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I've struggled with ocd and anxiety since I was young, so for a while I was attracted to things that I thought could improve me. But if I remember correctly I wasn't overly anxious when I started meditating, it was just a chain reaction of events, so I tried mushrooms for the first time which really opened my eyes about everything and then I randomly got sent a sadhguru video and then I got in to Eckhart tolle, read power of now etc. I started meditating with a sadhguru guided meditation (which I'm trying again now), but yeah I never really planned any of it, it just kind of happened. It's funny a few years before this I read a book by Russell Simmons called super rich, which at the time I hated cos I was materially trying to be rich but he was talking about all this you're rich already stuff, I felt misled ?. But some seed must've stuck with me because I was very open when all this other stuff happened.

Oh man, first off don't worry too much, although it feels like you're alone and this is a unique situation, it's probably more common than what you think of as a successful relationship. Now here's what I get from your post, your just not quite 'feeling it', it was exciting at first because it was probably your first relationship, or first at least that meant something. But now you've outgrown each other and you want different things and because of this there's a guilt within you every time you see her. Which leads to you picking at things you don't like about her and not really wanting to see her. Although we try and downplay it, sex life is important as well, not more important than the rest of the relationship but important. So if that's not working it is a factor as well. These things are the core problems and then to me a symptom of them is you cheating. If underneath everything was fine you wouldn't cheat but because of the issues these things happen. Quickly on your reasons, whenever you break up with someone there's going to be these 'reasons' to me they're not good enough to stay with someone. You have to do what's right for you. Now my advice, you're young, you will have many experiences. Be honest with yourself this is not a right fit for you. You say you don't know what to do but that's because you want to break up but you feel it's wrong to do so. If you thought you should stay together you wouldn't think it's wrong so you wouldn't have even posted this. It is hard as you've become do comfortable in the relationship but I think you deserve to do what's right for you and grow from it and so does she, I'm sure given the choice she won't want to stay in it given all the facts and if she does then her self esteems probably too low to be in a relationship anyway. Anyway good luck with it

Don't get confused with the fear and desire. So it's natural that if you're hetro (which I think you are from your post) you still might think 'that guys attractive', but because a fear of even thinking that has been built up by your dad let's say, it makes you more aware of these thoughts and fearful of them. The worst thing you can do is try and suppress them or argue with them. Literally do nothing about them, the more you build them up the more they'll feel real. There's a condition called hocd where you obsess about whether you're gay (or can also be obsess over whether you're straight if you're gay), I don't think you have that but that's an extreme version that can develop. Also if you don't really have a desire to, do not test yourself by having a gay experience. Everyone's advice is well intentioned on here but if it's a fear based thing and you go and do that, it could be something that you constantly try and work out if you liked it or not. It will not give you certainty, there is no way to get certainty and you have to accept that. If naturally you get attracted to guys that's cool, something might happen but I honestly don't think you are gay from your post, so your solution will be to work on accrpting your thoughts more

They don't necessarily say they're transcendent, I'm saying I get that from their presence and what they say, it resonates with me on a certain level, so itsy judgement of them. If someone was just going around proclaiming they were enlightened it probably wouldn't resonate with me. There are so many teachers in life and what tends to happen is you resonate with certain ones for whatever reasons. Now Leo is a teacher who obviously resonates with some people, if he doesn't with you then that's ok. But you've gone the extra step and said he's dangerous, assuming you're not just doing this for attention or to play devil's advocate, means you really believe this to be the case. For me, anyone with power and a large fan base espeicially with spiritual teachings does have the potential to abuse that power, so the position he's in can be seen as potentially dangerous. But to make a claim that he is you would have to pinpoint exactly things he does that take advantage of his followers. If you just say the things he talks about, these things, like you also say are not new they can be found in the teachings of others as well and as far as I know they're not cult leaders. So I just don't see it to be honest, I think it's fair to highlight the potential danger but I can't really see the actual danger.

Always good to have different points of view and I think there is a genuine issue with people idolising YouTube stars or influencers, whatever you want to call them. I think you should always take in information from a multitude of sources and put it together in your own way that makes sense to you. With Leo I got in to the channel more when he talked about spirituality, because it was what I was interested in, I thought he was just a self help kind of guy so when I saw the first video on spirituality I was impressed. Not because he was saying anything new (nothings really new) but because he was explaining it in a way where younger people would be able to understand. Now if you think about it the only need for new spiritual teachers is to explain these centuries old teachings to new audiences. Yes it would be if everyone could just pick up the Tao and understand it but that's not the case. So I think it's slightly unfair to say that he's just talking rubbish in terms of spirituality because he's not he's just saying it a way a different audience can understand it. You also contradict yourself by saying that he doesn't say anything new and then saying he speaks rubbish, if he's not saying anything new and repeating stuff then whatever he is repeating is rubbish by your reasoning. But anyway I'm not saying this to really defend him or say that your wrong necessarily, but as far as I can see there's nothing different to what he says in comparison to an Eckhart tolle or someone like that, to say he was starting a cult would be to say that he's using those teachings for some kind of power or gain and honestly I don't see it. I think if you want to criticize him I see an issue with maybe a spiritual ego that he has and the fact that he's obviously not enlightened yet, but again those things can help you relate to him, like I have those things as well probably. To me guys like Mooji and sadhguru have an air about that where you know they've transcended, so there's comparison, but there's definitely a place for Leo

@Edvard I mean it seems like a fluid thing, in the same way that your personality is fluid depending on emotions, things happening. So if you know someone well and can see them over a certain length of time through different circumstances then you could make an evaluation and say this persons predominantly green but have shades of yellow and can revert to orange when stressed about money for example. But of course if you just take an isolated action and say oh that was a red action so that persons red its not going to give you the full picture. Also keep in mind yellow can use the other colours as they wish so they may do orange actions for example to get money, but they might be strong yellows. So its impossible to like at isolated behavior and get a clear picture. Im reading a book about it at the moment and they were using the model to sort at apartheid in South Africa in the 90s, and what they had to do was work out what colour each group of people was and then what colour the revert to in different circumstances, which takes a lot of understanding of the various cultures. The best you can do without knowing the person or people really well is say, that was an orange action, that was a blue action etc

As I understand it in spiral dynamics you have all the previous levels within you and you can revert to them at any point depending on the circumstances. So for example someone who's mainly orange and loses a loved one may temporarily look to God and become blue while deal dealing with the trauma. So with breaking bad it's interesting because at first it happens very slowly, he's put into different positions which mean he just has to be more and more violent. But I would say initially he's at orange/green but he moves into bad orange/red. So it's msybe not possible to move your dominant colour backward, but you can do it temporarily dependent on circumstances

I started using whey and I'm not sure I noticed anything that bad about it but obviously it could've been doing some negative stuff to my body I wasn't aware of. But anyway I wanted to recommend hemp powder which I've used for a couple of years, all natural, although doesn't taste great but in a smoothie it's kind of masked

@MM1988 To me attracting women is almost skillset that can be learnt, the reason i say that is because with us men we can become oblivious to the 'mating dance' and what women actually want, simply because unless we're incredibly attractive from a young age, we dont get women approaching us. Women, on the other hand will have to deal with men approaching from a very young age and are therefore a lot more experienced in knowing what turns them on or off. I say that because theres no shame in having to learn this as a skill, theres a lot you need to know and practice, confidence, congruency, non-neediness, putting yourself out there, but a lot of this will come if you make a commitment to be congruent to yourself. Im guessing that in interactions your doing what you think the woman wants you to do and possibly being 'the nice guy', point blank that doesnt work because its deceptive at its core, so if you can take this deception out of the equation and show your true self, as well some basics from PUA (non-manipulative) id probably recommend some rsd vids, then if you approach enough women theres no way you couldnt at least get some that are interested in you romantically. Also the paradox of not needing a relationship or sex is true as well, you have to recognise that in reality it isnt actually that important, its just that we're constantly bombarded with how important it is. Because of this it stays in our mind and then when we actually talk to a female it suddenly becomes a 'high stakes' interaction that could change your life, fact is, its bullshit. Once you realise this and genuinely talk to people for fun or good vibes youll also notice a big change. Its like when youre a kid and you really want to stroke a dog, so you chase it and youre so desperate to touch it that your vibe scares it off and you never really get to stroke it, whereas if you just have a cool vibe and stay in one place, at some point the dog will come and say hello (not comparing women to dogs lol), but its the same thing with male and female interactions. If you have a cool vibe eventually someone will want to experience that vibe for longer. Give to give, dont think of what youre getting from it

Hey @Charlotte thanks for getting back to me, i cant see my post and cant remember exactly what i said but ill take a guess lol Ive tried cbt before which kind of helped but im kinda trying an erp method at the moment but im looking into getting a professional to help with that. Mine are thoughts based as well so ive cut out the physical compulsions ie checking etc but im still ruminating which can get really annoying but im trying to cut that out as i think thats the main thing powering it. I think the microdosing could probably help in general life and if it helps with the ocd then great. Yeah drugs are bad, but if you can dm about 'non-drug' related topics i would be grateful

Sorry guys just saw this havent been on the boards for a while, to answer your posts - @ExodiaGearCEO Good idea but Id prefer to do a live video or a seminar something like that, just to be able to reach more people, but feel free to ask me any questions and ill definitely answer them either on here or in a future podcast @TylerJ yes well spotted @Black Flag hasnt happend yet, but i think you guys should set something up and like i said feel free to ask me anything. No problem, hope you find them useful. I've got my whole, probably too long story, on the podcasts but basically a lot of trial and error and a good 4 years doing ebay prior to starting. Learnt a bit from youtube, blogs and fb groups, theres tried and tested ways to do it but you should always try and develop your own method. Anyway thanks for checking out my ramblings on soundcloud and good luck on your online business journeys, peace and love

Ive been selling on Amazon fba for coming up to 2 years and managed to turnover 6 figures in last 12 months. So ive started a podcast on soundcloud giving advice to anyone whos looking to start up their own side hustle or even full time business. Not that im an expert by any means but just sharing my experiences and lessons ive learnt. Its free and im not selling anything although if anyone really wants it i maybe able to do private coaching. Feel free follow on sc and insta. But anyway check it out if its something youve been thinking about, if you have any questions that arent touched upon in the podcasts let me know and ill answer them fully in a future one. Ive dropped it netflix style so theres 7 episodes up already, this episode 5 but obvs go into the profile to get more - Episode 6

@D13g0 First off well done for pushing your boundaries and doing something like this, approaching a stranger and trying to create attraction is extremely difficult especially when its something you havent really done before, so take a second and think about the accomplishment of even attempting that, most people will never do that in their lives. Your issue seems to be with anxiety, so really its not a case of getting more woman or even getting rid of the anxiety, you have to come to terms with allowing the anxiety to be there. Youre doing something that youve never done before so youre brain is in survival mode trying to get you not to do it, because its something you want but youve survived all this time without doing it your brain just sees it as a threat to your survival. So its going to kick in with lots of anxiety and horrible feelings, theres no way to get rid of them but the more you challenge them by in this case, approaching women the more they should subside, but you have to understand why theyre there and just let them be, dont question them just look at it as a consequence of you pushing outside your comfort zone. The other issue is putting too much on the result, ie a girl texting you back. Whats interesting is that you dont even know whether you like the girl really but it would ruin your day if she doesnt text back. Which says that you are caught up in the result and not the girl or even the process. To really be successful in most things and especially attraction you really have to let go of the end result, practically you can do this by having the mindset that you dont really need this person in your life but if she wants to be it will be a great experience for her. Also another one is having an abundant mentality which is that you can approach and have a relationship with an abundant amount of women, you dont need to just go for the one that accepts your advances. again well done, and i hope this helps in some way

Just posted a podcast on soundcloud to do with fear and how it stops you doing what you want, the podcast series is more business orientated and goes through how to sell on Amazon which i do, but just wanted to give some value so let me know your thoughts on it - Podcast episode 8

@sgn my bad, last try i think its sorted now lol

@sgn Should be fixed now, have a listen you may not even need that much capital

I wasnt really explaining it i was just replying to @Deep

You could say theres a need as we could look at the shadow side of our collective consciousness and work at how to improve ourselves and the reasons why we bring such pain upon ourselves, in an effort to improve ourselves and not make the same mistakes and fall into the same traps we have done for many years. Racism is one way we separate ourselves and a real understanding of this can help us to truly become one through understanding. What youre saying is fine but doesnt really add to the question

We had a lengthy discussion about that here -

But in the video he does say the flow state is the optimum way for us to experience reality. So if you want to call it enlightenment or flow state or whatever the words arent really important its more the perspective youre seeing the world from. Whatever you experience your brain and body are the conduits for that so you will be able to trace activity through that. So to me it would seem that to have our highest chance of perceiving reality we should be in our optimum state and whilst in that optimum state people do say they feel that oneness, so it doesnt make it ultimately true but its the best perspective we can achieve.

Lol Was gonna bring up the 'black people are proud based on rap music'. That statement tells me everything, heres the thing go out and actually talk to some black people, instead basing your opinions on media cartoon representations. Thats like me saying all white people listen to country music and are hilbillies. And you said that while backtracking on what you said previously lol. I always wonder with people of similar feelings, can you really see things from a different perspective or will you always have these ingrained beliefs?

Completely agree with you, i work at a youth charity as a sessional worker, working with kids from 12 right up to early 20s and the number one factor i see for kids with behavioral issues is home life. Im pretty sure theres a direct correlation between how disruptive a young person is and how bad their home life is. If the kid has a fairly good home life you dont tend to see them having any behavioral issues. To say its solely based on race and genetics is to me incredible. But the thing is @MasterNigel isnt the only person that thinks this way. Like i said hopefully you take some of this on board and question your beliefs esp when confronted with so much evidence

Just so you know, Hitler also believed in genetics in the way you describe, ie different races having generalised superior and inferior attributes, which of course led to the holocaust. If you look at murder rates across the world Central and South American countries are usually the highest, as well as African countries. What you'll also notice is Russia a predominately white country has a higher murder rate than Nigeria, Mali and a number of African countries. Also the USA has a higher murder rate than Rwanda, Niger, Liberia and several other African countries. This isnt the total number of murders (of which USA is 8th with just under 16,000) this is number of murders per 100,000. Actually if you took away 50% of all murders in the USA, which you say are committed by blacks, the USA would only drop down to 13th in total murders in the world. So to jump to such a conclusion about black people being genetically pre disposed to commit murder i think just doesnt add up. Also whats notable about the list is that the higher murder rates belong to poorer countries. Also to @SFRL's point, yes you can make the argument that white people have been brutal in the last few hundred years or so, slavery, holocaust, colonisation, etc etc and thats not even getting into systemic racism, KKK, Black wall street the list goes on. Point is that to generalise people especially through genetics just doesnt work, in fact Hitlers theories have been debunked by modern science. But basically my standpoint is that poverty creates crime and murder amongst other factors, rather than as you say just genetics, if it was just genetics African countries would have the highest murder rates, also its very simplistic to even say its just one factor, especially such a loose debunked factor as youve mentioned. But anyway im not trying to prove im right i just want to encourage you to have a truly open mind about a topic such as this and not just jump to assumptions. Check out the doc anyway

Well the question would then be why are they more likely to commit murders? One argument could be that people in poverty whatever the race are more likely to commit crime and murder, so then it comes down to why are a lot of black people in poverty? Thats a complex issue which ive touched on as well in previous post. Main point is everything imo is causal so there are reasons why things happen this isnt to excuse anything or look at who the victims are, but to get a genuine understanding of why certain people are in certain situations. Its very easy to say (not neccersarily saying this is your point) black are just like this and white people are just like this. But to actually look unbiasedly at why these things are happening is very important to changing the tide. As @SFRL suggested you should watch 13th on netflix and while watching also watch how your mind reacts to it, do you question everything, do you accept it, do you dismiss it, watch what you do.

Lol yeah ok then, so you believe black people are inherently 'bad' and are just more likely to commit murder. Anyway, i honestly hope youve gained sonething from this exchange