Blessed81

I have been in your shoes we all have. You really are lucky to be into self help at your age, so be very thankful. I am 34 and barely started this stuff a year or two ago. You should really adopt the name "coach corey wayne" into your vocab. He is like the Leo of dating and relationships. Check out some of his videos he has thousands on youtube. And then read his book, omg it has changed my life forever. I can tell you probably smothered this girl and scared her right off. Girls need to have a chase to stay interested, if you catch yourself texting all day instead of making plans to hang out, you are doing it all wrong. They need to wonder about you, that creates attraction. Go watch some of his videos and move on to the next, possibly ask your ex if shed like to go out on a date, if not, move on. Get out there and date, trust me youre gonna have tons more ladies in your life, nothing is meant to last.

I really want to thank you for reading this long post.. I am really worried about my friend, he has experienced with opiates for over ten years, and he currently has a high tolerance and can take 150 mg per day with ease. Not only does it drag him down phsically but just as bad financially and morally. Nobody knows about this long addiction other then a couple close friends, his family thinks he is the leader of the family and would devestate them all to know of his embarrasing situation. The longest he has ever went is a month in the last 5 years without taking any. He wants to quit, he knows ithas to be harming his health he just doesnt know how bad, he has never went to injecting anything like that, would never let it get to that point because lots of his friends crossed that bridge and never came back. For many many years it was a very low dose and fridays only, as somewhat of a reward for the hard work week. Then it just kept going up and more frequent. He has been right about where he is at for the last few years, so excited for his new career in sales and is really kicking butt with it. He has lost several close people to him over the years but the worst one most recently. His father was a drunk and addict that lead to his death at an early age of 42, Family is full of alcohalics on both sides, he has been very incolved with self help the last couple years. He is so happy a out self help and his love for his job, but knows that to become all tlat he can. He is familiar with meditation but hasnt done it for nearly 3 months. He seems to have everything that peoplel would want in life. Successeful, no worries of money, all the cool cars could ever want, very very nice body and well built. Materialistic things he knows can never create fulfilling hapiness. From the outside it appears he has everything, yet on the inside he feels so empty and sad. Esp now that he lost his best friend animal of 14 years. Ive read people say to look at the past and find the issue and fix it, but that always confuses him, how do you go about finding the past issue and how do you fix it? He has done experiments for like two days on and two days off. And he feels soooo much better on the days he has off. On so many different levels, yet he somehow keeps going back for more and is very frustrated by this. He has such major potential in life, he is a great person, but he cannot kick this horrible habit. Luckily he does not have very bad withdrawl symptoms. The past few months he has limited to using about 35-40% of the time. Possible to get back to enjoying once per week or does it have to be cold turkey and never again. Any advice would be so greatly appreciated. God bless.

I wish it was that easy, unfortunately that hasnt worked :-/.

Can a moderator move this topic to the correct location, my apologies.

Thank for the reply, i should have mentioned he has access to those and they def help when he has his off days.

Great advice above, i agree i do think you are depressed but you can snap out of this in an instant. You really just need to get out in the world and feel like a normal person. Right now you want to just hide out and lay low and i have been there. It is a shitty feeling, but so so easy to get back on track. Just think how much worse you could be right now, imagine not having any arms or legs, or terminal cancer.. Then you wouldnt really have a chance at turning this right around in a few easy steps. You should just go for a hike or long walk, go socialize with strangers and make people smile. Go do something for someone else with expecting nothing in return, that will make you feel better then anything. Go to the gym, play basketball, anything. Just get out of the house. You need some fresh air, clear your head. Are there any drugs or alcohal abuse issues involved at the moment? Look at this like you have been hybernating and you are ready to get back out there and fuck the world up! A new you!!! You can do this, who gives a shit if you fail, it was meant to be if you do and alllll of us do it. It will lead you to another path which can be an amazing adventure, just enjoy the ups and the downs. Right now youre down, enjoy it. And when you bounce up you ar going to feel on top of the world. NOW GET OFF YOUR ASS AND GET OUT OF THE HOUSE.

Also, what are your beliefs on what happens after this life?

When this short life ends, we see a sign pop up and say LEVEL 2, and we end up in some totally different type of life. Or whqt is it just says GAME OVER. What would you rather? I feel like we are playing a game that we cannot win. i told my roomate tonight, if when i die i dont get to see my dead puppy, i am gonna be pissed. He says well what if you die and its just over and you didnt know any different? What are your thoughts on the "afterlife"? It seems everyone has their toatlly seperate beliefs. Somewhat mind bogeling.

@Evilwave Heddy That is awesome and exactly what i was talking about, thank you for sharing.

I am totally amazed at how much stuff Leo, and a few other people like him know SOOOO much about SOOOO much? I feel like he knows everything about everything. We all only have 24 hours in each day, and i feel like i do not know 1/10 of the stuff that he knows about and i have a really active and social life. He is so educated, and i really really do not understand at his age how he knows all of this stuff. I know some people learn faster then others but this is just unheard of, it is something that confuses the hell out of me. Is there some key to life that i haven't been given yet? I feel SO far behind when i think about this, yet i am miles ahead of most people that i know. How old is he? I am 34.

My ex gf and I spoke one night, she has bounced from job to job and thinks she needs school for everything in life. We had a chat one night and i added up how much time and money it cost her to do that. She is only 23, and i told her if you didnt go to school for all those hours and you had a job paying you just $10/hr, you could have paid off my house with cash. $300k nice new beautiful home. I will never forget her eyes when i told her that. Esp since it was all for nothing and she left that job soon after her schooling. Then she went and did all this schooling to be a vet tech, she didnt even pass all of it and swore thats what she wanted to do with her whole life and it wouldnt change for nothing when i told her yes it would. Surely enough a month later she says you were right, i want to be a cop now. Once again countless hours of time with school and home work just gone and wasted. So shes been doing all sorts of homework for being a cop and some type of science, she has not even passed the POST test yet and i dont think she even will be abe to, her math skills are sadly the worst i have ever seen by FAR. Again she is wasting time (in my opinion). I told her again that she will change her career again and again she says no i will not. Some women are so suck in their head it drives me crazy. I am a high school drop out and i have nicer material things then anyone in my, or her fam. In MY opinion school is mostly for people who really just want to learn something inside out. Otherwise, to me, it is entirely a waste of time and money. I have zero interest in home work when i can be using that time to keep finding new ways and methods for my business with cars. I have another ex gf who is still going to school this is like seriously her tenth year of college for FBI type stuff. Could you IMAGINE how much time and money she has invested in herself?!? Just think if she got in an accident and passed away today, ALLLLLLLLLL that time and money flushed down the drain. That is how i look at it. I dont feel i will live long enough and stay with a single career to make any schooling be worth it. Financially i do better then every friend of mine, most likely because i am very smart with my dough. It is all about investing in the right things at the right time. I am currently wanting to add another source of income and just have a few diff sources of funds. If i could go back to my past i would dropped out sooner then 11th. I have zero regrets with that. Sorry for the life story rant. I feel lke school is for people who are uncreative and need to plant a safe path and possibly for some bragging rights lol. Some need it, and some dont. Follow your hearts calling. Maybe do some simple math with how much it would cost you with all the fees, home work hours etc.. Your time is obviously the most important thing of all.

I went through this exactly so i know how horrible you feel. My hate for my job really brought my relationship down as well because i just wasnt happy with life all together. I finally got the balls to quit my safe and secure gov job, i left no option to return because if i had to i would rather not live. I left to pursue my love for cars, and i can tell you now that when you have to make something work, you will. If i was in your shoes, here is what i would do. First, you need to know what it is you would like to do with your work. What makes you happy? Your problem is that you keep jumping from job to job but they are all jobs that you do not want to do. You have no passion for them. So until you find out what it is you WANT to do every day of your life, this pattern will continue. My whole life has changed for the better i literally thank god every morning that i wake up now. Life is WAYYYYYYYY to short to be hating your job which is about half of what you do in life. If you have money saved up and you can figure out what it is that would make you happy every day. Leave your job right now and start going in the direction of your hapiness. If you do not have money saved and you have no idea what job would make you smile every day, then thats your first goal is to find what it is you want to do and then transition. I have had all sorts of jobs. When i was 18 i worked at AOL in the saves from cancelling dept.. That was a horrible job the things they made us do to keep people from cancelling. Yet they paid me literally about 100 an hour to do so. I hated the job so bad that i quit, all the money in the world is not worth hating your job every day. I would much rather find a way to survive on 10/hr and love my work, rather then make 100/hr and HATE it. Good luck, tke action now, life is too damn short to dilly dally.

"Worry is a down payment on a problem you may never have"- some random dude on a car forum. "Youve got to participate in your own rescue" - Coach Corey Waye.

You want to be independent but do not have a job? That is your first step, get your car back and get a job. How are you going to afford to live without him? Try not to worry about what others will think, it shouldnt concern you at all. If you did what everyone else wanted you to do in life you would be miserable and inauthentic. I bet there a a hundred videos on youtube about how to follow through, do some searching you will find exactly what you need. Good luck.

I would hand your dude a copy of "how to be a 3% man, winning the heart of the woman of your dreams". Make sure he reads it, and i bet you he could win you back if he tried. Even though you dont think so at the moment, he would have to make many changes. I say this because the book will help him TONS, with you or without you it will change his life for the better.

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I left a miserable but stable job at the IRS for 7 years to follow my passion with cars, i have ALWAYS wanted to sell and invest in cars and also fix them up. I am now doing just that, i love my life ten times better now and i make way more then i did previously and can basically work my own schedule. My only regret is that i didnt get out of my safe but miserable job sooner, i am in love with my career and i will open my own dealership after i learn enough. Driving home a different top of the line car every day is so damn fun. Corvette ZR1 i took last week and it is one of my favorites.

The stars are the topics that you have posted in. And the green and red arrows arewhat you do if you like or dislike a certain post of someones. And the +1 you have under your non existant profile pic means that one person hit the green arrow on one of your posts. I believe it is some type of street credit type of thing for the forum. Like someone that has tons of those plus sign counts is a smart mofo, or makes really good posts.

@Dhana Choko so out of curiosity, since you are well seasoned. Could you have a convo with leo about all of the stuff he talks about in his videos and know what he was talking about with everything? Basically, do you know as much as Leo?

1. What are your thoughts on Elliott Hulse? 2. Thoughts on Coach Corey Wayne? 3. How often if ever do you meet someone that knows more then you about everything you know? 4. Can you advise your opinion on the top one or two categories (from your youtube channel) you recommend people learn with self mastery? 5. Can you advise your opinion on what categories you think are less critical that people learn? This way most people can learn the most important categories first and get to the less important ones (in your opinion) later. I know each person is going to be different but i am sure you understand what i mean by this. All just generally speaking. 6. Have you thought about maybe making a paying members section of this forum where you might be able to be a bit more active with each person? 7. Are you planning on making a book anytime soon? 8. Thank you for your brilliant work and amazing effort. Your videos and now this forum are changing my life every day. I am very thankful for you and your service to the world. Keep it up buddy, i know its only a matter of time before you become so famous and busy that you wont be able to take the time to participate in the forum so much like you are now so at this time i am enjoying this to the fullest. Good luck on your amazing journey that lies ahead brother.

Thanks for posting this thread, i am in the exact same position you are and i want to wake earlier but its so damn hard. Now that i am thinking about it i really think its just like any other habit, we need to do it for like a month and then we should get used to it. I hate that i always have weird feelings about life when i wake up forced by an alarm clock. I have so many crappy thoughts about my life for the first few mins of waking (is this normal?). Aand then after 5-10 mins i feel ok and i am good to go. But those first 5 mins of waking to an alarm clock really suck ass. I want to be more productive damnit and i love my career so that helps. I have no idea how people can hit the gym so early in the morning. I tried it one time and it was the worst workout of my life. I really think it just has to come from making it a habit and things will adjust. To the OP, maybe we can have a 30 day challenge and try to keep eachother going for a month and see how we feel after? Maybe do like a 30 day test lol. Let me know. Any other ideas keep them coming in.

LOL if you are for real then it is exactly like he said with bodybuilders. I know because that is how i am, i am near the size of "The Rock" yet i still really honestly think i am kinda small. Leo do you ever meet anyone near your age that knows more about everything then you do? I would be very surprised to hear a yes from this.

At this point you need to do nothing, move on. If she really does like you she will pursue you from this point esp if your interest stops. Just act totally not into her and dont even talk to her. See what she does, if she starts texting again just say it straight up "lets set up a date for drinks". If she says no, tell her you are not interested in friendship and to please let you know if her interest changes. Then be gone! There are way to many games played with you guys, youve alredy wasted way to much time with this girl.. Do not waste any more time. Girls want what they cant have we all do. So just back off and if she is into you she WILL let you know by reaching out. You must check out "coash corey wayne" on youtube. He will help you be much better at handling and understanding situations like this. He was a real life saver for me.

As said above dinner might be a bit weird if you cannot naturally guide the convo with questions. When you ask for her number be really cool and calm about the whole thing. Basically you want to act lke youve gotten numbers all your life and that its no big deal. Do not have a text relationship, thats been horrible for me. Use the phone for making appointments to hang out, have fun, and hook up. Do NOT have an all day text a thon. You def need to watch coach corey wayne videos on youtube he will change your whole life. I reallllly recommend his book "how to be a 3% man". It will change you into a ladies manthat actually understands women and how to pick them up. Trust me man read that book.

I dont know what else to say other then you need to read his entire book and all the pieces will come together. Its to hard for me to give you little bits and pieces of it and for you to understand it just off a couple basic ideas of mine. You really dont need to say much when talking to a girl, you want to keep her talking by asking her questions. Women should be doing 80% of the talking. You want to remain mysterious so she will want to spend mor time with you so she can find out what youre all about. once you get her number, the goal is the hang out, have fun, and hook up. Repeat again and again. If you cannaot hold a conversation with someone by atleast asking them questions about themselves then you are gonna be in for a lot of work. Trust me man, read the book, watch his videos that pertain to your situation cause trust me he has ones for your specific issues.