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Well said. Females are conditioned to put tremendous stock in presentability and looking their best. They know this brings appreciation and rewards. Once trained this is automatic and is near impossible to untrain even when she gets to 80yo and stays indoors all day. It's what she has always done, it is what her friends and family expect, it is who she is. Males by contrast are honest that they look good for the purpose of engaging females (and for climbing the corporate ladder if required). (If you meet a man during the day wearing a suit and tie, someone probably you is being billed by the minute for that suit and tie - heads up. He isn't wearing it out of choice.) Females do it for the appreciation and rewards mentioned but it is not in a female's interest to deconstruct this state of affairs. Just repeat, I look good in order to feel good. That's all it is, nothing more.

Consciousness is the dream, the duality, dis doing dat. Love can't exist in such an illusive state. Love is to know the oneness you are, not the twoness you desire to be to make you complete and happy ever after in a dream. Love is the absolute state; it is unlimited. unconditional, undivided, eternal and ever expanding unstoppably in joyful creative enterprise.

Self is the shell i plonked into the middle of the universe to imagine I am separate from all the other various sized shells around me. It is an amazing sleight of hand, a cunning hallucination to deceive the best of us. I am separate from nothing but I conjured up oodles of space to be between me and everything! Worst of all I forgot how to undo it all. Let's save that chat for another day. At least I have an idea what self is.

You have to suck it up. They are doing what they have worked a lifetime to be entitled to. You have no standing. I was caregiver to my parents their end of life. They died in the past month, 25 days apart. They could have had better lives but they died how they lived, with full abandon and with their own signature. It couldn't have played differently. They haven't regrets and I haven't regrets. I am mourning them and moving on from them. I am grateful but not defined by their choices.

Everyone's a liberal until their first pay check and first child. After that it's god, guns and GOP. Something to ponder.

These are good insights. Let me try to tease out how I see the relationship between consciousness and the absolute in more detail. I also intuit that consciousness is receptive in that it perceives and manifests facets of what is already there. Also consider this: consciousness functions as the lens through which the infinite is translated into finite form. Yes It does not create in the absolute sense, but it does shape how the absolute appears within the framework of perception. In this sense, consciousness is the mechanism by which the absolute - formless and whole - is sliced and diced into the world of distinctions, dualities, and phenomena. Regarding the absolute blackness that you mention: in the total dissolution, there is indeed everything, but not in any defined form. It is whole, unified, and outside perception. Consciousness, like you say, does not create this “everything,” but it certainly “lights it up” and gives it definable aspects that let it be experienced as separate entities or phenomena. Yet this act of defining makes it illusory because the fragmented pieces it perceives are not the whole truth - they are finite representations of an infinite reality. In this sense, consciousness might be regarded as a tool of limitation, a way for what is infinite to appear finite, making the absolute seem "graspable" to the limited perceiver. And because of this, it is deeply tied to the ego’s function: to define, separate, and make distinctions. The ego, working through consciousness, renders the undivided whole into parts, allowing the absolute to appear as a world of experience. So, while consciousness is not creative in the sense of inventing something new, it is “constructive” in how it filters and shapes the absolute into the appearance of form. And it is this filtering that keeps us from fully knowing ourselves as the whole. Only by going beyond consciousness - the ego’s tool - can we glimpse the totality and rest in the absolute truth of what we are.

Problems are things I refuse to deal with due to laziness, apathy or blame. Laziness says it's not possible right now. Apathy says it's not that big of a deal. Blame says its not my problem. All worthless copes. Any problem has a resolution at the beginning of each day. I must take a step in the right direction.

They come in peace and use violence as a last resort to protect and defend. This is simply having rock-solid boundaries. They are against violence in all forms. And are committed to its eradication. To stop violence will sometimes need violence since that is all the violent respect.

To use violence to quell violence makes you the expander of violence In this way you are the perpetuation of evil and all that is wrong with the world People are violent out of their pain and you are deepening it in others and yourself

I am not expecting you to be a door mat or a punch bag. You come in power not resignation. You have to see projects not problems. You are the light of the world and everyone is your brother. If you don't engage them they are doomed and forsaken. Only by loving the least, do you love yourself most. To exclude is to self harm. Every person looked upon as beyond hope is you consigning yourself to a colony of despair. There is another way of seeing this.

The best life is self-realization but who even wants it? To self-realize, you realize the universe is your own projection and every person you meet is a problem you created in the past and now need to resolve. Everyone here is suffering because of you but it is cool because you are the divine healer reporting for service.

I am all that is, am timeless and spaceless and perfect oneness and am all powerful and eternal and infinite. I stripped myself down to a human body and beamed myself onto a 3-d screen called existence or the universe if you please and placed a bunch of other parts there that are also different versions of me in order to delight in my own creativity while interacting with all my various selves. I also made myself forget what I am but I ensured there are clues so at some point I will remember at which point existence will end and reality will be as it always was, is and ever will be.

A mentality of vengeance, vindictiveness and vigilantism is what sows distrust and brands a large portion of the world as enemy. It takes two to tango. If I slap you, you had to be getting in my way for my hand to be able to lash out. You were an impediment to my just needs. Why do you put yourself in harm's way. Don't tempt the devil towards indulging its wayward nature. You are responsible for everything that happens to you. You job is always to defuse not to escalate. You making trouble is deepening your karma and your suffering. You have to rise above.

Look not to be loved but to be love, for love is not something you can find outside yourself; it is the source and substance of what you are. When you embody love, you won't yearn for it any longer, as its radiance naturally envelopes everyone you encounter, dissolving any illusion of lack and disharmony and reinforcing the centrality of giving and receiving. All are seen, all are accepted and all are valued as being infinitely important, necessary and beautiful.

Human relationships mean giving little and getting back more else it's time to move on to greener pastures while real love means that giving and receiving are exalted as one and the same and are seen as the reason for living.

It's entrapment. Promises much, delivers junk. We choose this, we engineer this, we defend this. It's the ego's bill of rights. I will chase life liberty and the pursuit of happiness so help me god. I will try to become immortal and give holy god the proverbial finger. This is nothing but a second-rate am-dram and can never be more.

This is the peril of being caught up in dreamland. You are only doing this to yourself. You are the only one who suffers now and going forward. Yes you should protect your assets but if you didn't protect them good enough that's your fault so bite the bullet and move on. Forgive all incursions by others since you are the one who precipitated them. From this approach, the worst thing that happens is the best lesson that liberates. You are here to finish the dream not complicate it. The dream is rubbish. I don't think you understand that there is a much better reality in the wings and that is your true nature and only happiness.

Beautiful. Don't get too riled up by it though. They are doing nothing and harming no one. They are evil parts of me gone astray and needing of a loving touch and smiling gaze. My presence is the only solution there is. Good luck and thanks for the reminder.

To deal with judgments or negativity toward others, you should start by recognizing that these feelings arise from within you, and are less to do with that person and their behaviour. Hate signifies inner turmoil and unhealed wounds. You need to understand this and then detach from the idea that your peace depends on anyone else’s actions. When you no longer rely on others for validation or satisfaction, you will then reclaim your power and free yourself to respond with clarity and calm. Hate is a signal and not a solution. It points to a story or grievance you are holding onto about the other person. Instead of focusing on their actions, ask yourself can you temporarily drop the story in order to feel peace and bring peace. Remember, everyone you meet acts from their own pain and conditioning. Shifting from judgment to compassion can soften your outlook, helping you see them through a lens of greater clarity. Healthy boundaries are very important too - step away if needed, but do so out of love, not avoidance or blame. When you are free of resentment, you free yourself to experience the peace that has been within you all along.

Illusion points to fact that there is something more real than that. Here is drifting fog in the wind but it veils what is behind it, the unchanging reality. Just like in dream at night, when you wake up you say no matter how real the dream seemed that was an illusion compared to what is the reality now. Likewise now is an illusion compared to what one sees when inner vision replaces outward sight if you will. How to do this is called spiritual work.

This whole panorama sits on my pupils each and every moment rather than extends out into space and time. All the sights, sounds, tastes, smells, and touches are me creating what the world is. The world isn’t separate from me - it’s a canvas painted by my perception, reflecting the vastness of my mind projected outward. Reality, then, was never “out there” but was always within, an ever-shifting interplay of senses and thoughts.

Words profit much. They got us stuck. Yet without them, we don't get unstuck. Blissful ignorance would be the only life. Everyone knew god then everyone forgot god. Someone has to speak else life is in vain. Thoughts shape reality and words share reality. Keep sharing the wealth with us.

I say solipsism is god being infinitely creative making a blockbuster and opting to make itself the only real character. Why? This is how to experience as much variety and artistry as possible. Everything else and everyone else is but an illusion for my own purposes. Everything acts according to their script except me. My mission is to make myself king of the world and have the best time possible. After all, nobody else matters so I will do what I please. Perhaps I also look after my family, my friends, and my fellow countrymen since if I want a decent life, this is likely necessary. Solipsism is how people live. I am the most important person alive and I will take down anyone who stands in my way. You are not as real as me so no big deal. I am a spoiled entitled unregulated mini army patrolling my turf saying don't you mess with this one or else. No ego can escape this mindset and life is lived blissfully unconscious. To break free is first to see this and then begin the work. Absolute solipsism is an improvement on the above but still not the full truth.

I exist as I exist now as an ego because I as god imagined myself into a finite existence.

I would say that god became ego and then alas ego became god. I will rule planet earth with an iron grip or if not that then just eat drink and fornicate myself into blissfulness. Ego contrives to be god but does so in the material world instead of dropping into its true nature in the spiritual world. I just want the best life ever and when I'm dead I'm dead, right? We got god very wrong. But god is fine with that since it gets to live the dream over and over as the pun goes. The kingdom of god is within. Yet hardly anyone explains the meaning of this. One day awakening will occur since everything here is finite.