mandyjw

You mean God does not believe in the superiority of a perfect race of people like the Nazi's did? Disease is not imagination in exclusion to anything else being real. Often when we try to focus on health we're actually thinking thoughts of fear about disease. That fear is our true motivation, not health. No duality.

@28 cm unbuffed Good luck! I know that feeling. I personally think New York City is equally magical and terrifying, which adds to the magic, but I've only visited as a tourist. Gotta stay focused on your dreams though. Don't force it, stay focused and look for signs to guide you there. There might be something even more magical on the way to getting there you'll want to experience first.

I like to sleep toward the east. Intuitively designed my bedroom that way before I considered it, but I don't think it's a very big deal. Instead of trying to follow rules tap into your intuition and what feels good and natural for you.

God is so good, there's no bullshit. It's all just fertilizer for more beauty. Nonduality, means there isn't duality. But in order to say there's no duality, we must use the word duality. What a bunch of bullshit. So nonduality and duality are one. Except that's bullshit too, because there isn't "one" without duality and the possibility of "not one". You have teachers talking about levels and you have teachers denying levels. Believing in levels is a major problem. Believing that there are NOT levels is a major problem and still in order to believe there aren't levels, you must actually believe in the concept of levels just like in order to talk about nonduality, we must assume we know what duality is first. Watch like a HAWK what's pre-assumed. Here be dragons.

I have hypothyroidism and I just take the thyroid meds. I might delve into the issue further in the future, but for now my resources are better spent elsewhere. Personally, I'd cut back on the lifting, cut back on or cut out dairy and add in a lot of veggies. Add in sardines. Cut out the whey protein and rice protein. I'm finding that it's really tricky/expensive to get clean sources of protein that are healthy long term. That's quite a lot to ask your liver and kidneys to handle long term.

@lmfao When a master is in the flow of doing what they've mastered, like a master pianist, pro tennis player, etc, are they reflecting upon how they are doing?

Why not use that as clarification to be the Dad you wish you would've had? You don't have to sacrifice or give up any of your life dreams for your kid. Don't use your life dreams as an excuse to skip out on your kid and don't use your kid as an excuse to skip out on your life dreams. Either option is fear talking and making excuses. The kid might help you clarify the shit out of your life plans though. It might seem like you're making sacrifices. You've been given a gift. You can have your cake and eat it too. Really. You cannot ruin anyone else's life without their permission. Let yourself off the hook, drop this fear and then you'll be free to act from the heart. Also likewise your ex and her influence cannot effect you without you giving it permission. Is it easier to cut someone off so we aren't affected by them? It seems that way in the short term but that's only kicking the can down the road. We'll inevitably run into the same kind of thing down the road with another partner in some other way until we learn to face the issue.

Yes, both men and women do that. A lot of men (especially younger men) have a hard time reading women's hints, especially if they are ASD or anywhere near the autism spectrum. What to a woman is bold and obvious doesn't even register to a guy who is close the spectrum. It's incredibly frustrating and most women either give up or realize they have to take a risk and be blunt. Other people just flirt constantly just to entertain themselves and generally don't mean anything by it. If they act the same way with everyone, then it's just for fun.

Find something you care about more.

If you were the child what would you choose?

@Keyhole It doesn't matter if you do or don't have a relationship, no need to make any conclusions or promises to yourself about it to try to limit what may or may not happen in the future. You're free. Perfectly free, unconditionally free. Any limit of freedom you impose on yourself in order to protect yourself comes from some wound. We try to cover up the wound but that's where the light enters in.

I'm not even bisexual and I love looking at women. I love the female form. Maybe it's from art class and doing portraiture? I don't know. It goes to reason that men especially do also? And sometimes it's actually innocent? Is that weird? For sure, if you're being cheated on and it's not dealt with then you aren't safe in a relationship. But people often get so worried about partners cheating that they actually drive their partners to cheat, because you can't honestly feel connection with someone who is suspicious of you all the time. If I tell my 4 year old to not take a cookie from the cookie jar 20 times a day should really I expect her not to, or should I expect her to take the cookie? Yeah, I think the value is in seeing that we're still stuck in survival mode as a default, when really life is actually pretty amazing and we're missing the gift and not seeing the full potential.

@Preety_India It's not emotional abuse if a guy looks at another woman. I'm just pointing out that our minds have the tendency to create drama when there isn't any, or even to attract real drama and emotional abuse when we aren't focused on working toward what we want instead. This is one of the first times in history where women have real choice, and where survival isn't a huge all consuming concern. My own parents lived in some pretty extreme survival conditions, they built a log cabin together by themselves in the middle of the woods, dug their own well and lived there the first few years of their life together. I don't think a lot of couples today really learn how to work together when they don't have to. My dog was bred to hunt birds, so he instinctually knows how to catch one without me needing to teach him how. Our minds are trained to look for problems, but now in a safe environment without bears and blizzards and poison ivy, we hyper focus and pick at our partners instead. What kind of life could we create if we saw and complimented each other's strengths and dreamed and schemed together instead?

A lot of people have learned to talk negatively in order to connect with others. You seem really understanding of why they are the way that they are. Sometimes when we see that we missed out on something or were treated in a way that was not ideal, it gives us clarity on the kind of life we want to create for ourselves and others. This evolution thing is a co-creation and it only moves forward.

Certainty in oneself is death though, and not even a peaceful death but such a struggle to maintain. If we weren't trying so hard to be a someone, would we be so bothered if other people change? Or if they don't change? What would be our reference point? I sometimes think that we forget that we put so much drama into relationships only because we have the privilege of doing so. Way back when survival was harder, you had to work together or you died. There wasn't time to bicker at your husband for looking at Mary's ass, if you didn't help him shovel a path to the barn so the cows could be milked you were a goner. We could build something really great if we weren't still looking for fires to put out all the time.

"Stargirl" young adult fiction novel by Jerry Spinelli I read it on an intuition and its about enlightenment, spirituality and not caring what other people think is the main theme. "Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead" by Tosha Silver Absolutely hilarious, entertaining but some of the stories will leave you with chills running up your spine. "What's Next After Now?: Post-Spirituality and the Creative Life" - Steven Harrison "The Nature of Consciousness: Essays on the Unity of Mind and Matter" by Rupert Spira I Am That- Nisargadatta Maharaj

The moon should really stay the same all the time don't you think, and nature should stop storming so much. I mean, why not just rain a little everyday at 9:00pm like a sprinkler system? That would be so much more convenient. Also why is the earth tilted on its axis, it should really straighten up, this seasonal changes shit is annoying. Winter, summer, winter, summer, oh make up your mind! You keep interrupting us, inconveniencing us, and delaying what we're building. Never mind that we're building it out of nature itself. Like nature, emotions are a power, they make people uncomfortable, they look like weakness sometimes, but life doesn't go on without them. The first step is to stop being uncomfortable with it yourself. You are not what changes, you are the witness of what changes. Emotions are a super power. Super powers that you don't understand are not easy. You cannot ignore them or repress them but you can be really good at reading them, and the key is to get curious about them and allow them. We cannot learn about a subject if we're too afraid of it to get near it. During times when they bubble up and seem to paralyze you like PMS, go into meditation and watch your thoughts. It's basically like a time of purification or bringing to light what we were too busy to see before. It just won't be ignored. Some really nasty thoughts might come up. Let them. Cry, release. See what the core desire is in them. Then you'll see the value in the super power of emotions. Also I really recommend this book. https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Bodies-Wisdom-Revised-Emotional/dp/0553386735

Spontaneous mystical experiences are very frequently misinterpreted too. So is all experience, even mundane everyday experience. We interpret all experience through a filter. A filter is fundamental to having any experience in the first place. What is prior to any experience?

@4201 There's a subtle difference between obsession and suffering for it and intelligent concern and respect for dangers. You'll only know the difference for yourself, by feeling into it. I think it's common for some form of OCD or hypochondria to precede going deep into spirituality. Some people are such strong thinkers and feelers that they are incompatible with the beliefs of everyone else around them. We were taught that we are a mind that lives in a body, that lives in a world and therefore, we have drawn all kinds of horrible conclusions and "if that then this" beliefs from it. It's a house build upon the sand. Our minds are absolutely rebelling against it. We have a deep intuition that will not accept the beliefs and when we go along with them feeling screams "NO, that's not right!" and the more we stick to them the more we worry, obsess and suffer. So we must start at square one and inquire and feel into what we really are. The mind really wants to be united with feeling, but if you build your house upon the sand and believe the mind, body, world hierarchy and forget the awareness and consciousness behind it all, the mind will try to dominate the entire show with its own misinformation. Depression, anxiety and many mental illnesses are a complete rejection or rebellion towards this fundamental inequality of power. But we sometimes project this intuition out and get angry at others who we think are taking our power. Or we believe that we really are flawed or move back and forth between the two reactions of anger and self hatred. Who would have thought that you should put down a foundation before building the first floor of the house? Seems so impractical, right?

AWESOME. Thanks for sharing.

What happens when you open up to them about stuff? Or ask them questions about their past? Or tell them about things you find exciting or interesting?

Awesome! I don't do stand up, but running seems to be a really good way to get in a flow state where funny connections occur to me.

@Gesundheit I always love to put a check mark next to failure on my list for the day. Then it's a success.

I love this idea, but I couldn't wrap my head around trying to determine what teachings should come first without knowing someone. From my perspective people intuit different things and are all over the place with nonduality and spirituality. I'll read a section of writing or watch a video and get a lot from it, go back later and it's entirely different. I actually filtered the writing with my own level of understanding. It's just so... well you can't grasp it.