Fabio

I have on audible, good books. Would enjoy another listen

Goals for 2026.. back to the old code monkey days?

Cool, I live in BC. I know land is cheap in Quebec, im a bit envious.. low key would like to do something similar one day, but to your question.. $70k is tight, especially if you have to involve engineers, and permitting, etc. Electrical and plumbing I believe has to be done by certified people. If it's off grid, best option is a large solar setup either on the roof if room, given the size most likely a ground mount with as much battery storage as possible. There's propane toilets that burns the doo doo and doesn't require sewage (unless you have the hook up already then get a normal toilet). There's a lot of off grid people on youtube that have built cabins out of lumber but it takes a while. Can look at log cabin videos, some guys harvest the tree's themselves off the land and shave it into logs for building. but its time consuming. There's also pre fab house kits that you can try to find a " healthy build" with engineering drawings already. But cost is questionable. Worth looking into. I also like the idea of cement block builds. Last the longest and strong. Foundation is another thing that usually has to be done by profesionals, but you can look into that for as a tiny home.. Can maybe put them on cement blocks without hiring a company to pour a huge foundation, but you'll have to look at local rules.

@pablo_aka_god Haha nice! Enjoy

Ive started getting into sardine & olive oil fasting. Buying olive oil thats single sourced, virgin, cold pressed and high in polyphenols is apparently one of the biggest health hacks. One "expert" said eating is just an excuse to get more olive oil. If consumed on an empty stomach, and done for a couple days fasting only olive oil, it rapidly puts the body in autophagy which is when your body cleans out old dead cells more than water fasting alone. High quality Olive oil aint cheap $60-120 and lasts 6 months to a year after opened but compared to other health protocols its pretty great. Lots of content on Youtube about it.

Cool responses. Thanks everyone for for the contributions.

I made a somewhat similar post a year ago.. Finding Im struggling with the same underlying issue. Many girls Id never date. Though I dated a girl that's 39 for like 6-7 months recently and broke up about a month and a bit ago. I think what made her so crazy about me is that I was initially minimally attracted to her and she could kinda tell, which made me a challenge and with some time she kinda grew on me and I enjoyed her company and she had her shit together and treated me nicely, replied fast , happy to meet my needs, etc so it was nice. Problem is I found younger girls more attractive, and I didnt want to have kids with a girl who in a few years is like 44 and dating a girl whose 49 in 10 years when im 40 makes me feel like I aged quicker than necessary. When I approach a girl that I genuinely find attractive, as I have recently, I find it hard to keep my emotions in check. I tend to show how much I adore them quickly, when I find a girl physically attractive and she recipricates a bit, I tend to indulge. I went on a first date this monday with a girl, we went for a couple drinks and an appy, went to a beach, sat down, made out, smoked a joint, faced eachother, pulled her on top of me and made out and had a long hug. One guy even commented on how were "making him feel some kinda way" as in he liked the lovey vibe. She was kinda a hippy type, and talked about how she wants to be a stay at home mom one day and how life is about love etc . This is where I usually get messed up: She had such a beautiful face, that when we kissed and I looked at her it literally felt so heavenly and euphoric like god was blessing me with his attention or something, like the biggest rush of serotonin and peace, very addicting feeling. I texted her a couple days after our date in the evening (yesterday) to make plans in the next week, and the next day (today at 1pm) she hasn't replied yet. I've basically given up on trying to not think about it because the withdrawl from that heavenly feeling is so shitty, ive been just putting my time outside of work on just emotional healing techniques to try to manage it because I get logically how I should be super detached at this point. It seems like we connected kinda deeply, but I know thats the wrong thing to be focused on as a dude, as girls feelings develop slowly, its just the truth of how I felt about it . Anyway, I meditate a few times a week, been getting into holotropic breathwork and did it once a week ago and that was an amazing tool to get in touch with my traumas and release them. I know I should be approaching other women, but when I felt a bond with a girl, its hard to approach others but I can force myself if necessary, (yes I know I shouldn't be bonded with someone I just met, but how was I to avoid it?) and chances are she'll probably reply eventually, but still, knowing to myself that I thought this amount about her between the dates is like an issue I need to resolve even if she goes out with me again cause the attachment is unsustainable for a womans attraction and is hard to hide. Thus the title: What habits would be the top priority to build independence , low reaction to girls and their disintested behaviour after this type of date? To be as non needy as possible, preferably from the inside out. For example: Date more women, Meditate everyday, journal? Etc. Any dudes who have been in the same boat and have overcome it, if you could mention that as well would be appreciated.

I actually might regret never seeing him in concert... damn. At least ive seen Paul Mccartney twice.

Gay bar? lol

@Hardkill If you can stomach a bit more judgement, you should be able to go to the same places as 20s and 30s and chat with them. Girls in their 30s should be cool with 40s dude. Heck Ive seen a girl in her 20s kiss a guy who must be like 50 or more once because he protected her from a creep. Girls can be surprising that way. Dating apps probably make more sense, the paid ones to find a long term partner if you want a normal, healthy relationship with out filtering through the taken women, etc in cold approach. You can go to community events, festivals, concerts, I see people in their 40s at these events all the time. Even places with young people usually have people in 40s-70s age range. Social circle can be a way as well.

Id .. find something you like wearing or improve something about your image you dont like. for example, if you're bald, wear a hat you like or whatever. Most people look better when they're smiling and have good posture. If you tend to hunch and look serious, try to work on it. Go out with some friends, have a couple drinks if needed and ask one of your friends to take candid pics of you throughout the night. Ideally without you noticing so you dont tense up and can be relaxed or smile. Like someone else said, learning cold approach will probably be better. I invested time into cold approach and I get way more results with cold approach than tinder and im a decent looking guy with okay photos. The algorithm doesnt really show my profile to attractive women unless I pay for a the subscription which i dont want to so I barely get matches. Then when I pay they all start flooding in and of the matches, only a few reply and very few go on dates. Its slow and kinda a waste of time as an only approach but eventually works, can be quick if lucky. Living in an area with attractive women and cold approaching is so much more effective and faster. Last two nights I went out to bars, I got two numbers and made out with both of them. So personally, I swipe only as an extra.

Im currently doing door to door setting up appointments for Solar evaluations. Commissions $500-$3500 typically, can be $5000+ CAD. I started in October 2024, and have averaged about $2900 a month (I was learning and had no sales first month).. The last 2 months Ive made $5k-9k month. A lot of potential for growth. But anyway, its hard, ideally a product that actually works and has real value . Door to door is a good playground for doing one of the simplest, yet emotionally difficult jobs with the ability of earning more than a doctors salary if you're disciplined. Its you vs you essentially if the company is good. And what I like about it is the freedom, being a sub contractor, and how you choose how much you're going to make with your dedication while learning to stomach tons of rejection, kinda like doing pick up. Can be fun too and you learn a lot about humans meeting 20 + people a day typically.

They are now called SMC "Self mastery Co". From what I can tell, its mostly Owen's youtube as the main marketing, and a team of staff (SMC) running the business end of things.

@NoSelfSelf yes

I've been cold approaching for the last year and a half pretty consistently 1-3 days a week, usually 1 day per week after my last relationship. I've been working on my inner game for about 10 years and consider myself decently mentally healthy. Since my last relationship, I've made almost no effort on dating apps. Been trying to meet people only through approaching. In the last year and a half, I've made out with close to 20 women, and been on dates with 7 women , some of them multiple dates and still seeing one. My self esteem is fine. I don't think cold approach causes low self esteem, but it will trigger your already existing low self esteem when you get rejected if you don't manage your state and emotions. It doesn't bother me, I expect rejection and don't take it personally. Most rejections end with us both smiling because she has a bf or something. Ya its easy to forget about your low self esteem when your hiding from anything that triggers you. Cold approach reveals it. Im not saying Im perfect, or don't have times when I feel bad, but it passes within a few minutes, hours or couple of days as long as Im doing emotional work and then I'm back to normal. Im sure if I continue, that my dating results will improve with time. The dudes in your examples have issues to begin with and don't want to face them. Thats probably the bigger issue. The guy went to jail for threatening murder and the videos hardly seem like an approach that's inviting romance , more so a debate on veganism being bad. Which is fine in sprinkles, but not as the whole conversation. You have to be smart with cold approach, you cant just be a monkey spamming the same location with cringy vibes forever.