mandyjw

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  1. I agree with @Michael569 that a balanced diet is a better approach for many reasons. However, drinking tea, green tea, etc will inhibit your absorption of iron, which is usually thought of as a bad thing, but could be either I guess. You could also donate blood.
  2. @Someone here All intelligence is your intelligence, intelligence isn't owned by anyone so it's not two. Ironically someone can't teach you a thing unless you feel and resonate that it's also your intelligence. All learning is a dissolution of teacher and student, like ice melting into water.
  3. I guess all that matters is the realization that you're doing it. And doing it. and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it and doing it. And if you feel bad for doing it, you're doing it and doing it and doing it... Yup.
  4. I like sharing thoughts here publicly, which is a little weird perhaps but it feels like you're letting stuff go when you throw it out there for other people to read. I suppose I could write some notes and burn them, but I mean, that IS sort of a fire hazard. I'm really good at writing myself into a better feeling, less personal perspective about things. Writing is a powerful way to focus and my "inner voice" almost never takes anything seriously.
  5. OH SHIT. "For him "the installation of the super-ego can be described as a successful instance of identification with the parental agency," while as development proceeds "the super-ego also takes on the influence of those who have stepped into the place of parents — educators, teachers, people chosen as ideal models"." "The super-ego aims for perfection.[27] It forms the organized part of the personality structure, mainly but not entirely unconscious, that includes the individual's ego ideals, spiritual goals, and the psychic agency (commonly called "conscience") that criticizes and prohibits their drives, fantasies, feelings, and actions. "The Super-ego can be thought of as a type of conscience that punishes misbehavior with feelings of guilt. For example, for having extra-marital affairs."[33] Taken in this sense, the super-ego is the precedent for the conceptualization of the inner critic as it appears in contemporary therapies such as IFS.[34] The super-ego works in contradiction to the id. The super-ego strives to act in a socially appropriate manner, whereas the id just wants instant self-gratification. The super-ego controls our sense of right and wrong and guilt.[35] It helps us fit into society by getting us to act in socially acceptable ways.[24] The super-ego's demands often oppose the id's, so the ego sometimes has a hard time in reconciling the two.[27] Freud's theory implies that the super-ego is a symbolic internalisation of the father figure and cultural regulations." "The terms "id", "ego", and "super-ego" are not Freud's own. They are latinisations by his translator James Strachey. Freud himself wrote of "das Es",[48] "das Ich",[20] and "das Über-Ich"[30]—respectively, "the It", "the I", and "the Over-I" (or "I above"); thus to the German reader, Freud's original terms are more or less self-explanatory." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Id,_ego_and_super-ego
  6. He LOVES it. Cause he don't exist. Just some crazy clown to the rest of us.
  7. @dflores321 What do you want to do right now, what's the next logical step? Search for or apply for something else? Maybe the feelings of incompetency and being a fraud of deceptive, could be examined here and now or they might just be thought patterns that follow along wherever you go? Turn "I DON'T want it because" into what you DO want, where you DO want to go, how you DO want to feel. Then you get some ideas, inspiration and momentum. And it doesn't matter if any actual movement happens because the alignment with your own thoughts happens FIRST. Meditation then meditation studio.
  8. @dflores321 I'm not saying that there's anything at all wrong with your desire to work for a better company or for yourself and to do good. My point is, banks aren't 100% evil. The strange thing about life is that usually you have to find a way to truly appreciate something before it'll let you go. All this, THIS, it's all you, it's FOR you. Don't cut yourself off the the good that's available right now, anywhere. That's what meditation seeks to teach and embody and you can do it in a bank.
  9. @Nahm I thought it was the mandAla effect @Shin I also wrote the Berenstein Bears books, not to be confused with the Berenstain Bears books, not sure WTF those were.
  10. @dflores321 Usually when people start meditation studios, or yoga studios, or art galleries, or buy their first home, or do anything to make their dreams a reality, they get loans from big banks.
  11. I love this. Just connect with her as you are, with humor and love, I think that's the perfect approach. Encouraging her to truly connect with her own heart and intuition is a teaching beyond words.
  12. You have to stop seeing the two things at odds, and then you can more easily move more into the thing you really want to do. If you see them at odds you'll actually stagnate with both. Start to open your eyes to how one seamlessly fuels the other and appreciate it for its not separate assistance toward your true passion. You're telling me you don't get insights at work? Or motivation for spirituality? Appreciate the contrast itself.
  13. An awakening experience is causeless, so no matter what cause you attribute it to, it's an experience that is actually an experience of lack. Lack of believed thoughts that something is wrong, lack of thoughts that SAY something is lacking, someone is lacking, that you already know what's going on. So we say it's an experience of love or wonder or however we describe it. It should be seen as an experience that raises your standards, now you KNOW/FEEL what is possible when we drop the thoughts that say otherwise. The way is to sink into feeling, dropping thoughts. It's a very old "trick" to attribute that happiness/lack of anything wrong TO a person, place, substance or particular experience in the past. This is what you've been doing your entire life, Santa Claus brought me what I asked for and I was happy for a few hours. Santa Claus doesn't exist, the toy didn't make you happy, but those circumstances and beliefs allowed you to experience a window of time where no thoughts arose that fueled an underlying feeling that something was missing. 11 year old you thought, "Having a nerf gun would be great, I wish I had a new nerf gun, there's nothing good on TV right now, my brother ate all the oreos, that asshole!" Nothing has changed since. Everything has changed. It's Christmas everyday. Merry Christmas! Happy Birthday! Raise your standards for how you feel! Don't mistake the thought "I should feel better" for feeling itself. That thought is just as useless as a thought equating happiness with oreos or the nerf gun. Also note "feel better" has a double meaning. It means you're more aware, you heighten your senses, see with more clarity, AND AND AND you FEEL love. Maaagic.
  14. @Meditationdude What's the difference between love and desire? What's the relationship between love and desire?
  15. OMG, I want this on a t-shirt! It's like the perfect mix of "shit happens" and "life is good". There, you got your integration.
  16. Only on the surface. I have a kid with mild autism, he's really loving, kind, affectionate and has a sense of humor but if you say "I love you" he won't think he should say it back. I've always loved people with autism cause you get this bold honesty, and carefree attitude of what other people think, but they do certainly have the capacity to love just as much as anyone else. It destroys your ideas of what love should look like on the surface.
  17. Why are there roller coasters, casinos, horror movies, any movies or stories at all, drugs? Why is the deepest pleasure chasing also its opposite? Cause it's chasing what you already are. But if you think that knowledge is IT, you're still riding those ups and downs cause you can't hold the thought in your mind all the time, so you'll be constantly forgetting and remembering it. It's too good to be true!
  18. I don't think you have to do anything to integrate anything, just follow your heart in the moment. I live in a really remote area, and when I visited a major city as a an adult it completely blew my mind. I was in such a state of awe, just taking it all in. When I came home to my familiar little town, the same awe and taking it all in was there and it was such a strange incredible experience, to realize that there was no novel, no familiar, no natural, no marvels of engineering, but I WAS the awe. Celebrities so often seem to experience the same isolation that cave meditators would, it just looks different to us. I think going to the depth of the desire and realizing yourself beyond circumstances is the deeper desire. How it plays out in life is secondary, illusory.
  19. Focusing on things that make you feel good is not ego backlash. The desire behind the junk food, etc, is to feel better. When you focus on the direct "goal" of feeling better, and allow yourself to feel better rather than demonizing all the things you go to to feel better you naturally make better feeling choices. Make a list of self care stuff, dark chocolate, fruit, an occasional unhealthy treat, watching a favorite movie, playing a favorite game. Make it intentional, and actually ALLOW yourself to relax and rewind. Your desire is to release resistance, meditation IS supposed to be one of these self care things, a time allotted to breathe deeply, let go and release resistance. Your goal is not to be one who meditates well, it's just to release resistance. Once you see this you'll have more awareness over what resistance is and you'll naturally make better choices, without the judgement.
  20. I do look good in black, but you might have me confused with Anna. I offered to mod but guess I'm a few crayons short of a box. Shouldn't have used that particular shade of green to color on the walls with I guess.