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Train yourself to be state independent. Kinda like an entrepreneur going to work even though he doesn't feel like it. Thinking about going to the gym and being at the gym lifting weights are two different things. You wont always feel a surge of motivational chemicals when you are on the field practicing your art, building yourself or training your social skills.

Don't attach shame to watching porn lol. Just masturbate without it and don't even think about it. It's not an issue.

I have no idea what emotional mastery feels like. I know that Leo talks about the concept of emotional mastery a lot in his older videos where the topics were more grounded in the achiever stage. I have getting more and more aware of how I feel at different moments in time but if such a thing exist as ''emotional mastery'' then it would be one of my ambitions to realize that. However I just have no idea what that would entail. Does it mean (I know this will read as childish but bare with me) being always happy never sad? Being highly focused never distracted? Does it mean being able to be productive while feeling unproductive, acting a certain positive way in spite of feeling negative emotions? Or does it just mean being acutely aware of one's emotions? I'm really curious. Let me know if you have achieved emotional mastery or if you are in the process of achieving it.

I've read that book and haven't got much value from it. Maybe I just missed it ? I felt like it was just stories of children becoming less problematic. Didn't find any important informations, wisdom or even practical techniques.

Great I bought the booklist, will slowly work my way through it.

Unless you want to use NoFap as a way to make you hornier to approach hordes of women and grow your social skills it's irrelevant to do it. Cut off porn and stop edging yourself for hours but do allow yourself to masturbate and to come. Don't be mechanical about it. Enjoy it. Love it, it's your body. You should love yourself, this is a spirituality forum. Feeling bad about jerking off, calling it a ''relapse'' and wanting to be mechanical about it is deeply toxic. Maybe if you come from a background of spending hours jerking off and watching porn, masturbate on a schedule. Like once a week, touching yourself on sundays (coming for the lord), no porn etc. By the way, the testosterone doesn't increase past 7 days. So if you jerk off once every 7 days you should be fine. Also, understand that the motivation and drive is linked to the peaks and valleys of dopamine secretion, not the mere retention of your semen, like these youtube gurus would like you to think. Study and watch this video to get a deeper understanding of dopamine :

I'll take a million shots if I have to

Thank you @Thought Art Other actualizers let me know as well.

A big challenge for me is actually implementing the things I learn in self-help videos and books and being consistent with it. Also, not giving in too much on distractions and procrastinations. I could list a hundred more challenges. Self-development is a long road, it's a war in a sense.

You get exceptionally good at game the same way you get exceptionally good at anything.

I saw this pass too. Very interesting. I'm looking forward to know more about Richard Wrangham analysis of evolution. However, males studying this type of content should be aware that this can pretty much reinforce red-pill and victim type ideologies. This type of content doesn't inform an actualizer on how he should act.

Are you saying I should fap before going out ?

What is the appropriate way of pulling a girl home during nightgame ? Is there an hour during the night that is better for pulling ? By that I mean, can pulling early in the night be done or is not feasible ? Also, can I go for the pull minutes after meeting her ? How long is the right length of time ?

I don't mind spending hours with a girl, in fact I love it. I've just noticed that time spent with one girl doesn't increase the connection. Creating connection and intimacy isn't usually a problem for me, displaying safety isn't either. It's mostly lack of forwardness from my part and i've been contemplating recently how I spend too much time without making a move. So right now i'm kind of swinging my pendulum to the other side and pushing myself to not wait to make things happen.

That was exactly my question, glad you could synthesize it into something simpler

However, mine does @aurum & @Leo Gura, thanks for the information, very helpful. Made a lot of sense to me.

You are making assumptions based off a question I asked. There is no problem

Wouldn't it be a better investment of time to try to pull her in 30-60 minutes and approach other girls if she isn't dtf than waiting and building connection ? What if you spend all your night on one woman ? But if she isn't attracted to someone under 30 minutes, how can that change in let's say 3-6 hours ? Makes sense. At 2am women must be in the state most optimal to have a hook up.

Exactly. Girls need to understand this. My degree of respect will never increase for a girl that makes me wait. Girls that make me wait, i'll make them wait by stopping the interaction altogether and letting them find a new prospect. Go ahead, wait, if that's what you want to do.

I can't wait to enjoy the deep emotional connection i'll have with a girl who is withholding sex from me because she is too scared that i'll reject her if she has sex with me. Also, sex isn't a formality. It's rather the absence of sex that is a formality. If you don't want to have sex with someone, you are not attracted to them. People that are attracted to each other want to have sex with each other. Emotional connection and attraction are very different things.

You went clubbing a billion times and had zero success?

I actually get annoyed by a girl if she tries to wait too long for sex to happen. I usually won't go on more than two dates, three dates maximum. Having sex on the first date is optimal for me. Feeling physical and emotional attraction and instantly consuming it is how I prefer things to be. I'm not going to be someone's puppy and jump through hoops to have sex with her if she wants to make me wait. I feel like making men wait is how some women try to gain control of men and that can be toxic.

Bro, you are going to kill it. Don't let self-doubt run you down. Once you hit the clubs and approach these girls it's a success no matter the outcome.

try pink hair, that's how i got laid the most

Seems like you have things to work on.