mandyjw

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  1. M. You are accusing me of having been born — I plead not guilty!
  2. I never really appreciated what a beautiful word universe is. uni- one verse- writing arranged with a metrical rhythm, typically having a rhyme. 1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. My son keeps asking who first invented words, which we can't give a good answer to, and just now said he thinks he knows how. He said that people said the word as they did it. And I said "like talk?" and smiled. And he said "dance" and started dancing.
  3. Yep, comes along with believing enlightenment is an attainment.
  4. All suffering is projection, the motivation to stop projecting suffering is the desire for awakening. You cannot escape something that is an illusion. You can see it as an illusion and stop running and the need for escape disappears.
  5. @Nak Khid It sounds like avoiding the question because you haven't asked enough questions to know what you're asking? Who am I to love someone? Love is not an action, not something I do. I cannot love my child. I am love. I do love. It's not an action. Not a choice. You want the answer to your question, assuming you know what I am, assuming that love is a verb and something that the previously assumed I "does" and assuming that someone who does something else is an independent object unto itself, that is either worthy of or unworthy of me doing some sort of action toward. What is a thought? What is the difference between a thought of the Statue of Liberty and the experience of the Stature of Liberty? Notice, I didn't even say who's thought. What's the difference between the thought of a 4 year old child in Africa of the statue of liberty, a dog's thought of the Statue of Liberty and a New Yorker's thought of the Statue of Liberty?
  6. Suffering is a projection. In the thought of a person who tortures animals, there is no animal suffering, just you projecting your own suffering. Someone who projects their own suffering neither has compassion for victim or perpetrator. He is both. In the event that you come upon someone who is torturing an animal, action may arise to do something about it. In the event that you hit a deer with your car, stop and don't have the means to put its suffering to an end, have you tortured an animal for your choice to drive a car and your failure to stop in time? Do you guilt yourself? You are both tortured and torturer. In the event that child is raised with parents who both love and abuse him and conflates love and abuse grows up to be an adult who tortures animals, is he the tortured or the torturer? Both of course. What satisfactory solution is there to any problem carefully considered but love, when love is the only satisfaction in and of itself?
  7. "Q: I am not concerned with the totality. My personal consciousness and your personal consciousness — what is the link between the two? M: Between two dreamers what can be the link? Q: They may dream of each other. M: That is what people are doing. Everyone imagines ‘others’ and seeks a link with them. The seeker is the link, there is none other. Q: Surely there must be something in common between the many points of consciousness we are. M: Where are the many points? In your mind. You insist that your world is independent of your mind. How can it be? Your desire to know other people’s minds is due to your not knowing your own mind. First know your own mind and you will find that the question of other minds does not arise at all, for there are no other people. You are the common factor, the only link between the minds. Being is consciousness; ‘I am’ applies to all. Q: The Supreme Reality (Parabrahman) may be present in all of us. But of what use is it to us? M: You are like a man who says: ‘I need a place where to keep my things, but of what use is space to me?’ or ‘I need milk, tea, coffee or soda, but for water I have no use’. Don’t you see that the Supreme Reality is what makes everything possible? But if you ask of what use is it to you, I must answer: ‘None’. In matters of daily life the knower of the real has no advantage: he may be at a disadvantage rather: being free from greed and fear, he does not protect himself. The very idea of profit is foreign to him; he abhors accretions; his life is constant divesting oneself, sharing, giving." http://www.nirgunjohn.com/assets/pdf/I-AM-THAT.pdf
  8. We have the tendency to believe that people are paying more attention to us than they really are. Not that they are. Please see that I want nothing from you. It is in your own interest that I speak, because above all you love yourself, you want yourself secure and happy. Don’t be ashamed of it, don’t deny it. It is natural and good to love oneself. Only you should know what exactly do you love. It is not the body that you love, it is Life — perceiving, feeling, thinking, doing, loving, striving, creating. It is that Life you love, which is you, which is all. Realize it in its totality, beyond all divisions and limitations, and all your desires will merge in it, for the greater contains the smaller. Therefore find yourself, for in finding that you find all. Everybody is glad to be. But few know the fullness of it. You come to know by dwelling in your mind on ‘I am’, ‘I know’, ‘I love’ — with the will of reaching the deepest meaning of these words. Q: Can I think ‘l am God’? M: Don’t identify yourself with an idea. If you mean by God, the Unknown, then you merely say: ‘I do not know what I am’. If you know God as you know your self, you need not say it. Best is the simple feeling ‘I am’. Dwell on it patiently. Here patience is wisdom; don’t think of failure. There can be no failure in this undertaking. There are always moments when one feels empty and estranged. Such moments are most desirable for it means the soul had cast its moorings and is sailing for distant places. This is detachment — when the old is over and the new has not yet come. If you are afraid, the state may be distressing; but there is really nothing to be afraid of. Remember the instruction: whatever you come across — go beyond.
  9. Don't try to define yourself with a point on the emotional scale, you don't have a default set point. You are what's aware of emotions. It helps in the moment sometimes to see where at that time you fall on the scale so you can be more aware of how you feel and take steps to move back up the scale. Do not define yourself as insecure. Notice and be aware when you experience thoughts and feelings of insecurity. You are sheer perfect potential, awareness, life, creation itself.
  10. The crying is good, it's release of energy, purification, it's the thoughts about why we're crying and resistance to it (I shouldn't be crying, because I have an ideal of myself as having a perfect stable emotional state) that make it painful or difficult. Meditation is about letting go. Crying is about letting go. Your period is about letting go. See what's going on here? In my experience before any breakthrough in spirituality, shit hits the fan. It feels like all "progress" goes out the window, or worse. In hindsight the ideas and beliefs we had about "our progress" weren't real.
  11. Yes. Eckhart Tolle wrote about this (weirdly enough). https://thestoryweavers.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/eckhard-tolle-about-women.pdf Do not just deem it an ego flare up or something you don't want. Don't go into thought stories. Don't judge your emotions, just feel. Here's an awesome Abraham Hicks clip on this subject too.
  12. @Galyna Yes, I know that feeling, your description of being in love with no one is spot on. It's a sign of a breakthrough after lots of resistance. Abraham Hicks helped me understand my everyday thoughts/feeling vibration, it's still quite a lot to integrate, lots of back and forth between being serious with spirituality (Leo) and having fun with it and letting go of resistance (Abraham Hicks) and of course lots of teachers and teachings in between and on both sides. Just enjoy the energy while it lasts, take the lesson of letting go with friends to heart and try to not hold yourself apart from it so much again.
  13. I guess we could be open-minded that he might be neither open-minded nor closed-minded?
  14. @JessiChell The key to all relationship problems for women is this, pleasure. You're responsible for your own pleasure. Follow your dreams, do what you're passionate about. Make your life perfectly whole. Relationships are only another thing to add to something that's already fantastic. Women are responsible for the life of a relationship. Start really small, make a list of little things you love doing just for you and make a point to do three a day. Can be as seemingly pointless as funny youtube clips, painting your nails, looking at a family heirloom you love but haven't taken out in forever, etc. You'll find quickly that these seemingly meaningless things you do "just for you" evolve into much bigger breakthroughs, ideas and inspirations for life as a whole. When you're absolutely buried in emotions and thoughts about other people, my go-to is to go for a run. Instead of trying to block out the thoughts, I just let the thoughts go, let the punches go and come back to my surroundings and where I am once they run out of fuel behind them. It's usually seen that there really isn't much to the thoughts, that i didn't really believe them anyway but wanted to let them out. It helps a lot for both sleeping and moving emotional "energy" or whatever you want to call it. Good luck!
  15. Spirituality is a careful back and forth of letting your emotions run amok (amok amok amok) and letting go... which is ultimately the same thing. Don't let thought, belief and ideals co-opt letting go and don't demonize emotions. Also don't let your mind co-opt emotions and get you stuck in believing them or making certain emotions goals or ideals. There's going to be a back and forth until there isn't. The first step is allowing this, seeing it, without identifying with the thing that's going back and forth. Don't settle for dis-identification either because dis-identification is still identification with something. In perfect inseparable Oneness, none of that quite "cuts" it.
  16. There must be something to witness for there to be a witness. What you think of you is a reflection with no substance. Other things give you your reality, you depend on them for your existence. Psychologically, you must have existence based on the existence of other people, otherwise you have nothing to compare yourself to or hold yourself up to like a mirror. No one has consciousness.
  17. I didn't have many either. Even if you have it which you probably don't, it's not a big deal at all. Just take the cheap medicine generic they prescribe every morning with a glass of water, wait 30 minutes to eat. Blood test every year. That's all, if you're diagnosed with it. It's really common.
  18. If it doesn't stop soon go get a blood test. This is the complaint I made to my doctor that got my hypothyroidism diagnosed.
  19. What is the present moment? Can you pinpoint it? What is future, in your experience right now? It's not something to think about. The construct of time exists only as a thought. You go grocery shopping because you plan for the future. Planning only happens now. Action only happens now. The mind concerns itself with thoughts like "I hate grocery shopping", "I don't have time to get everything", "this line is so long". It's not planning, not acting, not present.
  20. Everyone loves you. Some just aren't conscious of it. Doesn't matter though, cause you are love itself.
  21. This book is simply written, but really law of attraction based and aimed at women who are stuck in over work, martyrdom. It helps me rethink my attitude towards not being able to receive a gift. You can't be defensive, fearful, and receive at the same time. (Nonduality) It gets at a feeling of unworthiness. https://www.amazon.com/Things-Will-Get-Good-Stand-ebook/dp/B000FC1EOY/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=as+good+as+you+can+stand+it&qid=1590603708&sr=8-2 My husband and I had a really good conversation after I said some things I didn't mean. I have a really hard time opening up with him because I am defensive, fearful and acting like a martyr. I actually made him a video so I could help explain the bigger picture without fear or temptation of getting reactive and letting his responses send me off into a reactive direction. Obviously this is not ideal for all the time, but I think it's a good tool. Writing letters or notes works the same way.