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I've met a fair few guys who would probably objectively be considered less than 5/10 do pretty damn well with women in cold approach scenarios. Mostly they just talk to everyone, know how to put women at ease, and have some charm. All of these are skills that can be learnt regardless of looks. Do they do as well as a good looking guy with the same charm? Maybe not, but it's certainly not considered socially unacceptable for them to approach women. I think it can work, but it requires good social skills. The risk is higher so for most guys it's probably better to just go to places where it's socially acceptable for the sexes to intermix. In a night club or bar for example, it's actually creepier and less socially acceptable to sit at the side by yourself than it is to talk to lots of people, even if you have sucky social skills.

It's only socially inappropriate if you do it in the wrong places, or you have awful social skills. Or maybe if you live in a very very conservative country. These are all barriers that can be overcome. Like probably 80% of relationships that exist today started from a man approaching a woman, so calling it socially inappropriate is just wrong.

Could be any number of reasons like editing, gaming, game dev, crypto mining, generative AI stuff among others.

Yes there are biological differences, but those do not make one gender categorically superior to the other like you imply.

I wonder why

It may be an issue for some men but I would not frame this as a problem that all men face. It sounds like you have some guilt/shame around sex which is not so healthy.

I had to get a root canal done on one of my teeth 3ish years ago, I had to pay stupid money for a top specialist to do it because my teeth roots are at right angles which average dentists don't want to touch with a ten foot pole. I've had absolutely no issues since. Root canals are generally pretty safe operations. Worst case is that it doesn't work, then you can just get the tooth removed and get an implant.

It's likely because those harmless mistakes are actions that are very similar to the actions that would taken by actual predators. Most women have at least some experience with SA or other predatory guys so they build up a profile of the kind of actions that are associated with it. And from the POV of a woman it's better to err on the side of caution. Poor social skills + overconfidence is the killer combo here. It repels women because it means a guy comes across as unreasonable and erratic. They can't figure you out or predict what you will do and that's dangerous. Think the 'PUA' guys who chase women on bikes. That is a combo of awful social skills but delusional confidence. If you give off that same vibe, women will assume you are dangerous. Unless you do something really really dumb, this is about as far as it will go. Who cares? The motivation here is not to shame you but to gain attention. 90% of people realise that what these woman are doing is dumb, but they get outraged by it so it still seems like it's more prevalent of an issue than it really is.

What is your point? I’m sorry but this just reads like a paranoid ramble

What is the context in which you know these men?

This is judgement: ----- There are plenty of women out there who you would get along great with, your experiences are likely just tainted by the women who you have met.

I think a lot of PUA teachers are like this. You have you be at least moderately fucked up to set your life goal as having sex with as many women as humanely possible. That's why I resonate more with teachers like Leo who are more well rounded people and not just laser focused in on having as much sex as possible. And really, I've found that the best way to up my game was just going out every weekend and talking to as many girls as possible. And also just building up a decent life e.g. make at least decent money, travel, have decent social skills. I didn't really watch any content from teachers other than some of Leo's stuff. Maybe it's the bluepilled sheep in me, but I find almost all PUA content exceptionally hard to watch. Based on what you said, it seems he deliberately picks fights rather than merely rustling some feathers. I don't know what to say other than that lay report is really cringy.

I haven’t even looked at his pickup style content. I saw some videos of him criticising other people and the way he did it (and the fact he even bothered to do it at all) immediately made me think he was an utter tosspot. The fact there is so much drama surrounding him tells you all you need to know about him. You shouldn’t give attention to people who always find a way to get themselves entangled in shitty drama like that.

This dude is 100% raw and unfiltered cringe in the clips I’ve seen of him. Especially in the comment section of his videos, he behaves like a man child.

Do you not see the irony of this thread? You're childishly and immaturely whining about women being childish and immature. If you act childish and immature all you will ever attract are childish and immature women. It doesn't mean that all woman are childish and immature.

The common denominator among all of the woman you have dated is you. Perhaps you just attract emotionally immature woman.

They say this because most socially anxious guys actually filter themselves too much and so for them, reducing their filter will result in growth. Yes they might say some dumb shit but it’s still facing a fear for them which is progress overall. It sounds like you may be at the other end of the spectrum where you already don’t have any filter at all, and so applying this advice won’t help. In fact it might hurt or create frustration. A socially anxious guy may learn to talk without a filter and then eventually return to his more natural filtered state but with extra wisdom that creates a more balanced and charismatic person. In the same way you could learn to filter yourself a bit more and see the results of that, and once you’ve learnt what you need to you can start moving back towards your more natural unfiltered state.

What you say and how you say it both matter. You can think of it like the ‘how’ you say it determining ‘what’ you can say and get away with it. For example being passionate about women’s menstruation is an unusual thing for a dude to be passionate about so you’d need a lot of humour, charm and wit (‘the how’) to act as a counterbalance to that topic (‘the what’) to get away with it

That was my second time in a club ever, I was shitting myself with nerves most of the time. Likely behaving quite erratically as a result too. These things make you seem much more creepy than you really are even when doing the most basic things. And I've also never been kicked out a club since. And I've been back to that same club like probably 30 times since then and got laid more times than I can remember. I had a threesome with two girls from that club. Don't focus on the negative things that could happen, focus on the the potential benefits. I don't walk on eggshells anymore. The first few times yea, and then you learn to relax a little bit. If you want to go to places where you have more leeway you should find rock/goth focused clubs. The girls (and people in general) in these places are usually way more chill.

Have you tried Ground news? It’s a pretty good app for congregating news sources. IIRC they have a page for each event/topic and give you a breakdown of all of the different news sources that have covered it, and their political bias. It also gives good summaries too

I guess it depends on your fitness goals. I really like being able to exercise for a long time and not get tired. I also like the feeling of freedom you can get from being able to run or hike long distances. For me, I feel like being able to run 10k is pretty healthy and it's what I'm currently training for. I don't see much point in being able to run further than that though tbh.

Yea, they're great. Also my 501s feel the most high quality out of all the Levi's jeans I've owned. I'm considering picking up a selvedge pair in Indigo at some point. A lot of modern levi's does not feel like they use particularly high quality denim but it seems like they've kept the quality on their original 501 cut.

Are those grey levis 501s, they look exactly like the jeans I wear most days lol

The vast majority of trendsetters will create trends that follow the current big picture movements of fashion. That's my core point. You can think of fashion in 3 tiers: movement, trends and fads. Movements in fashion are like the big picture, representing cultural and social shifts. Trends are the in-the-moment styles that come and go. Fads are short-lived, intense bursts of popularity—here today, gone tomorrow. You can be a trendsetter or create fads but what you wear will still need to follow the big-picture movement of fashion for them to not look outdated or out of place.

My style is quite boring day to day, just a nice fleece, oversized jumper, patagonia t-shirt, some Levi's 501 jeans, Nike trailrunners and a nice watch. I'm not super into trendy expensive streetwear clothing but I wear clothes that follow the overall movement of modern fashion which is relaxed fit and comfy. I'm not saying you have to dress super modern, just that you should follow broad movements in fashion. For example the corduroy trousers your grandad wears every day would look stupidly dated on you as a mid 20 year old in 2023, but in his time they were likely super trendy. This is just a more extreme example of how skinny jeans end up looking dated.