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It’ll be recontexualized. A simple/complex example is if you breakup with an abusive partner. You have the courage to let them go and not let them back into your life. This invites healthier relationships to be born.

When you stop bullshitting yourself.

Allow yourself to go through all that shit, and let it go. Literally.

Arguments, separation, depression, hopelessness. This is also Love.

Okay, enough ass-kissing, folks.

Love is never something you lose, as it is not something separate from you. All the pain and suffering we go through is not a punishment. It is a reminder to properly process that pain, and to inevitably let go of it. You are not letting go of yourself. You’re letting go of parts of yourself that no longer are serving you.

@Leo Gura Why did the chicken cross the road?

Notice how your mind creates all conflict. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. Seeing conflict clearly for what it is is the key to letting go of it.

Unconditional love paradoxically requires you to let go of the attachments that you love the most.

Don’t ping Leo Gura! He is currently asleep! 😴 🥱 💤

Look at the mind from all different angles. Even the perspectives you deem as wrong or evil can be seen clearly. Not because you change the contents to fit how you need it to be, but because you see it for what it actually is. And, now, a word from ChatGPT:

You’re hallucinating everyone on here. Have a nice day!

Three points: 1) Every painful life experience is an opportunity to grow significantly. For example, a nasty breakup with a significant other. You can look at it from a victim mentality, as well as having a myriad of “what ifs” for what could’ve been done to prevent that breakup. On the other hand, you can introspect on what went wrong, zooming out and identifying patterns on how all your relationships have crumbled (not just focusing on the recent one), and work on addressing the core issues you’ve identified so that you can have healthier relationships moving forward. 2) You miss out on life by avoiding growing yourself and staying stuck in an unhealthy cycle. 3) STOP comparing your growth process to others’ standards. Your path is unique; trying to be like someone else is an endless tail chase. Consider how someone can be single and have healthy relationships, whereas another can be married and have corrupted relationships.

By suffering long enough, you’ll have no choice but to get the hell out of there. It’s also important to watch how your own mind does this to yourself.

That’s an alien!

No. Attaching yourself to the bald Russian man is also a trap.

There are infinite books out there. The Bible is just one of them. Notice how clinging onto the Bible as the only one truthful book is attachment. Your entire identity gets wrapped up in it. So you’re limiting yourself to only what the Bible tells you is true. Obviously, this example doesn’t just apply to the Bible. It can also be this forum.

No doubt whatsoever; nobody else to seek to confirm.

Now let’s work on challenging that assumption. No need to accept your mind working as shit. But no need to run away from it either. It seems personal because there is a strong meaning you associate with being shit.

Can be the opposite, though. There are times where chaos is preferred over silence. It is tricky. Perhaps the chaos is trying to tell you something. Not about you personally, but how your mind works. I say not about you personally, because how you use your mind can change and be more holistic.

@Osaid It looks like that bubble is a drug dealer. SpongeBoy is eyeballing that 5-MeO toad on the bubble dealer’s head

Another perspective. A woman will test you in implicit ways. She’ll see if you’re able to think for yourself and be your own person. Or are you putting on a facade that’s meant to keep her attention on you because you fear that she’ll get bored of you?

One way to look at it - are you are able to identify red (or even yellow) flags in your relationships? Do you set appropriate boundaries in response to those signals?

I’m not referring to spiritual identity. You don’t have to act a certain way to have a deep connection with another. Needing yourself or another to be a certain way is detrimental to building a strong relationship.

Autism is extremely complex. Try not to get too hung up on the stereotypes of what it is or let others project onto you what they think you are based on their assumptions. I’d recommend seeing a therapist who specializes with people on the autism spectrum to help guide you on discovering your authentic self. Realize that most, if not all, self-help and dating advice is geared towards neurotypical folks. When you are more grounded and understanding of your neurodiversity, you can take self-help advice and customize it to your own unique needs. But for now, it’s crucial you have a deep understanding of yourself first, beyond what society and culture has conditioned you with.