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    I once watched something about native americans and it was said something like growing up they watch the children and notice who is a good leader. It is someone who is just a certain kind of personality and others are naturally respecting that boy / girl. That kid later grows into some kind of leader in that tribe. That what I would call "alpha". You cannot just decide to be an "alpha". The group does. Your personality does. If there is no trust / respect for that leader, it's really not a great leader (for that group).

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    18 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    I watched this video a week or so ago. It's really clear that all this alpha talk is often just a cover for deep insecurities and you can sense it is Elliot's need to delineate alpha men from beta men, to ensure himself to be categorized as an alpha. So, this is a perfect example of that.

    That's exactly how I feel about it. He is - imo - a good example for a counterphobic personality. Very insecure trying to put on an act of strength. Easy to spot.

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    42 minutes ago, Yannik said:

    @Toby Tom Andreas

    Never heard of him. Googled him. Not surprised he has no degree as a doctor or psychologist / psychotherapist  as what you wrote initially just sounded like the typical bs you find with NLP/systemic "coaching". Although - as I don't know him I cannot say anything about him.
    If you are really dealing with "trauma", I'd suggest someone who does
    SE: https://www.somatic-experiencing.de/traumatherapeuten-finden/?_loc_l=&_loc_lat=&_loc_lon=&map or
    NARM: https://www.drlaurenceheller.com/practitioners_Gr.html
    Assuming you are from Cologne, for Spiritual support I would visit for example http://muni-satsang.de/pag/termine.htm or http://www.shantimayi.com/schedule but I guess there is a lot of other things too you could do.

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    Could you say what you DO regarding your spiritual / psychological path? Because there are certain practices / behaviours I would not do in your situation as I understand it. For example: I wouldn't do too much meditation, any kind of breathwork, cold showers, too many different spiritual teachers / meetings and so on...

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    5 minutes ago, Arhattobe said:

    @Toby the frog dude Tony mentioned. Forgot his name. Also adyashanti wrote a book with a guy. Resurrecting Jesus. Good book for what comes after mere realisation. 

    Francis bennet. Christian mystic. Entered non duality. He is now a transgendered person. And clearly is in pain. Dude sees other realms and shit as well. 

    Edit : Wayne wirs is his name

    oh, ok... although I don't think Adyashanti "wrote" any book with him. Resurrecting Jesus is a book based on a talk at sounds true (Tami Simon) afair.

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    On 13.11.2018 at 3:49 AM, Robby said:

    I would like to meet an enlightened person face to face. I imagine that being in the presence of someone enlightened would be a profound and powerful experience. I don't know how to go about this. I don't know where to find such a person. Also, I can imagine that someone who is enlightened may not want to be bothered by spiritual seekers. If I were to meet such a person, I wouldn't want to harass them with endless questioning, I'd be tremendously grateful to make myself useful in some way (cleaning the house, chores, waxing their car like the karate kid, whatever I can offer lol) just to be in the presence of someone who has radically elevated his/her consciousness. Now I live in southern California and it probably wouldn't be financially prudent for me to leave the country as of now, but if anyone has any advice on how or where I can meet someone I would greatly appreciate it. I didn't know where to start looking, so I thought I would start here. 

    Adyashanti and his gang (people that he asked to teach like his wife Mukti, John Bernie and others) are also from the Bay area: https://web.archive.org/web/20170930014111/www.adyashanti.org/index.php?file=teachers

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    25 minutes ago, LaucherJunge said:

    @bejapuskas I mean especially the red pill and blue pill stuff, realize that you have the power to create your world, if you want to live in the mainstream worlds of blue or red pill, you will sure never fulfill your hearts true desire. I feel like some people here are not at all connected to their heart, to their desires, their passion. That way you will never experience genuine love, which in my opinion is the most beautiful thing life has to offer, your heart is capable of this love for anyone even yourself at all times, but of course you need to really get in touch with it. 

    has this love you are talking about the capacity to say "no" and set boundaries?