Gianna

Develop objective perspective. Meaning you take the other's perspective completly as a part of your own (their experiences, pov, understanding, consciousness level, etc.) Now their perspective is also your perspective. Now you have two perspectives– yours and theirs. Any decision made after this expanded perspective will be gentleman-like. Especially when you integrate qualities of the devine masculine within it (protection, decisiveness, action, etc.)

@RickyFitts <3 <3 <3

If you never know truth, then you never know love ???

Addictions are about loneliness. This is why support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous work– because of connection. Connection is the antidote to addiction, along with other things. I personally think having a sense of purpose is one of those things. But I think connecting through art and connecting through the support of this organization is a great way to help addicts. Congrats on such a noble call! It is a really beautiful service to give. Addiction is such a huge problem in our society, especially considering the impact it has on others. Good luck!

Yeah that makes total sense. And I agree, making sure you are on the same page as far as language is critical when talking about dynamics like this. Oh, interesting about the trial-error period. So you find what combo of hormones works for your body to not have overwhelming or harmful side effects. But to me, the side effects are important messengers for how your body feels about these hormones. If you find a combination of hormones that aren't giving you side effects, and you acclimate to whatever dose of hormones you are taking, now you are dependent on those irregular hormones– hormones that are not regular (that are not produced by the body). My thinking is, why do that and be dependent when you can put your body back into balance by introducing ways it can produce those hormones on its own? And then you are not dependent. The reason why I disagree with artificial processes is that– to me– it implies the body cannot heal itself when it absolutely can. The body is just so incredible and so powerful and beautiful. But I get that for some people having these resources is important for them– especially when they are struggling with something they think is beyond their control/capability. We really need to realize our innate power and recognize that our body's responses (hormone releases or otherwise) are reflections of our thoughts and our emotions, and we have control over that. I do like medical resources and advancements; I just think with birth control, specifically, it's not as necessary as we are making it out to be.

@Danioover9000 Have you ever asked her how she sees you? Like can she see your energy centers (chakras)?

Oh my gosh I love this! Thanks for sharing

@soos_mite_ah I like and accept your challenge! hehehe. And I agree, where we draw the line between natural and artificial can be considered arbitrary. But just because it is philosophically considered arbitrary (due to the fact that it is always changing) doesn't mean it's not important where we continue to draw that line. Grocery stores, for instance. I actually agree that grocery stores are unnatural. haha. I think they are unnatural and I think because of that, they have taken away from our intimacy with the planet; they have taken away from our intimacy with the plant and animal kingdom and the cycle of life. Which has led to dangerous repercussions like the decline in empathy and the incline of disconnection– which is why humanity is able to act like a virus to the rest of the planet without realizing that it is a part of that planet. Killing the planet is killing yourself. We don't realize when we shoot ourselves in the foot because we are so disconnected. We are disconnected and so we cannot understand or even conceive that we are one. And we will never be able to understand or embody oneness if we continue to propagate disconnection by justifying unnaturalness. So this is why I say 'pro-natural' because I am pro-attunement and pro-connection. But if you are connected with your body and birth control is an aid to it then I think that is smart resourcing. More than that actually, I think it is beautiful because it is nurturing. It's just that most people aren't as conscious as you are. They aren't as proactive and intentional with their decisions. And they aren't as connected with their bodies. They aren't doing what they are doing because they are connected with their body (like you), they do it because it's easier and because they are ignorant of the consequence (how it alters the entirety of their system). So they could start to think differently and not notice. They could start to have insecurity issues and not realize it's related to the birth control. They could start to have eczema and not realize it is related to the birth control. Because they are unconscious and disconnected. These are just random examples, but I'm just saying– unconscious tailoring of hormones is a slippery slope. They are so central to the functioning and dysfunction of our system. But, like I said, if you are connected to your body and have 100% awareness and intention with what you are doing I think its beautiful (like I said) to caretake yourself however that looks like for you. I've never taken the pill so I can't even speak to what the effects look like, (so you don't have to apologize for my 'bad experience' haha, I've never had one.) But I said what I said about being disconnected because I have toyed around with my hormones in other ways and noticed its effects. This is why I said if you are unaware of the pill's effects on your body (being as invasive as it is) you must be un-attuned. Because I've tailored my hormones with less-severe approaches and still noticed. haha. But hey, you are so right. And I apologize for what I said. Everyone is different and requires different levels of intensity. And we have to take responsibility and ownership of our bodies however that looks like for us!! ????

Wow, it sounds like your family is handling it very intelligently. I'm happy to hear you are proving the doctor wrong. Clearly, the healthcare industry is biased toward medication as they obviously profit from it. I'm sure most doctors are compassionate but if this one seemed rigid and closed-minded I am so happy you guys are following your intuition! That's remarkably smart. I agree that this is reversible; although it is an extreme one, I believe parallel realities are a coping/adaptive strategy from trauma. So whatever can make her feel safe enough to let go (consciously) of that strategy would be a good idea. Emotional intimacy might be the ticket! But it sounds like you guys are handling it, healing responsibly, healthily, authentically, and proactively! It's beautiful the way your family is going about it and how you are all there for each other– I don't think I would be able to say to same about my family!

@Loba Yes, it is trauma-related. When someone is put into a parallel reality it is because something happened that made them believe they weren't in a shared one. Abuse can do this. As far as group trauma therapy, I don't have must knowledge around that but I am guessing that although the trauma might have been the same, each person's response to the trauma is individual and therefore would need individual treatment. But again, I don't know how family trauma therapy works. As far as my own advice, I would say the family needs 100% authenticity. That means, when you are sad you say you are sad. When you are scared you say you are scared, and you get your needs met. Everyone can meet each other's needs. Everyone can bring their feelings out, their needs out, their fears out. And help each other through it. No internalizing. If you are feeling lonely, get held. If you are feeling needy, ask for whatever you need. No acting, no pretending, no "trying to be strong". Healing is a vulnerable process and therefore requires vulnerability. So there needs to be a safe space to be held by everyone. Compassion, closeness/togetherness, openness, allowing, and unity are what should be shared. Trauma leaves people dissociated. So I would do grounding activities (meditation, yoga, breathwork, emotional vipassana, somatic experiencing, etc.). I would calm the nervous system, counter hypervigilance. Your body went through the trauma so what does your body need? Comfort it, love it, talk to it, hold it, get someone else to hold it. Your mind went through the trauma so allow it to experience the flashbacks, allow it to drift off into space, zone out, etc. The body and mind know how to heal themselves; they just need to be allowed to do so. That means no judgment, no shoulds and shouldn'ts. Nothing but openness, allowing, compassion, love, and support. Just my opinion! I'm so sorry you are dealing with such a struggle.

@Raptorsin7 Wow!! Nice job, that's amazing. And yeah there's a difference and it's obviously better without, but I imagine the difference to be more noticeable to guys. For me, at least, it's only a few point difference. So maybe 10/10 goes to 7/10.

@Gesundheit2 She is in a parallel reality. That is excruciatingly painful because it means she is alone in that parallel reality. So you can help her by making her feel less alone. Make her feel like you guys are in a shared reality. Whether that is you joining her reality or you reminding her of the things you guys share. Put her focus on these things, hold her hand, direct her attention. The more focus she puts on your guys' shared reality the less focus she'll put on her parallel reality (what you focus on expands; what you do not focus on dissipates). But this requires around-the-clock care. So you may have to coordinate with other family members, relatives, friends. The more accompanied she feels (not alone) the less paranoid she will be. But of course, this is not going to happen overnight so you're going to have to have a massive amount of patience. Do not invalidate her reality, it will only fortify it. Invalidating her reality in any way is about the worst thing you can do. Because it doesn't suggest you guys are in a shared reality which is what she really needs. Help her direct her focus without force, judgment, or deceit. Do not gaslight her (obviously, haha). Obviously, you can't control her hallucinations. But ask her about them with curiosity, make her feel like she is safe (maybe even safe enough to explore them herself), what are these hallucinations telling her? Hold her. Join her. Make her feel like it is okay. This is what she desperately needs from you. Do not: - Gaslight her (by acting like you see something you do not see). - Invalidate her (by telling her that what she sees isn't real). - Take her into a mental institution. Do: Say things like, "It is okay to hallucinate." "It is okay to be paranoid." "I understand why you would be scared but you don't have to be." "I'm here with you." "You are not alone."

@Raptorsin7 hehehehe. What's a condom like for a guy? Like if no-condom is a 10/10 then what's sex with a condom like? Out of 10? Just curious.

@Raptorsin7 hehehe. Well if you are terrified of getting someone pregnant (which I totally get btw, I myself do not want kids) then you can take the pill; I hear there are pills for guys hehehehe.

I'm dealing with a similar issue. When you are conscious enough to see the innocence in a perpetrator, it is so painfully saddening it's almost unbearable. And when loved ones are involved with them, I mean that pain is so harsh I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I myself am struggling with how to deal with this so I don't have much advice to offer on that. But as for forgiveness, forgiveness is a natural arising; it is not something to be constructed. And it is sure as hell not something to be forced. If you have to force forgiveness it is not true and authentic forgiveness. Authentic forgiveness will come as a natural byproduct of complete and total healing. It is like a bubble at the bottom of the ocean that naturally rises to the top. It will come to you so you don't have to worry about doing it. Do not expect yourself to forgive when you (or someone you love) are still being impacted. I like what @catcat69123 says, don't abuse yourself. If you ever want to talk about the struggle we can pm I'm sorry you're living through this

@Raptorsin7 Well of course you can't guarantee it. It's a risk. And I'm never confident about it. But I cherish my body and it has cherished me back. Your body is spirit, this is why I'm super aggressive about this particular topic NO PILL !!! hehehe ??????

You can even get a diaphragm inserted if you are only worried about pregnancy and not hormonal imbalances, acne, or whatever. I mean that is wayyyy better than taking the pill imo.

Well yeah so typically right before or after a girl's period is a good time to have sex because of the shedding of dead egg cells. And when you're ovulating is about the worst time to have sex, haha. obviously But as far as the abortions I mean that's such a huge topic/conundrum. All I have to say is that you do not need artificial hormones to alter your body. There are plenty of natural ways to balance your hormones, endocrine system, etc. (TCM, organic foods, etc.)

@soos_mite_ah I understand . But solutions don't have to come in the form of an artificial pill. There are other ways to give your body hormones (like certain foods) without feeding into our unaligned healthcare system.

@Raptorsin7 None. I recommend studying your body; knowing your cycle, when you're ovulating, when you're not ovulating, etc. There are smarter ways to go about it than shoving an invasive pill down your throat, putting your body at the mercy of you, and acting like a tyrant. Sorry not sorry hehehe. <3 Super pro natural.

It is terrible for your body. It is an absolute 100% no for me. If you don't feel the side effects then you are not attuned to your body (you are dissociated from your body). This is a good book to read about it.

Ego is not a noun, it's a verb. It is not an identity, it's identifying. It's a continual doing in something that is already done. In a sea of everything, there are only two actions to take– to pull towards or push away. Are you accepting or rejecting? Identifying or disidentifying? No matter what you do, no matter if you are pushing or pulling, this is how a self is formulated. But the ultimate self is no self at all. So it is neither pushing nor pulling. It is neither fearing nor loving because it is not judging. It is allowing. It is allowing everything, allowing nothing. Allowing being, allowing not being. It is even allowing not allowing which is how you're here. Do whatever you want because it is what you are allowed to do.

I will check it out! Thank you for sharing Ricky. ?

Amazing! This was very helpful to read. Thank you for sharing ☺️?