, and what not? And what do I want? Better to be alone tonight, to go for making out, or to have some company even if it's only to fall asleep together? Damn, I am so fucking confused. In this state, and for no particular reason I remember, I take a seat on the couch next to a woman I did not know before. She turns out to be Colombian. She's nice, asking me some questions, bringing life into the conversation and tries to keep it flowing. I don't really feel having a lot of conversation, I just do the polite minimum to keep the conversation going. She ask and also says deep stuff, as if she already knows me. Knows who I am. That by itself not unusual, happens to me more and more over the years and currently basically all the time. But there is one thing about her that is new, and that has a ambiguous effect on me: she has the strongest eye contact I have ever seen. HOLY SHIT 👁️ 👁️ It scares me. I have become quite confident in making eye contact in the last weeks and months. Drug dealers, MMA guys, flirting and talking to attractive women, tough emotional conversations, arguments with close friends, doesn't matter. Easy for me to make and hold eye contact. Typically I can hold it comfortably, calmly, signaling presence and attention. But this is something else. The woman is maybe half my weight, her words are calm, nice, supportive. Her voice is full of clarity. She knows exactly what she is doing. Zero doubt on her side. Zero hesitation. Zero ambiguity. Her eyes are looking right at me with an energy I have never seen before. I can't shake the feeling of "Ok SOMETHING is happening here" Her body language is relaxed. Her eye contact has zero aggression. But it's so deep, so strong that she's scaring me. It leaves an impression on me. Difficult to look away. Impossible for me to get up and leave the conversation, even though I am somewhat uncomfortable. So I make some eye contact when she talks, as best as I can. It's maybe with 50% of my usual ability to hold the space and engage in the conversation. Takes only a few moments and we talk about weed. I say I like it, she says she doesn't have some now but has contacts here so she can buy some tomorrow. She offers me to buy through her contact, too. Normally yes, I love weed. But also want to quit, I know it's not good for me. I tell her that. We continue talking. There is this gaze again 👁️ 👁️"It's your only addiction" she says at one point. I hold my breath. Fuck, that's what I told someone else the day before. Yes, it's all one, all reflections, etc etc. Fuck this meta bullshit. I can feel her eye contact, and that is bigger then any mental explanation of reality. I tell her that I know I can get into the feeling of being high naturally. She looks at me. With this look, with this particular eye contact. "That is the goal" she says. 👁️ 👁️ She says it with a voice that radiates 100% clarity. And her gaze, holy shit this is scary. The vibe she's giving, it's not a command. It's a vibe of "it's your choice, nobody is forcing you but I very very much very strongly recommend you to follow this path. I recommend it to you with your best interests in mind, as strongly as I can while still giving you a choice. I make you aware of my power, but I am not using it (yet?). Who or what the fuck am I talking to right now? The Day before, I met a guy. He was drinking and smoking, but did not touch the joints going round although pretty much everybody else in the group was doing it. "Promised my daughter to never smoke weed again". And now this. Recently read through the"how to quit weed" thread here in this forum. Just smoked weed at the beach with the other guys. And now this. We talk more, the Colombian woman says some things how weed can distance you from the world around you, and some other things that seem smart and full of wisdom. I hear what she's saying, but my current state makes it hard to really listen. I go upstairs, I get the weed I have left in my backpack. I give it to her as a gift. She's happy about it, while I am in a trance like state of "ok what is happening right now?" I ask a guy for a cigarette to calm my self. There was no talk about cigarettes, only weed, that's what I am saying to myself 😂 I feel like I have been on the other side of this kind of eye contact sometimes. I remember having arguments with guys that were clearly stronger physically, situations that had some level of aggression and had at least the chance of escalating further. Nothing ever happened. In these situations I just intuitively made and held eye contact and after a while, the guys just looked away. Or they even avoided to look into my eyes before I could establish eye contact. I thought about these situations lately, and I have been wondering if my eyes have a kind of Yedi-like power in these situations I can't see myself. I KNEW in this situations that guys were not afraid of my physical self. Wondered what they saw in my eyes that I couldn't see myself. Well, nothing better than a taste of your own medicine, right? I am assuming that they saw the same in my eyes that I saw in the eyes of the Colombian. A sense of power that is so overwhelming, so strong that 1) you know you're not only talking to the person in front of you and 2) you know, you FEEL that at no point in your life your never fucking never even just think about going against this power. No hesitation, instant surrender. I go to sleep soon afterwards my encounter on the couch. Did I mention that Colombia is my probably my favorite country and that I have an absolute weakness for Latinas?

Yes, definitely, that was the case! The highs are really high, the lows are really low. Did not see any sense in existence, was desperate as fuck. Now everything is 180° turned. Can't explain it. Can't control it. Started a selfactualization journal here. Maybe I'll continue it, I'm having crazy interactions lately...

Yeah, crazy, isn't it? Took me so long to get this

Nobody noticed. And Nobody disagrees

Create amazing experienes for me and others. Feel and maximize love, happyness, lightness and fun for everyone. Explore countries, cultures and nature. Share all the good I can offer and experience sharing by others. Have exciting conversations and great physical experiences (sports, games, hiking, kissing, cudlding, sex etc). Date attractive women and experience brotherhood among men. Have a dog. Build a loving and caring partnership. Build a home and a family. Be healthy. Be financially independet. Eat amazing food. Get to know to strangers and built new friendships, and maintain friendships I have. Play. Do all these things and enjoy how others are doing these above. Can I update this list later? : ) Edit: Be aware. Feel. Make life better for me and everyone around. Music. Festivals. Dancing. Swimming.

@PurpleTree Nice text The project of me is becoming free