gettoefl

whether a person cheated or not is academic rather are your needs being insufficiently met that you need to look for comfort and affection elsewhere if that IS the case then you should walk away, they need more than you are providing cheating should be discussed on entering a relationship / marriage ... is it a divorceable offence or should therapy be contemplated cheating is a an emotional word, better to inquire what specific rule was broken and what consequences were agreed upon and proceed accordingly

time is change no time no change have you any spare change? sands of time ever expiring

my question is, does god speak in any other way? just a rhetorical question

gettoefl is not god god is gettoefl and tons besides

agree ... how many conversation like this do they have in the home per week ... or maybe per year would be more accurate i lasted 5 minutes with this ... i didn't hear one question not one restatement of what the other said not one summary of what the actual problem is maybe i am too caveman ... speak one or two maybe three sentences then check back in with me that i understand and i promise to do the same

look for opportunities to write about what you're reading, maybe journaling, social media entries or partaking in online discussions about the topics to understand something is to summarize it simply to another as you write you sometimes find you don't understand ... in which case formulate a question ... asking a question means you understand a lot

hi there ali welcome to the site, here is one of your countrymen who hangs out here https://www.actualized.org/forum/profile/22298-mesopotamian/ wishing you the best with everything

thanks for your powerful and penetrating insights in this thread, very much appreciated reading all this it's not that narcissists fear being honest with themselves they in fact live in a parallel reality where a different version of truth resides they genuinely have convinced themselves and believe they are the good guys in the whole narrative they concoct what president trump use to label "alternative facts" whereby "there are good people on both sides of this dispute" we are the good guys, they claim, yes we support white supremacists and law breakers but we are still decent at root, just trust me

favouritism is, i like you if you're like me if ego runs the show, this won't change

you cannot change the world ... can you understand this deeply? the world is either for you or against you all depending on your perspective the world cannot change how it behaves towards you even people who seemingly love you ... this is not in fact the case, they are doing what they need to do for their advancement absolutely nothing here is personal when one understands all this deeply how should one behave? how do you walk that tightrope between not being active while at the same time not being passive: you are welcoming of each moment and thrilled to be here you are willing though ever unhurried to do whatever is required you are wholly available and deeply receptive to whatever is arising you are massively thankful for the astonishing gift of life you remain unmoved by the world's troubles and treasures but moved by god's quiet prompting all is triggers or teachers, your choice

with meditation, have to take all choice out of the equation, set it in stone as a non negotiable that doesn't budge no matter what you do not meditate, existence does the whole thing, your role is you show up and last the time by hook or by crook then forget about it til next time it is a bit like sleep, don't compromise don't deviate don't backslide, get your butt on the mat there isn't anything as important

people seek value not integrity most won't even know what integrity looks like and if they do they see little value in it if they think about integrity at all they might say when our goals have been achieved then we can focus on integrity but now we have to do what we have to do integrity takes enormous maturity edit: integrity is almost religious! who has time for such esoteric stuff!

adding on to your saying i am that during walking out and about, today as i walked i took to saying mentally "hello beautiful" to everything i encountered whether person tree insect flower animal grass ... it's powerful ... if timed right it allows for a deep communion with that object ... especially before people arrive up close, they take on a divine ethereal quality with that affirmation

how people go about their day to day life isn't your business even if you happen to be in the firing line of it get out of dodge why you letting another make you a monster if they did you the kind favor of showing you there is a monster inside you i say thank them and get to work on your trauma / demons

how perfect is my breath this moment, soft or loud doesn't matter, don't force just watch, and contemplate that god is deliberately keeping me alive this very moment, i can't do a thing about it except be glad to be here

take a daily nap or two, even mid-morning, nothing is more energizing, you become more productive not less

yes nicely explained thanks and i do in fact agree, to see the chooser is the only freedom and when he is seen then for the first time free will emerges ... in other words god can finally do stuff

all the finger pointing is just to suggest that there isn't actually any choice in what we do and thus how should one circumnavigate this if your beliefs are different and satisfactory to you then of course that is perfect too

desire is, give me what's not fear is, don't give me what is love is, give me what is it's all perfect, don't meddle just marvel

mind is but a simple machine for god to inspect itself we're (self identifying as) god's eye-glasses and science helps make a little sense of these great sights the world may not enjoy you but god certainly does

being authentic is not listening to others not being swayed by others not relying on others supportive energy to persevere few are willing truth is hard, popularity, another word for inauthenticity, is for the masses a litmus test is do i need another to motivate myself, or is my motivation intrinsic

anger is, i need you to change since i am unwilling to envy is, what you have is what i want jealousy is, what you are is what i should be

yes the ego wants to be the star of the show and relish all the acclaim and approval and affirmation ... i am doing good after all right?