Sincerity

@Twentyfirst You are treading a thin line with your posts. We are open here and You can express your opinions rather freely, but homophobia we will not tolerate.

@kamill Maybe your problem is spiritual. Maybe reality is trying to tell You something. You were straining your voice for a long time and neglected it. You had this gift and used it excessively. I think there is a lesson here. If You could go back in time, would You do things differently? Would You respect your voice more and strain it less? Or maybe reality is simply trying to steer You on a different path, very blatantly. Consider it. Perhaps your intuition is strongly suggesting You pursue something else. See, You need your voice to come back, but reality may has different plans for You. Or maybe not and You need to find a way to resolve it somehow. Perhaps try healing the throat chakra, use binaural beats... If traditional medicine has failed then You could go for alternative methods like Carl mentioned.

Finally done with work for today. Oh how great it feels to be free. I trust I am being guided well. I think people underappreciate faith and belief. To most spiritual people hearing the word belief makes their hair stand on end. But there is nothing wrong with belief if it is conscious. Like with everything. Do You believe in God? To be strong in faith is something admirable. To believe when You forget and don't directly know anymore, especially when the times are hard. That's what makes You come back. And to have faith that maybe this pain isn't going to last forever... That's what saves You when You're really feeling depressed. Do You believe in impermanence? Do You believe in good guidance? Do You believe in the continuity of experience? I find that actually it's much harder for me to believe in God than not believe. I am so prejudiced against belief and scared of fooling myself that I'd rather erase everything and question things to death. But it isn't really wise to act from such fear-based motivation. So, what's the way out? I don't think it's either believe or not. You know, I'm just thinking out loud. I'd say not-knowing is superior and looking at the world with new eyes is always best. Still, I think faith is valuable too. There's just something beautiful about it - I sense it, so there must be something there. Oh, how beautiful everything is. Today I also had the thought that meaning is indescribable. I couldn't convey to anyone the meaning of life. But life does have meaning. The best way I can explain it is that the taken journey simply matters in and of itself and this meaning can be directly felt, maybe even awoken to. It simply takes an awakening.

That's how dissolving a duality happens. If You stopped seeing "men", You would also stop seeing "women". When You distinguish something out of everything else, it's always conceptual and not actual. Try looking at experience with new eyes. For a second pull a lever in your mind that forgets all labels and what You "know". Your hand will not be a hand and this won't be anything particular. It's going to just be.

No but seriously, I meant like what? My point is You were asking about the how, but You can't describe what the how is referring to. Because it doesn't "divide itself" in any "particular way". So there is nothing to ask "how" about.

Like what? There is no division. it's just Mind, it is what it is.

Reading my old posts and I can't believe I was the way I was. Even posts from this year... They are so recent, and yet feel so distant. That is not me! A lot has changed for me in the last 3 months. It's hard to describe, but I really am following intuition's guidance more and more, sacrificing myself at the same time. I'm truly becoming something different. I'll expand on this a bit. When I am on a walk for example, I am consistently going in directions which go against my thoughts - I am simply led there and I do it. When I take a book into my hands, I choose the exact page which I am supposed to read. I do things I wouldn't normally do. I break patterns. I go to places I wouldn't normally visit and crazy coincidences occur. Instead of mulling over decisions, I simply say what there is to be said at the moment when the decision should be shared with the needed person. I throw away things/delete accounts I am attached to but which no longer resonate (still hurts). I buy things I wouldn't normally buy. In short, I just do things. Not always, but consistently more often. Sometimes it gets crazy weird, but also it's a cool adventure. But it really feels like something else is calling the shots. Do others fucking experience this?! Because I look at most people and see that they don't. Or maybe they don't notice. It's crazy actually. It's becoming the norm for me and I'm not even giving it too much thought most of the time. But it is fucking CRAZY. I mean what the fuck, right?! I AM DOING THINGS I DON'T UNDERSTAND. And sometimes it's scary. But every day I learn something new. And I'm scared a little less. And I change a little bit. ... I'm sure it's going to be okay. I feel a bit sad right now so I'll go and feel into that. Felt like sharing this song.

You gotta conquer the fear. Do it step by step, don't traumatize yourself. Express the fear. Tell the truth of it to yourself out loud. What are You afraid of? FEEL into it! Recall the images in your mind and process the associated emotions. And with time these feelings will fade away. That's how it always works.

The catch is that this is NOT anything particular. You're only interpreting it as so. But when You stop, the question becomes invalid. THIS IS, and it simply couldn't be anything "else". The mindfuck is that there is no else, because there is no particular now to contrast it to, You see? This duality is not true! And when You see that there is no particular now, it collapses. And You are left with...

Since we are on a self-improvement forum, it would be great if the people here who consistently support Israel tried to see the situation from the Hamas/Palestinian perspective, and vice versa. Remember guys, your alliegience to your team is "only" due to your culture, upbringing, life experiences, etc... This is what forms your perspective, but consider that You would have a vastly different view if your circumstances were different. You are not this accumulated web of beliefs and biases. You are God. Imagine this: currently You are biased against Israel/Palestine, but next life You incarnate on the other team and shit on the beliefs You hold right now. Do You see how stupid this is? Rise above it. (The reincarnation talk & assumption of shared reality which one is always born into is purely for the thought experiment.) Try to see all of this more holistically. For your own sake. When You argue reinforcing your own biases, You are going deeper and deeper into this web of beliefs of yours, further deceiving yourself and disconnecting from the truth. Make sure You don't deceive yourselves so much You are lost. It'd be a shame.

@Leo Gura Humans were made to argue on the internet about politics. There is nothing more to life.

We'll keep the thread open for discussion. I don't know what all this is about but from a first glance it looks petty and unserious. Don't spend too much attention on such shit, it rots You. Also no one should make dedicated channels for attacking someone back or whatever. Don't let yourself fall and wrestle with someone in the mud, being grounded in your energy & sticking to your values is always better. This prevails, in contrast to hostility and pettiness.

I think the truest sign of growth is behaviour change. Sometimes I worry that maybe I'm deluding myself with all the work and only going in circles. But then I remember the tangible changes I find in my behaviour. And then the worry is gone. And I think it's mainly about changes in unconscious behaviour. I mean when You're going on autopilot and You act in a way different from the situations before. It's like your unconscious autopilot gets updated from the conscious work You've been doing. It's beautiful to see. Examples of changes in my behaviour/psyche I observed and wrote down 3 days ago: made a decision much faster today and then let go of it quick to do sth else, been much calmer at work than usual in spite of challenging assignment, been going to the bathroom in the morning more energetically, been eating with more temperance, new desire to go to sleep earlier lately, been acting more intuitively and with less resistance, unloading the dishwasher has felt like fun lately and not a chore, checked my cat's sugar and gave her an insulin shot today faster than ever before, etc... It's the everyday small things. It takes a good eye to notice them.

Still doing good. Every day new lessons coming up. My state is alright. And that's really great. Sometimes I fall, but now I get up faster. Every week I am becoming better at following intuition. Looking at this life feels so weird. I don't know what's going on. What am I doing here? Where am I heading? But most of all: what is this moment? What is THIS? Who is perceiving it? Actually, I don't really think it's "correct" to say "this life" or "this form" or this whatever. Because it isn't "this life". It's THIS. I think the way out of the question "why is this moment the way it is/why am I imagining this particular life" is as follows. This moment isn't in any way. This is not a particular life. These are incorrect assumptions stemming from an interpretation of what IS. And the question is invalid from the very start. I'm getting better at spontaneously seeing things with new eyes. I can be looking at my hand, pull a lever in my mind and forget that it is a hand. And then stare at it with wonder, looking at the mystery of being. Not-knowing is so cool. Yeah. I'm figuring stuff out. I'm wondering what the future will bring.

Huge respect for being vulnerable like that in front of us. Ngl, I almost cried reading your post... I can't give no concrete advice since I'm years younger than You. But just have faith man, You can do it. If what You pursue is aligned with your highest intuition then miracles will literally pave the way for You. Nothing is impossible if You really want it. Thing is, what do You really want? You could be resisting just that. Godspeed! Make it count. It's all gonna be good.

@Agrande What keeps YOU going through YOUR darkest times is what resonates most with YOU. It could be your love for your mom. A determined pursuit of truth. A quote from a book You've read which stuck with You. The joy from smelling your favourite flower and liking its colour in that particular moment. Or a simple, spontaneous sliver of hope, a brief thought/vision that things are going to be okay, in spite of how You're feeling now. Find what YOU find meaning in. Whatever touches YOUR values. And DO stuff You like. Take your mind off of the pain and do meaningful (for You) things. This will fill You with energy.

Death is always avoided on a primal level. An animal doesn't need no beliefs to fight for life. It just does. Same applies to You. You'd know that if You spoke from experience. Anything is considered "good or bad" because of beliefs. But that doesn't mean there isn't such thing as right action. There is and it's purely intuitive, flowing in the moment. If You really tried committing suicide I can guarantee You it wouldn't be right. You'd be going against yourself. In fact You most likely wouldn't be able to do it at all because You'd experience fear so intense your stomach would twist. That's what happens when You go against You. You can test this if You dare. (or better don't) You are under the belief that death being wrong is a belief. Yes, that's still a belief. You've fallen into another trap because You're not doing serious work and You're intellectualizing all the time. Instead of wisdom from experience You get beliefs from whatever thoughts arise. And I'm Donald the Duck.

Listen to what You yourself are saying. What advice You are giving to people. Very often You are saying things You aren't really conscious of yet. And You can literally learn from your own words. It's okay to share advice You haven't integrated yet. Maybe it's simply the case You are always somehow ahead of yourself. Don't be ashamed of it, let that wisdom flow. It's not yours and You can be fine with that. And if You become conscious of the meaning behind what You're saying, then You can start walking the talk. Maybe we're saying things that really we want us to understand. I've been noticing it lately. That wisdom flowing from my mouth. It's not narcissistic to admire what You are saying! It's incredibly wise! Right now I am looking at what I am writing. I am saying this for myself. It's all for my understanding! I want myself to know this! Don't I get it?! It's mind-bending! And oh how beautiful it is...!

Well, it's not about beliefs. And people will misunderstand anything. That doesn't mean that the truth of aloneness as God shouldn't be shared. A thousand warnings / precautions have been given. How many times can You repeat IT'S NOT ABOUT BELIEF? People will still fall into the same trap. Not the messenger's fault.

Because it doesn't point to the Universal You which You are. Also, people for ages have been using the word God. And Oneness = God = You. You guys simply deny You. You deny there being Absolute You, AKA God. You say it's random labels and concepts... well, I'd say that is a hell of a story. Being awake to You / sensing You is no story. You just know. Using the above quote as context, You could say: "There is no me. God is all there is. I am God. I am all there is." Goes full circle. People also go bonkers because of kundalini awakenings. Many end up in psych wards. So what?

Mental disorder, random label, relative concept... sheesh. What did You do to you for you to deny You so much...

Think before You speak.

Spare yourself your brain cells and don't read youtube comments. I recommend the extension Unhook for hiding them. You won't lose anything. Think for yourself.

Actually I feel like I tap into my masculine side more when I see Reality as a woman. Because then I become a man in relation to her. It's funny to me that however You see "the other" (your partner, your friend, a race of people, women, the world, etc.), You then become the "matching half" to that other. What's best about this is that it's ALL your mind. Your perception of other and your matching to it, all a brilliant system, an ingenious illusion. All You. Such understanding helps with consciously choosing frames that empower You, that motivate You to be better, that You simply like. Whatever floats your boat. You can relate to Reality/God however You like. To me this is a big part of the beauty of having a freer mind, choosing perspective at will. Perhaps choosing another frame for a while when You feel like You've been lacking some particular kind of energy. But for that one has to be quite open, since with every shift of your perspective of "other" your identity changes. But You can be okay with that.

Oh the beauty of being able to freely take on a perspective You particularly like.