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It really depends on what you text them. If she's eager to talk to you then just tell her she still owes you a response in a lighhearted way, but don't act like nothing happened.

Your view of society can change depending on what information you consume. I live in the Western world and it's not being demonised as far as I've observed. It just takes a good leader...becoming one is the difficult part.

Your best shot is to find someone who's open minded and teach her how to enjoy the dream, don't force it.

Yeah, I didn't mean the jerks. Edgy would probably be a better word than bad. The good guys will listen to you talking about emotions, but in an emergency situation, they'll panic or run...there's no love in that.

A man has to start somewhere though. You love the bad boys, you just don't view them as bad because they make you feel safe...

How do you think it ruined your life? Anything specific? Maybe poor choice in hobbies?

I'd even say that being anything other than a "bad boy" isn't very high conscious.

Maybe be open minded about how far you're taking your open mindedness. It leaves you with poor reasoning like being convinced one girl isn't enough for you because you have a ton of porn on your phone. You need to explain how you came to this conclusion. Also, why so worried about getting judged?

@FourCrossedWands Is reality really as consistent as it seems? Have you ever seen someone's face the exact same way twice? Same facial expression, same light, same shades, same color, same angle, same perspective?

Of course I can. Through you. You looking at the code right now is me looking at it.

The hardest part for me was becoming conscious of my own BS.

It could definitely make you feel a little more safe. Just owning a gun won't protect you much though. So, unless you're willing to put in time and energy into shooting, cleaning and maintaining your gun there's no point. It would be better for you to address your anxiety of losing your life. Your mind is fabricating very unpleasant stories around that.

The main difference to other countries is in the US the assumption is that every citizen has the right to own a gun, wheras in other countries you need to earn the right to own one. If you do some research you guys are doing better than we do in the mental health department.

Sounds more like she was trying to get into his pants initially...

Listen to your gut when being around people. The way you feel after spending time with them should tell you enough about wether you should keep them around or not. Tell yourself it's fine even if you were to fall for another trap here. Ultimately it comes down to learning not to give your power away to others. Which will go a long way when trying to look for quality friends.

Have you tried therapy?

Logic is only getting you so far here. You need to get out of your head.

Good attempt. What if I'm not?

@StarStruck The less you care about some other dude's principles the more success you'll have. But the reason you don't care can't be because you want more success. It's simply because you're going to come up with your own set of values, like @NoSelfSelf said.

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@Aquarius Excellent. And how many concerns on that list still remain?

@PurpleTree Because women are good at hiding the fact that they're interested in sex and you might buy into their frame.

@StarStruck I wouldn't meet her at a club then. Better go somewhere where you can hear each other talking.

Well, you gotta start somewhere... Have you been out with her before?

@lizz_luna It's important not to fully rely on your friends, but you shouldn't feel like they're unreliable overall. Me and my two closest friends aren't always on the same wavelength, but I know they have my back without my asking. They also know me better than my family does, it really depends on your situation and your values. If I were you I'd take a few steps back and see how much investment is done by them. You should definitely get the sense that your relationship with them is secure without constantly stressing about not losing them.