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Truly, nothing is wrong with you. You just inherited of the default mode of confidence and esteem. A high number of people operate that way. I certainly haven't made it out that mode of being as well. However i'm conscious of it and working to get out of it. You seem very aware of that emotional dynamic that is happening in your psyche. That's already good. Don't hate yourself for being that way right now man, you can improve a ton in that area.

I find that most books only cover a fraction of the whole picture. Try reading 5-10 books that center around dating and you will only get half the picture right. But absolutely do that. You can get them on Leo' book list. Books like the selfish gene can also help, you know. Books that cover evolutionary psychology and principles and such. Listen to Leo's videos on how to get laid and also listen to the videos on survival. Dating is a surviving activity. Get involved with contemplating and understanding survival on a deeper level. Also, stay away from redpilled YT channels. Also, read this blog : https://mikemehlman.net/ Ultimately, it will be hard for you to not understand women partially unless you incorporate all these sources of information into your model and more.

Not trying to be clever sounds about right, lol. You can be clever and smooth all you want. The key words here are ''being'' vs ''trying''. The problem is the effect it produces on your psychology when you try something and see no outcome. It makes you sadder. It puts you in a loop of endless self-questioning which in the end will make you needier. Girls will flake or ghost regardless in the overwhelming majority of cases so it doesn't matter much how you text them. I'd say keep your convos short and normal but ultimately keep your convos how you want them to be not how you think the girls want you to text them.

Part of the counter-intuitive nature of dating is that when you modify your behaviour things usually don't land. If you modify your behaviour to be nice it won't work the same as when you modify it to be act tougher. Adopt an attitude of being authentic and not implementing behaviour changes.

How's the caffeine detox going ?

First of all, he did link studies. Second of all, what he says about fish and heavy metals is all heard of. Lastly, he already gave us enormous amounts of valuable information on many other topics so it’s normal that people give him authority. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take the matter seriously and fact check/do your own research.

You don’t present any valuable information and/or link research or studies you’ve found and are just mindlessly being sceptic. This post isn’t bringing any value.

It is! I will have to remove first my amalgalm to chelate too. Keep us posted if you go through the process.

Sorry you had this bad experience. Do you feel better in your body and cognitively since you removed the amalgam ?

If through spirituality you can become more connected with your emotions (and emotions in general), more present, less judgmental of others and yourself and others and detached of outcome, it will make you more confident and therefore more attractive to other human beings. You have to be very practical about this stuff though, most spirituality will not make you better at picking up girls (or boys) and dating. Dating and spirituality are two very different subfields of personal dev.

Also, you said you did around 25 rounds of chelation, any anecdotal experiences ? What positives changes have you felt ?

Hi, I am 23 and live in Canada and I think I have had one filling for 4 or 5 years now. I am really interested in doing chelation so I know that I will have to remove them. My question now is : why can't I have the amalgam removed safely by a normal dentist ? I just want more background information regarding that.

Socials is basically a rejection. You’ll become a follower and she’ll still ghost you. Understand that girls give their instagram to whoever. Unless you are high status and are running social circle game take her number regardless of wether it makes you a weirdo or not

If you cold approach a girl and she wants to give you her IG instead of her phone number in most cases you should take it as a rejection

My true desire is to be with one girl I find hot and invest in her long term. I don't think I would need a rotation of multiple girls I hook up with to be happy. Besides, what I crave is deep intimacy and passionate sex. What nuance should your game have if you are trying to make a woman your girlfriend? How should you behave around her, talk to her, treat the relationship, text her (especially, post hook up) ? Should you lay your cards out there and tell her straight that you want her for your girlfriend or should you continue pursuing your purpose, approaching other girls and let her choose you? What is the best strategy here Another example is, if I hook up with a girl I like, should I text her the day after to reassure her and reinforce the chances of seeing her longterm or does this scream neediness?

Got it. Light energy, good sex, rince and repeat. Last question, do you personally find it a good thing to the text the following day? Okay! But do you think you would be more attracted to a guy if he waited a few days ex : 2-7 days after the last time he saw you to contact you? Or does it piss you off and make you not want to see him again?

How do I do that? I honestly didn't think you would answer that, can you elaborate ? So you are saying I just do my thing and let her gravitate towards me ?

I'm curious on what @aurum & @Leo Gura have to say on the matter

Many times lol. I kind of swung my pendulum to the other side so to speak. Interesting, thank you.

@Terell Kirby @Lyubov @Jennjenn I feel like women like for men to not care and not text them often and keep some distance the first few weeks. Am I wrong ? I think that's my own neediness, insecurity, fear of being played and ghosted at play here (standard mommy issues).

Won't this repel her ?

You could probably transcend your desire for food if you went 40 days without it in the desert

In this instance, the best way to fuck this up is to not escalate. Go for the kiss and go for sex. Don't just kiss her, give her the whole experience, sleep with her. At least try to. The only reason why you should not sleep with her is if she doesn't want to. A girl inviting you to her place is pretty rare and that's as direct as it'll ever get with women. It would be really hard for you to screw this up. Just make a move, don't worry about being smooth or waiting for the perfect moment.

Digital detoxes are great. Silence, loneliness and complete non-distraction are great for your creativity, productivity and focus. YouTube can really become a distraction. Getting distracted from my life purpose by a talking head that spurs great monologues on life purpose.

Texting and apps should be used to meet face to face only. You aren't going to seduce her through text neither are you going to increase your chances of sleeping with her, meeting her, etc. Basically you can turn her off through text but you can't turn her on through text. When you try to be smooth, funny, cute or interesting through text it sets you up for neediness because a enormous percentage of women will ghost you regardless and this will leave you in a loop wondering why you weren't funny enough, smooth enough, funny enough, cute enough, etcetera. It will make you believe you aren't enough. You can be super dry through text, it doesn't matter. If she wants to see how funny, interesting and charming you are make her see you IRL.