blackchair

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    On 7/26/2023 at 4:51 PM, Arthogaan said:

    It basically is the problem of Self-Worth.

    You are making your Self-Worth dependent on external phenomena such as what people close to you will do to you or say about you.

    If you learn total Self-Love and you will see what a divine being you are you will be invincible.

    Your girlfriend cheating on you, your parents calling you a shame, NONE OF IT CHANGES HOW PERFECT AND DIVINE YOU ARE. 

    And the more you meditate, transcend and realize who you really are, the more you develop yourself, the more obvious it will become to you.

    spiritual bypassing 

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    @Princess Arabia lol, you are arguing with sexist mod here who has been chosen by Leo himself based on his "awake" status,  and this forum isn't a for girls definitely ? on ALL other topics everyone here is awake but here the real shit hits the fan......but then again there is only 50 forum members at most......i shouldn't be bother so much....gonna watch some Netflix now!  one user post on spiritually about God 24/7 and here he's talking about cheating his first gf lol. 

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    19 hours ago, OBEler said:

    Cause of logic? your logic is weak. Today humans can do so much more things than all the humans who lived in those 250.000 years. Or do you think a human before ronny coleman existed who could  do death Lifts with 800 pounds? You need massive steroids and nutrition knowledge. Only in this century these things are there 

    nije moja logika kriva nego mi je ovo drugi jezik, da si na mom jeziku išao bih u detalje i nijanse, sad ćeš ovo ubaciti u Google translate I dobiti govno od odgovora.

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    9 hours ago, mike41 said:

    I hate to break it to you, but your girlfriend is in stage red. This is coming from a guy who's wife is in stage red.

    > For instance, we have a conflict and I say "Ok, I realize I did this and that etc and I am sorry" while she just goes into accusations towards me and refuses to take responsibility for her actions.

    Conflict is personal.. yup.

    > or us right now it looks like a constant strech-relax cycle. Things seem fine for a while but I realize more and more that they are not. Every month or so there is a situation where conflict happens and the tensions discharge. Then I see what things she has been holding back in the phase before.  But the core issues are not sufficiently resolved. And the cycle begins again...

    Classic red relationship cycle.  You push real hard on point X, she concedes, she minds her P's and Q's for a month and then goes right back to where she was when you've forgotten about it.  She hasn't budged an inch but now you are a month later in the exact same spot.  She wins.

    > In this moment, her whole mood changed.  All the easiness, calmness and balance from the retreat went away in one instant. There was an energy as if you blow air into the embers of a fire. She looked at me with fiery eyes, her tone became sharp and she said "But if there is something that makes me feel bad, I will not tolerate it!

    You poked her world view, the red came back out.  Alternatively she may have absorbed the retreat in stage Blue fashion (quite literally) and retreated to stage Red when provoked.

    > "She also experience things that challenges her beliefs as personal attacks"

    Yep... red

    > She is also very provocative. Testing the limit of how far she can go. Quite cute when it's playful, but she very often crosses the line and goes beyond what she knows is considered as respectful by me. What you make of that? What is your advice how to handle it?

    This is classic red.

    > Father seemed to be a narcissist, or at least some narcissistic tendencies. Very impulsive behavior so that the kids had to watch out every moment to not do anything wrong

    Dad was clear stage red.

    You have multiple things working against you seeing this situation for what it is -

    Projection - you want to believe that others are more aware than they are because it fits your world view

    Deception - Red is level where manipulation and blending in and subtly getting your way are the highest skills possible.  Your gf is an expert at repeating back to you what you want to hear.  And you are quite willing to believe it.

    Unfamiliarity - If you grew up in a family that was Blue or better you may not have been exposed to adult Red personalities.  Tough to see if you've never seen it but once you start connecting the dots it's easy to spot.

    Denial - You really want your gf to be more aware than she is because you like her.  

    If you disagree that she is stage red, consider this - has she really demonstrated qualities of blue, orange or green beyond the trivial?  Are there rules and principles she lives her life by?  Is she thinking hard about how to make life better?  Are there causes she puts time and effort into?

    I'm SO glad I'm single.

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    On 7/8/2023 at 0:09 PM, Breakingthewall said:

    I did twice, but I wouldn't say that's insanity. It is strange, unpleasant, intimidating, but sane in the sense that it is what it is. if reality crumbles into cubes, while the scream of a demon is heard in the background, that is reality. for me insanity is the need to imagine that you are persecuted by the cia, or that you are the chosen one, or any other story, because you cannot bear reality.

    but what IF cia is protecting me? am I'm still batshit crazy? or maybe it can be both?