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@Leo Gura Yeah location is important, I usually game in and around the largest and busiest rail and bus station in the country. Especially during rush hour, I can't really complain about abundance issues. But it is a relatively small area so when I feel weird for walking there too much I take a stroll in the relatively calm and charming city center and parks and head back into "the Zone" when I feel ready. Also beforehand I like to walk off my anxiety in that manner.

Don't torture your self. You already do that enough with your negative thinking. Instead of no fap do no cumming before a night out. Means you masturbate but just don't cum.

@Leo Gura This question might be a little bit off-topic, but I heard that you really enjoy the days you have for yourself more than going to clubs. Generally, clubs and going out at night are a huge drain on energy and productivity and the girls there are generally of lesser quality. So my question is why not just day game? It's way less energy intensive and once you've passed the brutal learning curve and you're actually good at it, it's really a shockingly reliable way of getting dates, and all it takes is an hour or two of strolling through the busy part of town a couple of times a week.

@Leo Gura For me pick-up is mainly self-development: dealing with rejections, little heartbreaks ( I am now very aware of how the 5 stages of grief express themselves), being more authentic and masculine but also being more loving towards myself and her. Though yeah manipulations of different sorts are involved in "game". Game is so deliciously hard because of the stark difference in investment before sex. I used to put a lot of value on having a "click" with a girl, and I still do but now I also realize that if you're attractive to one hot girl you're also attractive to all hot girls. (A good substantial chunk that is, as all girls are impossible ofcourse).

It's not about those terms being derogative, they really aren't. The very fact that you're using those terms and think they are negatives shows me that you don't understand a very fundamental aspect of feminine attraction. Don't underestimate how secure and confident Lesser-looking short guys can be. I knew a guy who was near-freakishly short, yet he always had the hottest girlfriends because he had masculine boss energy. I also knew a guy who was tall but his face was egregious and ogre-like. Yet his girlfriend was a stunning little angel. He had a kind of bully-bad boy energy, together they had a beauty and the beast dynamic going on. Girls love the "beast" aspect of men. The very fact that you had a date with a stunner is a sign that you are attractive and have a lot of potential. Yet your insecurities don't make you see this. Your brain is creating negative feedback loops instead of positive ones. When I go home after a relatively uneventful and even "shitty" night out and think back, I think only of the 1 or 2 snippets that were positive and my brain uses that to reinforce my confidence. For me thinking back and reminiscing is more satisfying than the night out itself.

@ChadT Definitely no 5-meo-dmt in smart shops anytime soon

Agree, just a lack of common decency.

I have cheap but decent earplugs that amplify nearby sounds but dampen the more distant music. "Lesser looking" "short guys", don't think in those terms. Women are attracted to ENERGY. Authenticity and masculinity are the keys. Authentic masculinity is fucking beautiful. Try going out with a microdose of LSD and a full sack.

Wasn't she an important symbol? and humans are just sentimental creatures. It's important for a "state" to have both it's dry practical aspects as well as a sentimental one.

Most girls speak very softly even on regular dates. So training your hearing and focus is an important part of game. As with many skills within game, the benefits of developing this skill will also translate into your day-to-day life, which is pretty cool.

Cool man, relatable in many aspects. I would say there is both a romantic and cold calculated/impersonal aspect to approaching. It's important to balance those two. for example: don't get stuck on one girl or even a few girls (before a real relationship) but also constant and excessive approaching is no use. When your vibe is off just go home and return another day.

If you want an abundance of girls that are cute, feminine and stylish I think Paris is the place to be. Paris is pick-up heaven, no better place in my opinion. French girls are very cute as well as all the foreign ones there. Eastern Europe seems like a good option because of the cheap prices and abundance of some very feminine girls. Serbians, Hungarians and Baltics are a pretty bunch. Normally I would also mention Russia and Ukraine... but yeah... Though make sure you have your game down before moving to such a place otherwise, you'll be in for a rude awakening when even supposedly "easy" girls flake on you one after the other, and then you'll have to return home without having had the experience you hoped for. From my experience, nationalities such as Spanish and Brazilians love being approached the most. They really appreciate that polarity. They will for example play with their hair and are easy to strike up a conversation with. In contrast, I noticed that more masculine Germanic girls can have more often shitty reactions such as being skeptical, unimpressed, and even outright bored.

What is a principle worth? For me, it's more about principle than compassion, a social and civilizational principle for a government to not kill one's captured people. "Sanctity of life". Executions should be only applied in extremely exceptional and even historic cases. Like with nazi war criminals or Bin Laden (if he was captured alive). By your logic, we should just massacre all of the stage red people.

The potential for abuse and mistakes is too big though. Government should not execute people out of the principle that life has value. This is what differentiates us from places like Russia and North Korea.

It will make you masculine and sexual. This technique makes no-fap redundant. Enjoy yourself royally, just on occasion do this no cumming technique. One no-cumming equals 10 days of no fap. Obviously, it's more complex than that because body hormones and states can swing quite a bit (and don't overdo one or the other) but that's the general gist. This exercise will also be made redundant. Let your mind focus on positive things(; On dates, you want to avoid any foods that might overfill you or your girl. After dinner meeting, actually seems like a very good idea.

But that's first dates, right? I mean you can meet up for coffee and even dinner only so many times before it gets stale. This is how it is for me: The first date is for sitting, talking, a little walking and just generally getting to know the person. My second dates are basically the same but to avoid staleness and "demystification by oversharing" I bring along a game of Jenga. It's really fun to play especially with a drink, and the loser has to pay. It's simple but can get real intense(: The third date is even more activity-focused, I like going to museums because I have a free pass, I genuinely enjoy them and I want a girl of mine to also have this appreciation. After the museum, some food and drinks but lunch prices are much more bearable. If by then she doesn't feel comfortable enough to go to my place, it's most likely a flake. Also keeping food in my kitchen won't work per se because I do live a short train ride away from the city. Defaulting trains have cockblocked me more than once, but it is what it is. I am generally very satisfied with the location where I live.

I just live in an expensive place, especially with all the inflation that is going on now. A normal 2-person dinner with wine will set you back 45 euros at the very least. For that reason, I usually do only starters on second dates and go to multiple places so she will also pay. All and all I try not to make money into an issue. If I am comfortable spending she should be also. If you want to get more in touch with your ballsy, dominant and overall more masculine side. Before a date or going a night out, try masturbating a little without cumming. This will require control and awareness but for me at least it's not that hard to do. Just use pics instead of vids.

@Leo Gura What do you do if you have a date planned in the evening and nobody ate yet?

If you have a date planned in the evening, like at 6 for example when nobody ate yet. Isn't it kind of inevitable to have a "costly" diner date? For me, just spending the evening with a beautiful/elegant/feminine woman is something I value. I happily pay for the first date. If she lets me pay without a courteous protest as in "let me pay" or "we'll split", that's a good sign the date is going well. Even when she will flake the emotional cost will make the financial cost seem negligible. Also, I wish that I had so many dates that it would be a real financial issue(;

Can you have a mix? I always do proper dates. Just showing that I am an interesting and "normal" easy-to-be-around kind of guy. But at the same time, I always take action to escalate and she must understand that I am sexual. Then it's up to her to decide whether to get along to my place or maybe when the romance wasn't sufficient to (hopefully) have another date. I am not a player but I always try to keep the tension that at any date she might not resist me(;

@mr_engineer Do not be so intimidated, it's not a full-time job. It's mostly when you start out it's the most grueling. Eventually, you just have to find your way of doing this in a time and energy-efficient way. forget about the 1000 approaches. After a little time of approaching you'll be swallowed into the belly of the beast. Then you'll have to decide whether to commit or opt out. once you commit, you commit, then there is no way out for you anymore. Welcome to real self-development. It's true, most people don't have the vision, mentality or heart to commit. Are you "most people"?

@mr_engineer You sound very inexperienced and therefore ignorant of the issue at hand. Sperm-wars? incel-shootings? remove these words from your vocabulary and commit to getting better with girls so you can find yourself one nice girlfriend. It won't be easy but definitely worth it for the self-development you'll achieve. The sex itself is not what it is about. I hope you will be able to read your post one day and cringe at it.

I get what you're saying but it's not totally true. It definitely does not have to be this way. There are more "pure" and spiritual components at play as well. But yes, the better you get with girls the better you can capitalize on these aspects.

I know what you mean: just loving a girl will get you nowhere. Though girls are most definitely highly attracted to authentic expressions of (romantic) love. Such as passionate kissing, love in tone of voice, masculine protectiveness, ownership and being in tune with her emotions and "agenda" and also/especially vulnerability! @Leo Gura When you say "survival value" you make it sound like every guy needs to be the stereotypical Chad douchebag or some kind of successful millionaire. Which will result in newbies acting in all kinds of creepy and even sociopathic ways. If a guy wants to get good with girls. He either needs to get in touch with his authentic masculinity and/or with their femininity when a guy is overly masculine (though this is rarer). There are no shortcuts, strong men are made not born. But...! A cheat code I use before dates and before nights going out is to masturbate but not to cum. This will put me easier in touch with my powerful masculinity and sexual charisma, and my femininity is also still with me. I've done it so often that I actually can watch soft porn in a pretty disciplined manner, never feel painful blueballs and I also don't cum immediately when having sex. (after a while your balls seem to forget they were on the brink of cumming.) So for the more feminine guys, I highly recommend trying this technique and noticing the difference in how you feel and act and how girls react to you.

When I came across that dude I thought that he was a genuine, conscious, and wise dude. But I guess when you take up on the role of "shaman" things will get to your head. Really being a shaman is an enormous responsibility, and when you're shamen for damaged drug addicts this increases the risk and responsibility a hundredfold. Shamans should do background checks and reject unstable and immature people but of course that is not his mission. If you're unstable or immature you're better of doing more frequent but "gentle" therapy sessions with small to moderate doses of lsd/shrooms/dmt rather than a full dose of 5meo. Also, I followed that guy on Facebook and saw a post of his praising Qadaffi. Pretty weird and fucked up.